I am heartbroken

[cjstringer]

Personal recommendation:
Guy's don't get married until your late 20s. We're not ready for it. We have this need/want/desire/lust to play (You may think you don't but you do) Truthfully, we are immature. (Damn, did I just say that?)
Women need to be older than 23ish. They get the chance to have the party time and figure out exactly what it is they want.
I know a bunch of people that got married before the girl/lady was 21, and it usually is a miserable co-existance. (Gross generalization) They get bored with what they have and want to find something new, but are stuck. Bad situation.
I can see where she is coming from, because it happened to me with the girl I was with. She turned 21 and we were done. I didn't give her room to enjoy life. We're still friends, and I can see now how much she's grown, but we're not at all alike anymore.
JMO, take it as you will.

(No intent to burn anyone, and all statements are gross generalizations.)

 

[Syzygy]

Commonalities and differences between lovers (or lovers of a particular automobile) are part of all of our lives. I've found this thread to be interesting and informative.

I suggest we have a place (besides "off topic", which really is a catch-all) for sharing pics of GF's, discussing with our "board friends" subjects that are meaningful to us, yet are aside from these wonderful cars we have in common. I don't know about you folks, but I spend more time on these forums than I do with my current SO.

Hey, Antoine, how about a "Personal Trials and Tribulations" forum?

Best of luck to Lamb and Derrick.

 

[adragonfly]

LOL... "pics of GF'S?!!!" what about BF"S? You forget that there are girls in here too! Guess you guys aren't interested in seeing pics of our men whereas most girls are okay with looking at pics of your girlfriends. Hmmm... Maybe we should just post pics of ourselves instead so that we all know who we're talking to in here... What do you think?

 

[jdm_mp5]

lol...maybe because (im assuming) that there are more guys who are on this forum then girls...i may be wrong...but yeah, i wouldnt wanna see a picture of someones bf heheh no offense though. It's cuz im a guy...and yeah, i don't like guys. It's that simple. In regards to posting pics of ourselves. That would be a great idea!!!

 

[Syzygy]

<snip>...guess you guys aren't interested in seeing pics of our men...<snip>

You are so right, adragonfly; I'm not.

Honestly, though, I didn't intend to be sexist. Posting pics of ourselves? Hmmm. Seems to fit right into the "Personal Trials and Tribulations" forum...

 

[adragonfly]

Oh, I didn't think you were being sexist... you just forgot that's all! i just thought it was funny cause i don't have a girlfirend to post a picture of.... but if I did, you guys would probably be VERY interested! LOL...

 

[LambOfSilence]

Update after 1 year

Just want to update on this subject:

It's been one year since my ex-girlfriend left me. I have found myself fell in love with another girl. And my ex just got married last Sunday. I was not invited, maybe the groom minded.

I hope it is all for the best, I know she probably won't come to this site, but from the bottom of my heart, I want wish them the best. Cherish what you have and have a great marriage!! (yippy)

p.s. I still love my yellow p5, it may have collected a few more chips over the last year, but I still wash it every 2 weeks, wax it every month.

 

[1sty]

Well I am glad your happy, reading back on this I have to say :wtf: just :wtf:
But good for you.

 

[EXA4DRIVER]

Dude, come hang out in Hollywood for a weekend and I guarantee you will forget about her. For some reason the top 1% of the gene pool hangs out in L.A.

 

[Captain KRM P5]

welcome back to the board, seems like you have been gone a while.

I recently broke up with my ex of four years over a very bitter and divisive issue. Emotionally I would say it was the single most traumitizing and trying time of my life. Even after seven months, the pain lingers, sometimes keeps me up at night, and sometimes begs me to return to her. Rationally, I know that now is not the time, and it may never ever be the time.

I know I had reasons for the break up (I initiated it) but that doesn't ease the pain nor fill the hole that for years was full of love and purpose. I've found the courage to date others, meet others and even become serious with one of them. It doesn't erase or belittle any memory of her, but it helps to know that moving on is indeed possible.

Less than a year and she's gotten married?! Wow, moves rather quickly. Take comfort in knowing that you weren't ready for that commitment and sacrifice the time you wanted for somebody else. Everyone needs to do things on thier own time.

Good luck!

 

[Bijou-MP5]

If you love something...
set it free...
if it comes back to you
It's yours
if not
It never was... (bowdown)

 

[mp3moose]

sucks man......*hug*...I've been there

 

[90210brandon]

If you love something...
set it free...
if it comes back to you
It's yours
if not
It never was... (bowdown)

Glad everything has/is work'in its way out. You need to figure out who is #1 in your life: It's you! I had a similar situation happen to me 6 months ago and things now are starting to get better. I'm doing what I want to do and I am making myself happy. Have a license plate on my P5 to remind of that. Remember: It's your time: YUR TYM. Good luck and have fun.

