I didn't know how to drive a stick when I bought my P5. I just knew I wanted the car & had to have it. I saw it sitting in a car lot & it was calling my name. After looking at it, I went home & researched the crap out of it. I dreamt about it. I knew it was mine & dragged the family men down to look at it the next day. They all gave it a once over & okayed it...So I bought it.
Now, I had a car I couldn't even drive. Everyone else enjoyed it & I just enjoyed riding in it. My Hubby (who was my BF at the time) was extremely patient and taught me how to drive it. I wasn't really comfortable with it though, so he wouldn't let me drive my van so I HAD to drive it if I wanted to go somewhere.
I knew I wanted a stick. I knew I wanted this car. I knew I was going to learn even if no one showed me. I did and I LOVE driving it. I wouldn't trade it for anything. I was always thinking about shifting but it soon became second nature like they told me it would. I don't even think about it, I just drive. I also have a 5-speed Mustang, an automatic Mustang, & an automatic van. I enjoy driving the 5-speed so much more. I guess it's one of those things that either you enjoy it or you don't.
I got a short shifter installed a couple of months ago and love it. It has shortened my throws. It seems to make it a lot easier, in my opinion. The long throws were a pain.
As for the traffic & the hills. It can be a pain, you just learn to deal with it. When I first started driving the stick, we had a lot of construction going on on 75 & the traffic was a pain. A lot of stop & go. I managed to learn to deal with it & I don't even think about it anymore. My Hubby helped me on the hills at first. He would do the "e-brake thing" for me until I got used to holding it. I can now sit on a hill & not roll back when the light changes. It's just something you learn from doing it.
With the stick, you can use the torque to your advantage. It's a torque-y little car, especially in first gear. It may not be the fastest or most powerful, but I have learned how to use it to my advantage. It's all in knowing you car...How it works...And what it can do for you.
Yes, it's expensive to mod which is why I haven't gone crazy. I don't go race it, so it's not on my high list of priorities to do mad "modding." I enjoy driving it & one day I will get up the guts to auto cross it, but until then I like it the way it is. I have done a few mods to benefit me without going overboard.
You are doing the best thing you can do for yourself...Research. Research everything you possibly can before you buy it. You will be a lot happier. I researched this car as much as I could before I bought it. After I bought it, I signed up here & learned so much more about it. And not matter what they tell you...There are so many helpful, knowledgeable people on these forms with a wealth of information.
Sorry if my post is a little random...But I hope to have helped answer some of your questions or give you some insight about the little wagons we love.