Relationship Advice
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SCRewDriveR
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I have to agree that laracroft is giving you some very good advice
about women in general and how they treat guys. What has always
worked for me in trying to make relationship decisions is to listen
to the right music over and over until my head clears. 90% of songs
are about love/relationships anyway.
about women in general and how they treat guys. What has always
worked for me in trying to make relationship decisions is to listen
to the right music over and over until my head clears. 90% of songs
are about love/relationships anyway.
GHOSTWHISPER
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This is a prime example of you cant trust a b****. Simple as that, next relationship dont put so much effort into it, just go with it and dont be pushy, I have been with the same girl for like almost 4 years, and we are cool as hell because I know if she leaves me or whatever I know it wasent meant to be, and I have to accept it. Just be laid back and dont be the one to be giving everything all the time if the girl isnt doing the same. Dont get into to titles, cause they suck , if she's quick to go for a"RIDE", then hey youll get some play but I highly suggest to stay away from a relationship with that girl.
Be a man slut for awhile, dont have to bang the girls just go out a lot, its a confidence builder, just work your way up the ladder.
One thing I can say is Confidence is key, confidence is key in everything in life. And if you really like this girl now , wait till she starts to see you with other girls, and then she will think she is missing out, trust me it works.
Be a man slut for awhile, dont have to bang the girls just go out a lot, its a confidence builder, just work your way up the ladder.
One thing I can say is Confidence is key, confidence is key in everything in life. And if you really like this girl now , wait till she starts to see you with other girls, and then she will think she is missing out, trust me it works.
Jealousy is not the feeling you want her to have just to get the relationship back. I'm not trying to get all philisophical or romantic here, but love like he is describing cannot be had by playing games with people. All the girls he could possibly hangout with while he is single have feelings too and you can't just use them to make yourself feel better even if it doesn't involve physicality. I don't know what the right answer is to his problem, but I know in my heart what the wrong answers are for me.GHOSTWHISPER said:
i dont want to hurt her, despite the fact she has hurt me. and there is no point in trying to make her jealous if she just doesnt want me anymore. and like XelderX said i cant just play with other girls emotions either, im not the type to be a manho.believe me ive thought long and hard about what i should do but i just cant find the one that i feel comfortable with.
No offense but you shouldn't give a s*** about her anymore. I wouldn't be surprised if she's sleeping with this Adam guy. It's obvious that she isn't the right one for you. Why would you want a girl like that anyway? As hard as it may sound; just move on. You'll find someone a lot better and probably hotter. Trust me.
GHOSTWHISPER
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Thats what I am saying, i am not saying get back with the b**** after she is jealous, just dont do anything, find some other girls, and while she is in a crack infested brothul she will be punching herself in the head. And then deemed a sucess on your part.
MOVE THE **** ON ,if you get back together, you get back together. You already have wasted enough time worrying about her, send all praises to allah, and move the **** on.
thats my answer of the the day, "all praises to allah" (bow) (scratch)
MOVE THE **** ON ,if you get back together, you get back together. You already have wasted enough time worrying about her, send all praises to allah, and move the **** on.
thats my answer of the the day, "all praises to allah" (bow) (scratch)
Dont call her... let her call you. After about the 10th time she tries to contact you, she'll get the hint. No need to tell her "how you feel", she already KNOWS how you feel and thats why she is taking advantage of it.. . She didnt explain things to you so you shouldn't have to explain yourself to her either. If or when she calls after not reaching you for a while, simply say "I need some time alone and I need to move on.. sorry." And leave it at that. DONT go on and on about how she hurt you or how you thought she was the one... she WONT understand or care (at least not care the way YOU do).