 

[1sty]

I refuse to enter into a religious union when nor me or the girl is religious in any way. Its a steaming pile of BULL s*** from the beginning and I want nothing to do with it.

THis is life not a fairy tail. WOMEN NEED TO GROW THE HELL UP AND FACE REALITY:

Marrage is a primative form of ownership and partial slavery.

In most recent socieites it is a religious bond and NOT BREAKABLE. THe constant devorces along with non religious people marring for no other reason then they think its cute and common is a complete insult to those that take there religion seriously.

Diamonds are not tradition, they were not a common gift until the 20th century. You want tradition then I will have to give your dad 100 acres and a donkey in echange for your hand in marrage.

In this world there is a far stronger bond between a couple and marrage is simply a peice of paper and another tax. **** IT!

OK I'm done.

 

[Bijou-MP5]

that reminds me conversation from sitcom "Friends"
Rachel said to Russ "How do you expect me to grow, if you don't let me blow?"

 

[prote5]

???

:wtf: Don't mean to be a dick or anything but why would you post stuff like that on this kind of message board??? This isn't loveline, this is a car enthusiast (P5) forum and that kind of stuff, I believe, should be kept to yourself, or talked about with someone you REALLY know, not people over the internet... just my opinion....

 

[zumi]

Re: ???

:wtf: Don't mean to be a dick or anything but why would you post stuff like that on this kind of message board??? This isn't loveline, this is a car enthusiast (P5) forum and that kind of stuff, I believe, should be kept to yourself, or talked about with someone you REALLY know, not people over the internet... just my opinion....

I have no problem with it, just maybe the thread needs to be moved to off-topic section

I think sometimes it's helpful to get the opinions of complete strangers...sometimes that's where the best advice comes from...some truly unbiased voices.

 

[Volley2six]

Honestly...we are car enthusiasts, but we are PEOPLE first. Sometimes people need a hand, advice, or just someone to listen. I never really pay attention to where things are on the board anyways. I mostly check out the most recent links. Nobody is holding a gun to your head saying you have to read this even though it's not car related. Geez...be human for five seconds. I know it's your opinoin, and you're entitled to it, but this is how I feel.

LambOfSilence - Keep your head up man. I don't have any wordly advice, except for that...

 

[MugenSilverSiR]

Lamb, hang in there buddy. Life is to short, enjoy it while u can. Do what you want and how you want. It's your life, don't let anyone try to dictate it. (mind you all this is in the realm of decency and respect to others) Some girl's going to walk by one day and catch your eye and she will be one for the books a keeper. Remember smile big and DRIVE HARD!

P.S. Don't let retarded posts upset you man.

 

[Cirielle]

Okay I read some of this crap on here, and let me tell you from a girls point of view.
First, if your chick is just leaving you over marriage - well then she won't there to begin with. Women love challenges and the majority of them like to change men into what they want.
Secondly, not all women plot out their lives with wanting marriage and babies. I speak from experience! I did not want to get married, but I fell in love with my husband and it progress towards that point. Not I went looking for the husband that could be cast in a production of married life!
Thirdly, not all women want kids. I have a kid now, yes and I wouldn't change it for the world. I love my little girl with all my heart! But when I first found out I was pregnant, I freaked! Big time - blood pressure went up to 150/110 - which is really really bad! My husband on the other hand couldn't get the s***-eating grin off of his face. He wanted marriage and kids before there was a me and him.
I never planned out my wedding before him. It was for the both of us and not just me or him. My idea for getting married was to take off some place for just the two of us and a few very few people (i.e. his parents, sister, and my best friend). His idea was big invite everyone to see him tie the knot. We went his way, not mine.
I never planned out prom. In fact, the only reason I went to my junior Prom was to hang out with my friends. I borrowed a dress from my friend and wore that. I did my make-up and hair and it was a really cool night, but nothing that would be so Earth shattering that it needed to be perfect. In fact, I turned down 3 guys and took my friend instead. I didn't want to take a guy that wanted to be all romantic and crap. I want a good-time have some fun platonic friend, plus he was my freshman lackey. I miss having Freshmen lackies! Oh the memories!
Anyways - to sum it up
Your chick left you for some other reason. Marriage or lack there of is not a viable reason for most chicks to give up. There is something she is not telling you or there is something that you are not telling us!