Rant about the ex
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maybe he is looking through his pictures now.... trying to find the best ones for us
Well dude.. let me give you a little player advise. Seeing from what you have wrote you really didn't have a good friend to vent to. Let me start out by your mistakes ( just take the pain ).
First: When you guys broke up, you tried TOO HARD.. The harder you tried to find out the truth/work things out. You just pushed her away. Why? Because you came accross as desprate. She left you.. you did you best. Instead of "stalking her" you should of acted like you didn't care (which is hard trust me). Instead of e-mailing ect.. you should have left her alone because then she would be wonder... damn how come he hasn't called me or tried to get in touch or something? And then her mind starts thinking and BAM! RING RING RING..
Its a hard concept to believe dude.. but the more you understand how women are the better. Women's thinking are way WAY different then mens. Its hard to swallow.. bare with me.
Second: It takes a couple of key parts to make a relationship work.
Communication
Communication
and Trust
Sounds like to me she never really opened up to you and vented her problems else where or worse.. held them in.
Thrid: Not trying to come at you wrong.. but you became a WUSS. You let her walk all over you.. You became this "NICE GUY" during the time of your relationship. Sounds like you let her get her way.. did EVERYTHING to please her when in fact it was really hurting your relationship. Women like guys who are cock and funny. They like it when you bash on them and arn't afraid to call them out. They like a little bit of serious and humor put together.
Example.. You see a female who looks good who is carrying one of those somewhat big purses.. you say " hey nice purse" She would be caught off gaurd and be like "thanks." then say " wow what the hell are you caring in there a second pair of cloths and your entire makeup collection?" with a little smirk. She will be so caught off gaurd by your remark she will either laugh and walk away. The ones that walk away just mean they might be having "one of those days" or are a b****. Example of not letting her get her way : You are driving down the road and your favorite rock song comes on and you turn it up.. she says " please babe.. its load" and turns it down.. You look at her and turn it up ever loader then what it was before. It might seem like it would cause problems but in the end she will respect you more because you arn't letting her get her way. Feel me?
I'll stop here.. I believe I've said enough but let me tell you first off dude.. i feel your pain. It just so happens that my life has taken a similar turn as well. My girl broke up with me last week and did the same.. lame ass explination. It hurts dude.. I did what you did the first 3 days.. tried to figure it out and ask her. But luckly I have some friends/brother who pointed out what a wuss i was becoming and realized what I had to do.... move on. If she wants you dude she would come to you.. I gave it my all just as you did but you can only lead the house to water.. you can't make it drink it. I've stopped talking to her since sunday and above all other things she called me last night at 11:15 (knowing i was asleep).
"CHEERS"!!
First: When you guys broke up, you tried TOO HARD.. The harder you tried to find out the truth/work things out. You just pushed her away. Why? Because you came accross as desprate. She left you.. you did you best. Instead of "stalking her" you should of acted like you didn't care (which is hard trust me). Instead of e-mailing ect.. you should have left her alone because then she would be wonder... damn how come he hasn't called me or tried to get in touch or something? And then her mind starts thinking and BAM! RING RING RING..
Its a hard concept to believe dude.. but the more you understand how women are the better. Women's thinking are way WAY different then mens. Its hard to swallow.. bare with me.
Second: It takes a couple of key parts to make a relationship work.
Communication
Communication
and Trust
Sounds like to me she never really opened up to you and vented her problems else where or worse.. held them in.
Thrid: Not trying to come at you wrong.. but you became a WUSS. You let her walk all over you.. You became this "NICE GUY" during the time of your relationship. Sounds like you let her get her way.. did EVERYTHING to please her when in fact it was really hurting your relationship. Women like guys who are cock and funny. They like it when you bash on them and arn't afraid to call them out. They like a little bit of serious and humor put together.
Example.. You see a female who looks good who is carrying one of those somewhat big purses.. you say " hey nice purse" She would be caught off gaurd and be like "thanks." then say " wow what the hell are you caring in there a second pair of cloths and your entire makeup collection?" with a little smirk. She will be so caught off gaurd by your remark she will either laugh and walk away. The ones that walk away just mean they might be having "one of those days" or are a b****. Example of not letting her get her way : You are driving down the road and your favorite rock song comes on and you turn it up.. she says " please babe.. its load" and turns it down.. You look at her and turn it up ever loader then what it was before. It might seem like it would cause problems but in the end she will respect you more because you arn't letting her get her way. Feel me?
I'll stop here.. I believe I've said enough but let me tell you first off dude.. i feel your pain. It just so happens that my life has taken a similar turn as well. My girl broke up with me last week and did the same.. lame ass explination. It hurts dude.. I did what you did the first 3 days.. tried to figure it out and ask her. But luckly I have some friends/brother who pointed out what a wuss i was becoming and realized what I had to do.... move on. If she wants you dude she would come to you.. I gave it my all just as you did but you can only lead the house to water.. you can't make it drink it. I've stopped talking to her since sunday and above all other things she called me last night at 11:15 (knowing i was asleep).
"CHEERS"!!
yashart_mp3
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Drake13 said:
I dont agree with this 100%. This isn't always true. I lost my last girlfriend that way... Your right, by not calling, they start thinking "how come he hasn't called me or tried to get in touch or something? And then they start to think that you dont care anymore and that you dont love them, yada yada yada... been there, done that. By acting like you dont care, you can let her slip right through your hands.... Acting like you need her and are desperate, could be smothering her and confirm her reasoning for needed to take a break. Dealing with girls and their emotions can be very complicating. There is no real or right way to do it. Just do what feels right.
