spoolinmp3 said:
She eventually cheated on me and I felt so hurt. I thought to myself how could she do this to me after all I did? There were more issues regarding our breakup that are not in the scpe of this conversation, but what I am trying to say is do not give things up that you love. If she loves you she will understand and let you do this. I dont mean not to pay attention to her anymore and just do what you want but you also need your time as well. And try getting her involved in the whole subcultu re of imports. But never....NEVER let a women take away your passions or let her manipulate you into not enjoying your pleasures. Because life is to short not to enjoy it.
About her cheating, I feel for you, man.
you are so right, though. You should never let anyone get in the way of what you want to do or
being the person that you are. And you know what else? A person who respected you would not want to deny you the freedom to be yourself. Period.
I wasted too many years on guys who didn't let me hang with my car buddies because
they were insecure, or
they were cheating. They wouldn't even let me go out with my sister or go see my parents!!! yes, I have been in that BAD of a relationship. And you know something--
you never see it sneaking up on you! One minute you're thinking "Awww, he must care about me a lot becasue he doesn't want me to go to the car show by myself." The next, he is telling you that you have to stay home when you get home from work and that you cannot go out after dark--all the while, he was going out with other girls after dark.... Don't go there! Don't get trapped in an endless cycle of mistrust, deception, and manipulation. Cuz once you do, most people mistake it for "love". BAH! I wasted FIVE years on the aforementioned jerk. For what? NOTHING! I was in total denial and didn't have the sense to see it coming. But now I can smell a manipulative jerk a mile away.
uhhh, sorry for the rant, but you are way too young to be wasting time. And the saying "there's more fish in the sea" is so f*cking cliche, but it's the damn truth. As easy as it was to get used to this one, it will be just so with others. If i had been a dumbass and "tried to work it out" with the last controlling bastard that beat me, I would have never found Greg(who is the best guy in the whole world).
**** the psyco-ass people in this world. I don't need em. Don't feel sorry for em either. Recognize them, brush them off, and
move on.
Wow, I just totally got back into that rant. But I stress this because I hate to see people in mental anguish when it doesn't haev to be that way. KNOW that you are worth having a wonderful, perfect mate. They are out there. Her insecurity is not your problem. It could take her years to get over it. Ask yourself if you have the time to deal with it. No? I think you've already discovered that you don't. That's okay. It's okay to be selfish. Your life is about you. Do with it what you want.
Okay, okay. that's enough.