I'm old now so I'm looking for a Tai Chi school in these parts.
I learned the hard way (two older brothers) then I studied "self defense" at a school in Chicago back before they called mixed martial arts by that name. The idea was to learn stuff that was simple, effective and easy to learn and retain. So the first thing we learned was how to fall and not break your neck. Then some basic throws, american style boxing, Bill Wallace style footwork and a whole bag of moves from different arts. The guy who ran the school's philosophy was, "I don't care if I saw a guy do it in the bar down the street. If it works and my students can use it, I'm going to teach it to them."
The key was that we practiced them until they were second nature, which is what really gives the martial arts practitioner an edge over the average bar bully anyway. The style isn't the critical part, it's that you practice something until you can do it without thinking. The only people who get all spun up about the best style are folks who walk around fantasizing about their lives being a martial arts movie and going up against some badass every other day. Find something you''ll stick with and practice it.