Using the torque wrench to loosen the drain plugs?...may be OK, but I'd rather not. I don't know where one would get a torque wrench recalibrated, and I really don't want to damage mine.
The 'sludge' he finds on the drain plug magnet is bits of steel and iron, and a small amount is normal. On a crankcase magnetic drain plug the ferrous bits are too fine to be caught by the oil filter media but still abrasive.
He fills the gear box to the overflow point. I'll only fill mine the specified quantity, about what he drained out. We don't know why the fill hole is where it is, maybe to be accessible to a wrench, maybe to miss stiffeners on the housing casting. Sometimes more is not better.
If you're removing the plastic rivets that hold plastic pieces in place, if they aren't easy to get out, you're not doing it right. With a small screwdriver pop the center part half way out, then remove the whole rivet. If the center comes all the way out, OK, but not necessary. To replace, with the center halfway into the outer part, put the rivet all the way in place, then lock it by popping the center in flush.
Take a drive before changing the gear oil. It'll drain more completely when it is warm. Slightly warm the new oil, put it in the sun, or in winter in a pan of hot tap water so it'll flow more easily. By the way, the viscosity grades for motor oil and gear oil are on a different scale. SAE 40 vg (wt.) engine oil and SAE 90 vg. gear oil are about the same actual viscosity, ditto for 30 vg engine oil and 75 vg gear oil. Any viscosity grade 75 vg & above identifies the product as gear oil.
Is it still Lefty-Loosey south of the equator?
Does the Mrs. know where her green salad bowl is?
I don't think my Mrs. would get under a car if I was already there having a heart attack.
Oil drain plug magnetic removal tool (after first loosening), under $10, (won't work on a nonmagnetic stainless plug with a magnet pressed in to catch the wear bits):
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