Drake13 said:
THIS IS 100% TRUE!!!!!! Communication is everything. Everything stems from communication (or a lack of). If you cant talk to each other, and open up, then it was doomed anyway.
Drake13 said:
Once again, not every girl is this way. Any by no means was he being a WUSS! The guy was in love! Being in love makes you a wuss? Then I guess me and most other guys are wuss's. He's hurt. He's in pain. Having your heart broken doesnt make you a wuss.
Isn't it a guys job to treat a girl like a princess? Make her happy and treat her like a girl should be treated? Maybe I am crazy. It goes both ways. Its about giving and taking, making sacrafices, and working together, not being a tough cocky guy. I am not the cocky and funny kind of guy. I am sincere and genuinely nice, and I treat a woman with respect. Just because he did the same does not make him less of a man...
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Dude that really sucks! Especially after finding out she was putting up a front. As some people have said, the best thing is to try and move on.
Oh, and drock240@hotmail.com if you send out the pics.
Oh, and drock240@hotmail.com if you send out the pics.
Well I do agree with some stuff..
Yes girls do deal with stuff differently.. but i didn't say you had to COMPLETELY ignore them. I guess it really depends on the situation.. just remember SHE broke up with you.
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Being in love is one thing.. being a complete wuss is another. For the sake of argument the actions displayed lead to WUSS. Its a fact women are more attacted to the bad boy guys then the NICE GUY'S. So by keeping it freash throughout the relationship with cocky & funny and still maintaining your nice guy personality you can't go wrong.
In this case it looks like our guy was doing more of a 70/30 part and the communication was gone long ago. Its a sad part of life and the you know what.. my relationship just ended because of the same problem.. communication. Ehh life goes on..
yashart_mp3 said:
Yes girls do deal with stuff differently.. but i didn't say you had to COMPLETELY ignore them. I guess it really depends on the situation.. just remember SHE broke up with you.
yashart_mp3 said:
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yashart_mp3 said:
Being in love is one thing.. being a complete wuss is another. For the sake of argument the actions displayed lead to WUSS. Its a fact women are more attacted to the bad boy guys then the NICE GUY'S. So by keeping it freash throughout the relationship with cocky & funny and still maintaining your nice guy personality you can't go wrong.
yashart_mp3 said:
In this case it looks like our guy was doing more of a 70/30 part and the communication was gone long ago. Its a sad part of life and the you know what.. my relationship just ended because of the same problem.. communication. Ehh life goes on..
Women.
Bad thing is, you're in debt....hopefully soon to be out of it.
Good thing is you got rid of a psycho gf.
There's plenty good...no great....no there's ONE perfect girl for you out there...you just gotta quit sulking a go find her.
-Dr. Phil
Bad thing is, you're in debt....hopefully soon to be out of it.
Good thing is you got rid of a psycho gf.
There's plenty good...no great....no there's ONE perfect girl for you out there...you just gotta quit sulking a go find her.
-Dr. Phil
Here's my 2 cents:
You are better off without someone like this in your life. Calling her parents was a mistake IMO. Naturally, they are going to side with the daughter over you no matter what the circumstances. There is a fine line between wanting to know what happened and stalking. Bottom line is that some people are just heartless and do not have the character to end things the right way. There is nothing that you can do to compel her to tell you anything so save yourself the aggravation and move on. When you really love someone and it ends this way, that can be hard, but its the only way it can be.
You are better off without someone like this in your life. Calling her parents was a mistake IMO. Naturally, they are going to side with the daughter over you no matter what the circumstances. There is a fine line between wanting to know what happened and stalking. Bottom line is that some people are just heartless and do not have the character to end things the right way. There is nothing that you can do to compel her to tell you anything so save yourself the aggravation and move on. When you really love someone and it ends this way, that can be hard, but its the only way it can be.
Sorry to hear about the relationship. Sometimes these things are for the best. At least you weren't married yet and then you'd really be effin' pissed at her. Make sure to sign those prenup papers if you ever decide to get married. Some of these women today you just can't trust 'em as far as you can throw 'em. Good luck dude.
I don't know. Maybe the reason is she just can't love you like you do/did her. I know a lot of people (I'm one of them) that are afraid of growing old alone. Because of this they will try long and hard to hold on to relationships that in the back of their minds they know will never go anywhere.
I don't know the whole story here, and your right I probably don't want to. But I wouldn't go off on her just because she didn't give you a reason. There really might not be a reason that in your eyes is good enough. Hell I broke off a 1yr relationship with girl that was beautiful, great mind, even better job (had 10+ yrs at state farm) and made great money, but she had to much hair on her back. She was hispanic and they tend to have more or darker hair then white girls. There is just no way I could have ever told her that. So when I broke it off I came up with some sorry excuse for not wanting to be with her. She called it BS, but if I told her the truth it would have killed her.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is don't push it. You might not want to know the real reason why she left you. If her leaving hurt, just think how bad it would hurt if she left and told you it was because your member was to small or something like that. lol
I don't know the whole story here, and your right I probably don't want to. But I wouldn't go off on her just because she didn't give you a reason. There really might not be a reason that in your eyes is good enough. Hell I broke off a 1yr relationship with girl that was beautiful, great mind, even better job (had 10+ yrs at state farm) and made great money, but she had to much hair on her back. She was hispanic and they tend to have more or darker hair then white girls. There is just no way I could have ever told her that. So when I broke it off I came up with some sorry excuse for not wanting to be with her. She called it BS, but if I told her the truth it would have killed her.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is don't push it. You might not want to know the real reason why she left you. If her leaving hurt, just think how bad it would hurt if she left and told you it was because your member was to small or something like that. lol