She WILL get jealous no matter what. It's just the fact that you won't be "hers" anymore, and it's not that she'll want you back, but it's because she knows YOU dont want HER back. And "how dare you" because she thought she was "special" to you. Don't let her give you a guilt trip or tell you that you've hurt her too, because all she is looking for is attention and wanting you to still be waiting in the wings. You can be friends at another point in life once you get over her. But being around her right now or letting her think that she has your full attention is what she wants. Don't let her have it and don't give in. Don't stare for hours at the phone hoping that she'll call or wishing that she'd take you back. Don't drive by her house to see if her car is there. Don't ask her friends how she is or what she's up to. You don't need her and you can find someone else. It may not be right away, but still, waiting for something better is still better than waiting for her. So, right now, what you need are friends and ummm, beer helps too. lol
Remember, you did nothing wrong and she just wasn't the one for you (sounds cliche' I know, but it's true... dont give up hope that something better is out there). It will hurt for a while, but if you can get your mind off of it and not be alone, then it will help. The best and easiest way to get over someone is with someone else. Not saying to be a manwhore, cause you will never gain a respectable girl that way and you will make the others run from you, but there is nothing wrong with going out and meeting new people. One more thing... chicks probably dig the car.. make it work for you. lol
She WILL get jealous no matter what. It's just the fact that you won't be "hers" anymore, and it's not that she'll want you back, but it's because she knows YOU dont want HER back. And "how dare you" because she thought she was "special" to you. Don't let her give you a guilt trip or tell you that you've hurt her too, because all she is looking for is attention and wanting you to still be waiting in the wings. You can be friends at another point in life once you get over her. But being around her right now or letting her think that she has your full attention is what she wants. Don't let her have it and don't give in. Don't stare for hours at the phone hoping that she'll call or wishing that she'd take you back. Don't drive by her house to see if her car is there. Don't ask her friends how she is or what she's up to. You don't need her and you can find someone else. It may not be right away, but still, waiting for something better is still better than waiting for her. So, right now, what you need are friends and ummm, beer helps too. lol
Remember, you did nothing wrong and she just wasn't the one for you (sounds cliche' I know, but it's true... dont give up hope that something better is out there). It will hurt for a while, but if you can get your mind off of it and not be alone, then it will help. The best and easiest way to get over someone is with someone else. Not saying to be a manwhore, cause you will never gain a respectable girl that way and you will make the others run from you, but there is nothing wrong with going out and meeting new people. One more thing... chicks probably dig the car.. make it work for you. lol
Lara you are now My new HERO! she called tonight and i didnt answer, so far im off to a good start, but it was hard. the thing i dont get is why she even calls? and about the beer helping, believe me ive gotten that taken care of (drinks) (friday) (drunk) then in the morning (coffee) then that night (thinkbeer) (cheers)
oh and no chicks really dig my car cuz its load and vibates too much, plus it just looks likean ES, and they laugh and think the 1st gen is a joke..hehe
oh and no chicks really dig my car cuz its load and vibates too much, plus it just looks likean ES, and they laugh and think the 1st gen is a joke..hehe
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Puckpimp71
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You're on the right track. It's pretty obvious that you feel strongly towards her, but she's on a different planet right now and really, do you want to be there for that? Things happen for a reason and I don't think she's quite good enough for you. First time I was in your postion it seemed like that one girl was worth it all. In retrospect, I'm glad all ties were cut because right now I'd be more miserable than when she was breaking up with. Just keep your mind off the situation.... study, cook, work on your car, get a part time job a DJ at a strip club, pick up Russian and become an Eastern European Hip-Hop Sensation... Whatever your pleasure. The forum's got your back.
Im gonna keep things as positive as possible.. thanx puckpimp. and thanx you all for being there for me, when i really couldnt ask anyone else to.. I love you guys and this forum your like family(im a lifer now!) and if anyone ever needs anything, i owe ya one. ill keep u guys posted and ill try and talk more because it is helping getting all this out of me. thanx
-Danny
P.S i am a Dj.. hehe for my college radio station
-Danny
P.S i am a Dj.. hehe for my college radio station
Lara was right on. Good to see you are feeling more control over yourself now and did the right thing by not talking to her, you don't need her wasting your time now, you deserve better treatment.
Good luck, we're here if you need anything.
Doug
Good luck, we're here if you need anything.
