It's almost gotta be something with the combo of that off the shelf AP map and OP's level of mods. Maybe, just maybe, a good independent shop will diagnose just how bad the situation is.
OP: don't try to start the car. Get to a shop where they can give you a good heads up on what is actually messed up. If a rod is bent, chances are very good that one cylinder is severely scored and might have to be sleeved and bored. Why did the rod bend, if that is the problem? Did you drop a valve into the cylinder or introduce something into the intake that the pistion could not compress when it came up on stroke? You could have damage to the head on that cylinder. It could be a lot of things, some of which might be fixable short of replacing the engine.
When you get going again, consider immediately flashing your ECU back to stock and stay away from any tune that cannot be verified as safe by people who know WTF they are doing. Either stay stock, go Hypertech, or get a custom AP tune by a reputable tuner. There are too many off the shelf map or self tuned AP zoom, zoom, booms out there. Just one opinion.
Edit: What Grimmspeed product are you running and how do you have it configured? It is the manual controller or the electronic boost solenoid? If the latter, you gotta be very careful on how you plumb the damn thing. A CUSTOM TUNE is required if you try to run that sucker in 3 port mode.