Just want to add that when I started experiencing transmission problems in June, I immediately blamed the old fluids. It was after the first D/F that I found the shifting pattern reset steps on Youtube. That's when I realized that there was a software aspect of the problem, fluid being hardware. (The other street cars I own are manual so there was less to blame). My problem could have been mainly software, old oem fluids apparently is safe to keep.
Before the transmission started acting weird, I had an electrical problem in May, the car would stall out randomly while driving at low speeds. It would start back up and run ok enough for me to limp home. One of the fault codes was about a ECM/PCM relay. I started throwing darts in the dark by cleaning the terminals, changing the battery, and replacing a ROOM fuse. I wasn't able to identify which relay was responsible. I got lucky that the codes and symptoms went away at that point. It doesn't make sense.
Didn't think about the connection until now.