Doug
justlooksfast
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she called tonight and i didnt answer
she calls because she knows you will answer.. ignore her, she will go away and you will be happy... anything else you ever wanna know about chicks, i can help too, i am one.. and just my opinion, she was stupid, but she prob cheated on you too. but like i said. just my opinion.
she calls because she knows you will answer.. ignore her, she will go away and you will be happy... anything else you ever wanna know about chicks, i can help too, i am one.. and just my opinion, she was stupid, but she prob cheated on you too. but like i said. just my opinion.
My advice keep busy. Keeping busy will make you move on quicker and forget. Exercise, read, work on your car, go to the track, hang out with the guys a lot, stay away from people that you know with relationships at this point, only gonna make you think about it more. Just stay busy.
Ya she just called again today and i didnt answer, and she left a message saying "uhh.. hey danny just calling to she whats up" "click". i seriously dont think she is going to call anymore. cuz if i dont call she knows somethings up, and she'll get the clue, not that she really care anyways. thanx justlooksfast, but i am positive she didnt cheat on me, she wouldnt do that. thats probably why she broke up with me so she could see other ppl.
Glad to hear that you're doing good so far. Trust me, we all have been there. I've had alot of girlfriends that were flakey and I myself was kinda like that as a teen. You grow out of it after a while. Small consolation to you right now I know, but every day is another victory for you... just remember that. Every good person I ever met came along my path by chance. I didn't find them in a club or bar... just everyday kind of doing things. So don't be afriad to go up to anyone you're interested ... shoot from the hip. Don't be deterred just by this one girl.. there are others waiting for a person like you...they just haven't met you yet. 
man today it was hard. every time i would tell some interesting story around my friends somehow she would happen to be in it and i just kept thinking about her all day, i cant escape it. I hate this! love is like a kick in the nuts ..me-->(nuts) <--kim
Puckpimp71
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It's okay to talk about her... There was only a four day lapse between my current girlfriend of four years and my previous one and when I was around my friends I couldn't stop talking about my ex. I was over her, but so much in the preceeding year happened with her by my side that it was nearly impossible to leave her name out of it. It's even cool to think about her, but you CANNOT get hung up her. When that happens give yourself a wet willy and start doing push-ups, 'til the feeling's gone.
hey she has been emailing, calling, and texting me for like four days now. this is an email she sent me last night. what sould i do, should i respond, or not. because right now i feel likei shouldnt becuz i really dont owe her anything.
Hi Danny. Sorry it took me a few days to respond to your e-mail. My computer finally works again. Yippi! What have you been up to for the last couple of days? I've been trying to call you but you haven't answered your phone. I want to thank you again for the fruit and the money. I really appreciate it. My mom finally came up here today and gave me some cash, so maybe sometime this weekend I could treat you to lunch or dinner or something to pay you back. I read your e-mail. I understood everything you wrote. I love you sooooooooo much and your happiness means a great deal to me, but I don't think I can make you happy as anything more than a friend right now.*I need to figure out how to make myself happy before I can commit to making someone else happy.*I will always cherish the good times we had together and I hope to create new positive memories with you soon! It wouldn't surprise me if we ended up together in the long run, but I just don't need a relationship right now.*PLEASE CALL me or write me back or visit me soon and let me know what's going on with you. I'm getting a little worried! take care!
~Kimbo
Hi Danny. Sorry it took me a few days to respond to your e-mail. My computer finally works again. Yippi! What have you been up to for the last couple of days? I've been trying to call you but you haven't answered your phone. I want to thank you again for the fruit and the money. I really appreciate it. My mom finally came up here today and gave me some cash, so maybe sometime this weekend I could treat you to lunch or dinner or something to pay you back. I read your e-mail. I understood everything you wrote. I love you sooooooooo much and your happiness means a great deal to me, but I don't think I can make you happy as anything more than a friend right now.*I need to figure out how to make myself happy before I can commit to making someone else happy.*I will always cherish the good times we had together and I hope to create new positive memories with you soon! It wouldn't surprise me if we ended up together in the long run, but I just don't need a relationship right now.*PLEASE CALL me or write me back or visit me soon and let me know what's going on with you. I'm getting a little worried! take care!
~Kimbo
