A Tough Decision: Cousins Bachelor Party Vs.s GF's Homecoming

[carter1551]

So a big problem has arised. I have to choose between my cousins bachelor party of my girls homecoming. Theyve both been sprung on me last minute so I cant really say I made a commitment to one before the other. If my cousin hadnt asked me to be in the wedding as a groomsman I may not have a problem missing it but it makes me think its that much more important to him that I be there. My girlfriend is a senior and this will be her last and only homecoming that I might go to with her and shes already told me that she will be very hurt if I dont go with her. Ive been put in a bad spot and I basically have to hurt someones feelings. What do I do???

 

[daonly1around]

So a big problem has arised. I have to choose between my cousins bachelor party of my girls homecoming. Theyve both been sprung on me last minute so I cant really say I made a commitment to one before the other. If my cousin hadnt asked me to be in the wedding as a groomsman I may not have a problem missing it but it makes me think its that much more important to him that I be there. My girlfriend is a senior and this will be her last and only homecoming that I might go to with her and shes already told me that she will be very hurt if I dont go with her. Ive been put in a bad spot and I basically have to hurt someones feelings. What do I do???

unless your GF is part of homecoming i dont know why that would be a big deal, i mean this is a family member getting married and you are going to be in the wedding. UNless you and your GF are on rocky terms i would say something like lets make the next weekend "our own homecoming" might cheer her up, but honestly homecoming shouldn't be a bid deal. just make sure you make it for her graduation.

 

[kura808]

is it possible to go to both? i mean u can show up and say hi to ur cousin and chill for a bit and tell him about ur gf's homecoming(he'll understand cause hes probably been in that situation) then u can go to ur gf's homecoming xD dont want to get anymore girl problems right xP

i dont think not going to any at all will be a choice..so cross that one out..hehe

 

[Killer]

are you nuts? Bach party.

 

[ForceFed]

How much do you like your GF?
Been dating long?
Plan on still dating?
Might want to think about these things..but yeah...Bach. Partay!

 

[probin94]

if its homecoming shouldnt be that big of a deal. i would think that she would be worried more about her prom night.

 

[ForceFed]

if its homecoming shouldnt be that big of a deal. i would think that she would be worried more about her prom night.

good call.

 

[brealmp3]

shouldn't the bach party be later in the evening? all the ones i have been to take place in the later hours. so i would say swing by homecoming then cut out a little early for the party.

 

[Smooth1]

I'd say bach party. As someone said before it's family AND he asked you to be in the wedding. This is a very important day in his life and your thinking of your girlfriends homecoming? If she can't understand the importance of being there for family what other family events will she have you skip in the future for her? She wanted you do it once and she'll want you to do it again....especially if you cave this time.

Just my opinion.

 

[Donas64]

I'd say bach party. As someone said before it's family AND he asked you to be in the wedding. This is a very important day in his life and your thinking of your girlfriends homecoming? If she can't understand the importance of being there for family what other family events will she have you skip in the future for her? She wanted you do it once and she'll want you to do it again....especially if you cave this time.

Just my opinion.

So true. Family comes first until you're married. Then she's family.

 

[Witchdoktor]

one of the responsibilities of being a groomsman is attending the bachelor party.

true story

 

[chriscecc914]

i went to my first bachelor party this weekend. you will def. not regret it. Especially if its open bar with strippers!

 

[jersey_emt]

Bachelor party. It's your cousin. Family comes first.

 

[DeadGeneration]

bachelor party.

You still have Prom to go to with her.

 

[genericuser]

I was at a bachelor party yesterday.. We played paintball and then had a bbq.. Good times.

With that said, homecoming is pretty lame anyway. You won't remember it 5 years from now. I graduated high school in '01 and hell if I can remember anything I went to in high school. The bachelor party on the other hand has more potential.

 

[girth]

This is a rediculous question. Bachelor party without a doubt.

 

[Foolish]

He will be your cousin forever. She's a high school girl. Odds are against you spending the rest of your life with her, and really, even if you do, is this the sort of precedent you'd want to set for your relationship?

Go to the bachelor party. Tell her you've got no plans for prom night, though!

 

[carter1551]

well i just remembered i promised her a while back id do this with her, so right now im in the process of working it out so we go late to her homecoming so that i can spend some time with my cousin

 

[Mr. 4500 RPM]

IF she really cared she would understand. My philosophy on this is that its family family comes first. Reverse the question, ask her what she would do in your position shell probably say family.

My vote is to buy her a tissue box and go to the party!

 

[probin94]

buy her a tissue box...hell he's gonna need one himself if theres gonna be strippers...(rofl2)

james