Rant about the ex

[Drake13]

She's banging someone else, probably someone you know.

DAMN! you can't give this guy some respect.. i dought the last thing he wants going through his mind is the love of his life is ******* another man.. nice way to support our fellow forum members.. I might stress my opinion.. but i feel for this dude. Let his own mind make assumptions like that i doubt he needs our thoughts on that as well..

 

[AKYellow]

DAMN! you can't give this guy some respect.. i dought the last thing he wants going through his mind is the love of his life is ******* another man.. nice way to support our fellow forum members.. I might stress my opinion.. but i feel for this dude. Let his own mind make assumptions like that i doubt he needs our thoughts on that as well..

If he didnt want our thoughts he wouldn't have posted about this.....and if hes been in this forum for awhile now, just like most threads in this forum, they always get off track alittle. But they always come back.

RUSH FTW(first)

 

[Dr.Sound]

bah! it takes two to tango.
if she doesnt love you as much as you love her FORGET IT! not worth it.
life goes on man! just look at your avatar, smile with a dirty though in your head, and move on

 

[Dr.Sound]

This is some of THE most incorrect nonsense I've ever read.

First major correction -- WOMEN are not attracted to 'bad boys'. GIRLS are. How many level-headed, confident, grown women do you see dating 'bad boys'? Very, very few. What the hell does a truly mature woman need with some asshat who's going to behave like that? Your example about 'turning the music down' is great -- in that it's a wonderful instance of what a woman will NOT put up with. It's ridiculous.

Grow up.

Eventually, you get to a point where you realize that real relationships aren't games. It's not about who flipped the script around on who, who outsmarted who, who's the one with bigger balls, and all that stupid horseshit. It's about handling yourselves like ADULTS. You show each other respect, speak to each other honestly and openly, and if there's a problem or if somebody's upset -- you sit down and discuss is rationally and willing to compromise.

Then you won't have to worry about OMG, who's gonna call first and OMG, I'm gonna be the bigger thug and ignore the phone calls and OMGOMGOMG.

Thank God I don't do that crap anymore. Though really, I never did it in the first place. It's stupid, a waste of time, and results in nothing but misunderstandings and even more frustrations.

s*** Rush....this is exactly what i told the girl i'm dating now.....
no games, no deceit, no BS......just respect and trust....love will follow.

 

[StealthWyvern]

Here is my take on relationships.

Don't let the girl/guy walk all over you, but don't be a jackass about it either. Do for youself and each other. Don't make the other person wait on you hand and foot. Communication and common interest are a big must in any relationship.

 

[Killer]

Drama Blows.

 

[Drake13]

Drama Blows.

I know right.. but who can hide from it?

 

[Killer]

I know right.. but who can hide from it?

Thank goodness I have none in my life. Kinda nice.

 

[Drake13]

Thank goodness I have none in my life. Kinda nice.

Its kinda of wierd.. I know a couple of people and thats there day to day events of nothing but DRAMA! I mean come on how can you not see that s*** .. and keep it going. I think DRAMA is based of your maturaty..

 

[Thug541]

"Lose one, let go to get one. Left one, lose some to win some" ...sorry i had to quote Jay-Z on this. some good pointers on this thread guys and much props for that. i'm actually on the same boat as you right now mp3moose... going through some rough s*** with the gf who i was with for 2 years right now. some shady stuff that's been happening and it makes me crazy dealing wit it. i don't want to go through details for this aint my thread. jus to sum it all up, she told me she don't know what she really wants and doesn't know if she wanted to be with me(while waiting for the right one, have fun with the wrong one)that was harsh...sad part too is that it was easier for her to let go coz she's talking to someone else right now, in which she admitted when she was about to get caught by me. We were just ok 4/5 days ago. I would admitt that i was hurt, i mean, who wouldn't? If you have faith, "HE" wouldn't take something good away from you without replacing it with a better one! "HE" referring to GOD. just my .02 guys.

Kinda the s*** i went thru 2 months ago. I had a thread about it. People on the forum gave me great advice. We are still together....but lets say they were right about some things....and lets say she has a lot of making up to do still haha.

 

[Drake13]

Kinda the s*** i went thru 2 months ago. I had a thread about it. People on the forum gave me great advice. We are still together....but lets say they were right about some things....and lets say she has a lot of making up to do still haha.

Well dude i can tell you now.. if you still hold that guilt on her for whatever she did.. things are never going to get better... but worse down the line. Best fess up and be the bigger man and let whatever in the past go(if she was sorry) and move on and don't expect nothing back from it.

 

[Thug541]

Well dude i can tell you now.. if you still hold that guilt on her for whatever she did.. things are never going to get better... but worse down the line. Best fess up and be the bigger man and let whatever in the past go(if she was sorry) and move on and don't expect nothing back from it.

Oh no, I did forgive her....but doesn't mean she still doesn't have to work a little harder to build the trust back. We are in a LDR and so before the whole break we had, it wasn't a big deal if she didn't call me before she went to bed....but now, if she doesn't call me I get worried, so I call her. I shouldn't have to make a bigger effort on that part if shes serious about building trust again.

 

[Rush]

Kinda the s*** i went thru 2 months ago. I had a thread about it. People on the forum gave me great advice. We are still together....but lets say they were right about some things....and lets say she has a lot of making up to do still haha.

!!!!!

