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yeeesh, i dont remember that our open bar was that much...damn...
lol 90% of seans wedding cost will be alchohol...
lol 90% of seans wedding cost will be alchohol...
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Nevaeh said:
I said "open bar... for the guests!" Which was a suggestion and in no way (IMHO, which matters since I wrote it) said that its a requirement for me to attend a wedding. Its always nice to have an open bar... Does it mean I wouldnt go to a friend's wedding? Maybe if I hated them, but then they wouldnt be my friend and I would have no right being there in the first place...
and it wasnt necessarilly a "complaint" but Ive been to more than a few weddings where Ive been there for 2 1/2 hrs for the ceremony because it was planned improperly - people were late, priest didnt show up on time, things not setup on time, etc. etc. and after 2 1/2 hrs, there ceremony lasted maybe 20 minutes...
Ive also been involved with wedding ceremonies that were a half hour long, and had 10 minute ceremonies. NO ONE including the bride and groom want to sit in anticipation while waiting. I sat with my brother behind the altar for a good half hour before everyone was ready to start. It wasnt cause of the bride or groom either... its nerve racking for the couple and it can be potentially boring for your guests (not that it should matter). Its a lose/lose for both guests and couple in this instance.
now all things considered, I think you are reading too much into what I said. But Im sorry if you had a problem understanding where I was coming from
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definitely...we would have had to have our wedding at McDonalds if it was coming out of our pocket lol
Nevaeh said:
Watch out for the limo's too... it was $400 per bottle of champaigne in the limos we had for my brothers wedding... 1200 bill for 3 bottles... one of which only had 2 half glasses (bride/groom limo).
yeah, that was an interesting bill to watch my sister-in-law receive...
(and the champaigne was in no way worth $400)
yeah, that was an interesting bill to watch my sister-in-law receive...
(and the champaigne was in no way worth $400)
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B1GHAM said:
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evilmonkeyMSP said:
Two and a haif quarter cheesies and a Mr. Coke!!!
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seanmcsean said:
B1GHAM said:
You just can't make blanket statements. That's the difficulty with the internet though. Too many people misconsture another's intent.
I'm just a little sensitive to the wedding issue since I went through one and would do it again in a heartbeat. Maybe my wedding was an exception to the rule but there were very little problems we had, no bridezilla action (except the night before) and even the day of the wedding I was cool as a cucumber. 
As for open bar.... you just wait until you're on the receiving end of that bill.
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(werd) our room kicked ass
Nevaeh said:See? That's another expense to avoid if you have it all at a resort. ceremony and reception all in one place. Honeymoon suite is comped.
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Nevaeh said:Jacuzzi tub FTW!!!!
The discussion about your honeymoon suite will end right here after this comment. I speak for everyone when I say we don't want to know any further details.
Nevaeh said:You just can't make blanket statements. That's the difficulty with the internet though. Too many people misconsture another's intent.
As for open bar.... you just wait until you're on the receiving end of that bill.
lol... theres a lot of reasons Im dreading a wedding... none of which have to do with anything the bride could do (besides not show up
)After watching my brother plan and stress out over the wedding, then get the bills for all of the stress, I dont think Im looking foward to it.
The wedding went well though, so all things considered - it was awesome. Its just funny how much stress one day can cause.
The reception total for my brother's was like 20-25k... Im not sure how much of that was open bar...
As someone who bartends wedding on the side, let me give some advice:
-Most weddings I do are "Beer, wine and champagne" with the occasional margaritas. That's a good mix of stuff to keep everyone happy. Its free for them (open bar) so anyone can find their favorite drink, a free one
-Hard alcohol at a wedding in my experience results in a drunk grandparent, at least one drunk parent and definitely a trashed wedding party. Trust me, nobody will remember if you didn't have their favorite hard liquor but they'll definitely remember a puking, falling over, screaming, obnoxious asshole.
-If you have a flask, don't tell the bartender or be discreet. My insurance requires confiscation/control of all liquor on the premises, as does my contract with the bridal party and often times the actual facility.
-If there is particular guest who has a drinking problem, don't be a afraid to let me know, it'll make all our lives easier. I'm discreet and I'll make sure no problems arise.
