One interesting point that has been missed... the only thing slowing the car down is the friction between the tires and pavement. Your brakes are more than powerful enough to "lockup" your wheels to the point that ABS can activate...
So if you are trying to get "maximum stoppage" then it shouldn't matter whether you are just using your brakes or also using the engine compression... now for normal slowing down obviously you can use either -- I've done both but I've also had older cars that were already past their prime so I don't know about whether I was messing up a new engine! ;-)
Now about heel and toe / double clutching -- because of the synchros, for most street cars you really don't have to double clutch unless you are at the limit. The major reason you double clutch is to avoid wheel hop. Ever watch a NASCAR race at Watkins Glen? Every race someone will screw up a downshift at the end of the front straight-away, get wheel hop and spin like a mad dog after his tail. I do it, but mostly because it looks and sounds cool...
If you are unsure of what it is, here is a text description of the way that you are supposed to double shift. Apply the brakes by putting the ball of your right foot on the brake, push in the clutch with the left, put the car in neutral, let out the clutch, "roll" the blade of your right foot onto the gas while still pushing on the brake AND keeping brake pressure the same, give the gas a "blip" to however many RPM's you'll need to rev match, then push the clutch in, downshift, clutch out, and repeat as needed, or get off the brake for your turn in...
I used to try and actually use my heel and my toe, but it doesn't work too well... ;-)
Hope this is somewhat understandable and mildly useful...