I remember that thread! I posted in it, didn't I? I think? .. What happened, what happened, what happened?!

(If it's too personal, then just ignore me, LOL.)

 

[Drake13]

Oh no, I did forgive her....but doesn't mean she still doesn't have to work a little harder to build the trust back. We are in a LDR and so before the whole break we had, it wasn't a big deal if she didn't call me before she went to bed....but now, if she doesn't call me I get worried, so I call her. I shouldn't have to make a bigger effort on that part if shes serious about building trust again.

I'm kinda in the same boat. Me and my ex broke up almost 2 weeks ago. At first it was like we were doomed to never get back together.. then i tried to move on (got a couple of numbers) but now we are starting to talk again like we did before. I know I can get her back if I keep it up, but in the back of my mind the "reason" we broke up i feel isn't going to be fixed and all the pain and suffering will come back. She broke up with me and when it comes down to it... I feel she should be trying a little harder on her part. I know if I just let stuff ride and stop all contact to her.. we wouldn't get back together. So in a since.. i'm wasting my damn time (pissed)

 

[Killer]

Its kinda of wierd.. I know a couple of people and thats there day to day events of nothing but DRAMA! I mean come on how can you not see that s*** .. and keep it going. I think DRAMA is based of your maturaty..

well I am in my forties and have been married ten years. That might have something to do with it.

 

[Drake13]

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[justanotheradikt]

feel for you guys... girl problems here also....


oh yea..rush FTW!

 

[redrims]

This is some of THE most incorrect nonsense I've ever read.

First major correction -- WOMEN are not attracted to 'bad boys'. GIRLS are. How many level-headed, confident, grown women do you see dating 'bad boys'? Very, very few. What the hell does a truly mature woman need with some asshat who's going to behave like that? Your example about 'turning the music down' is great -- in that it's a wonderful instance of what a woman will NOT put up with. It's ridiculous.

Grow up.

Eventually, you get to a point where you realize that real relationships aren't games. It's not about who flipped the script around on who, who outsmarted who, who's the one with bigger balls, and all that stupid horseshit. It's about handling yourselves like ADULTS. You show each other respect, speak to each other honestly and openly, and if there's a problem or if somebody's upset -- you sit down and discuss is rationally and willing to compromise.

Then you won't have to worry about OMG, who's gonna call first and OMG, I'm gonna be the bigger thug and ignore the phone calls and OMGOMGOMG.

Thank God I don't do that crap anymore. Though really, I never did it in the first place. It's stupid, a waste of time, and results in nothing but misunderstandings and even more frustrations.

Rush, if every female were more logical and honest like you, we wouldn't have these threads. Unfortunately, a lot of women under 30 aren't. A bad boy doesn't necessarily mean a thug who's in and out of jail and rides a bike. A bad boy can mean a guy who is completely confident within himself and doesn't take crap from women or anyone. He'll call you out when you become rude or step out of line. Not cursing you out, but put you back in order if need be.

I understand where Drake is coming from. Its not so much playing games like you interpret. It's more about taking control of yourself, setting boundaries, and being a man, not a door mat. Every guy would want nothing more than a completely honest women who they can spoil, love, be honest to, and communicate with both ways. Not every female like bad boys, but all women do lose respect for a man that they can completely walk all over.

Mp3moose, I too feel your pain. It's something everyone goes through. Both men and women. You just have to learn from the bad, take all that was good, and move on. Go hang out with your boys. If you're not strong enough to forget about her yet, get rid of everything that reminds you off her. Go out, mingle, and start dating other women. Keep yourself busy!! DON'T call/email/text her. DON'T pick up the phone if she calls. She had her chance to talk to you and lost it. That's her loss and you're worth more than that.

 

[Drake13]

Rush, if every female were more logical and honest like you, we wouldn't have these threads. Unfortunately, a lot of women under 30 aren't. A bad boy doesn't necessarily mean a thug who's in and out of jail and rides a bike. A bad boy can mean a guy who is completely confident within himself and doesn't take crap from women or anyone. He'll call you out when you become rude or step out of line. Not cursing you out, but put you back in order if need be.

I understand where Drake is coming from. Its not so much playing games like you interpret. It's more about taking control of yourself, setting boundaries, and being a man, not a door mat. Every guy would want nothing more than a completely honest women who they can spoil, love, be honest to, and communicate with both ways. Not every female like bad boys, but all women do lose respect for a man that they can completely walk all over.

Mp3moose, I too feel your pain. It's something everyone goes through. Both men and women. You just have to learn from the bad, take all that was good, and move on. Go hang out with your boys. If you're not strong enough to forget about her yet, get rid of everything that reminds you off her. Go out, mingle, and start dating other women. Keep yourself busy!! DON'T call/email/text her. DON'T pick up the phone if she calls. She had her chance to talk to you and lost it. That's her loss and you're worth more than that.

(mswerd) Nicely put! Only few men know what i'm talking about and few women understand what I was saying. But then again this is all in writing and can be easly read wrong and interperated wrong as well. There is absolutely nothing wrong with loving a women and giving in and just straight spoilng her... but when the line is drawn and she feels she can walk all over you.. Its the "bad boy" attitude that sets it right and if you don't know what I'm talking about perhaps you should watch more James Bond movies to get a "small" hint. LOL its even worded nicely in the movie "What women want"

 

[Dimitrios]

Find a bridge; get over it.