-With beer, 2-3 types is all you need. As I said before, people will drink whatever is free, I'd suggest one light beer and either a regular or a dark. Get two kegs and call it a day.
-Don't forget Non-alcoholic sparking cider or etc for non-drinking guests and kid's for the toast
-If you do hard liquor, get vodka, tequilla, whiskey and rum. Scotch is optional unless of course you prefer it. Don't forget mixers or make sure the bartender supplies them. If you want garnishes make sure they're sourced properly.
With that said, my own wedding is coming in 6 weeks, June 9. From working weddings I got a discount on almost every vendor or service. We're lucking out and coming in way under budget as a result.
-When you look at cake companies, always make sure delivery is included. I've seen cake disasters from people who think picking the cake up is no big deal.
-Listen to your coordinator if you have one, they do probably 4 weddings a week, they know what's up.
-If you're looking at DJs, I strongly getting a prior reccomendation from another bride and groom or better yet, stopping by another wedding, mid-reception to check them out. Don't automatically take the facility's preferred DJ. A good DJ will find out what songs you want to hear and more importantly what songs you DON'T want to hear. A good DJ will also keep guests informed and should have a timeline of events they've discussed with you.
-Make sure your wedding party knows what is expected of them concerning dealing with family members, getting guests involved in dancing, watching out for a vengeful ex-girlfriend who shows up mid-reception, etc.
-Have a designated person to pick up any alcohol, extra food, your own decorations or clothes and etc from the place at the end of the night and have a contact person who will able to return later in the week to pick up anything else left behind.
Well this has turned really long-winded. If you have questions about anything specific, please let me know, I've done about 100 weddings this past year! I see a lot from the bar and of course I talk to all the other vendors.
-Most weddings I do are "Beer, wine and champagne" with the occasional margaritas. That's a good mix of stuff to keep everyone happy. Its free for them (open bar) so anyone can find their favorite drink, a free one
-Hard alcohol at a wedding in my experience results in a drunk grandparent, at least one drunk parent and definitely a trashed wedding party. Trust me, nobody will remember if you didn't have their favorite hard liquor but they'll definitely remember a puking, falling over, screaming, obnoxious asshole.
-If you have a flask, don't tell the bartender or be discreet. My insurance requires confiscation/control of all liquor on the premises, as does my contract with the bridal party and often times the actual facility.
-If there is particular guest who has a drinking problem, don't be a afraid to let me know, it'll make all our lives easier. I'm discreet and I'll make sure no problems arise.
-With beer, 2-3 types is all you need. As I said before, people will drink whatever is free, I'd suggest one light beer and either a regular or a dark. Get two kegs and call it a day.
-Don't forget Non-alcoholic sparking cider or etc for non-drinking guests and kid's for the toast
-If you do hard liquor, get vodka, tequilla, whiskey and rum. Scotch is optional unless of course you prefer it. Don't forget mixers or make sure the bartender supplies them. If you want garnishes make sure they're sourced properly.
With that said, my own wedding is coming in 6 weeks, June 9. From working weddings I got a discount on almost every vendor or service. We're lucking out and coming in way under budget as a result.
-When you look at cake companies, always make sure delivery is included. I've seen cake disasters from people who think picking the cake up is no big deal.
-Listen to your coordinator if you have one, they do probably 4 weddings a week, they know what's up.
-If you're looking at DJs, I strongly getting a prior reccomendation from another bride and groom or better yet, stopping by another wedding, mid-reception to check them out. Don't automatically take the facility's preferred DJ. A good DJ will find out what songs you want to hear and more importantly what songs you DON'T want to hear. A good DJ will also keep guests informed and should have a timeline of events they've discussed with you.
-Make sure your wedding party knows what is expected of them concerning dealing with family members, getting guests involved in dancing, watching out for a vengeful ex-girlfriend who shows up mid-reception, etc.
-Have a designated person to pick up any alcohol, extra food, your own decorations or clothes and etc from the place at the end of the night and have a contact person who will able to return later in the week to pick up anything else left behind.
Well this has turned really long-winded. If you have questions about anything specific, please let me know, I've done about 100 weddings this past year! I see a lot from the bar and of course I talk to all the other vendors.
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seanmcsean said:
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good stuff brokenman
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