OK, got a real wire with spades on. Same effect, they are always on regardless. Got to thinking on the way home that with modification, the relay might work the way we want it to. The trick is figuring out what post on the relay does what. there are 2 posts that run Fore/Aft at the forward part, and 2 that run left/right on the rear part. The forward left/right post is obviously the one that the relay feeds power to to turn on the fogs. (We can call this post 4) The other 3 posts all have to feed power into the relay in order for it to flip power to post 4 and turn on the fogs. SO, it would seem to me that if the post that gets its signal from the master headlight switch (thus, only providing power to the relay when the headlight knob is fully in the on position) and then remove the post, and replace it with a wire or post that connects it to, say the foglight switch post, we would retain the turn off with the highbeams on feature, and the power to the fogs would be determined solely by the position of the fog switch. MEaning, they would immediatly turn off when you pulled the key, be turned on when the switch is moved to the on position, and still turn off when the highs are triggered. I COULD go out in the blinkin snow and play move a wire around while dicking with the light controls, but if someone already knows what post does what (and someone has to, if they figured out you can splice a wire from a hot point to that #4 hole and get the fogs to come on independantly), I would be willing to go get a spare relay and play frankenstien.
Alternatively, simply by running a wire from the fog switch hole to the fog power hole (#4 again...) you would get the same effect, but loose the off with the highbeams on feature. Ideas? Thoughts? Wiring diagrams?
EDIT: Sorry about the rambling and poor grammar/spelling. Just got home from work, and im tired, cold, cranky, and sober.