sanblaster
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I didn't know guys took those mirror pics. I thought that was a female thing.
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Oh, he thinks very highly of himself. He used to get on the scale at home religeously. He goes to the gym alot, but can never build up his chest. Plus he's only 5'5". He waddles like a duck when he walks as if to prove something. Ask anyone that's seen him at a car meet. They'll tell you.
FunkyCold5
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Lara, sorry for what happened. You are better off.
Nahh... just one skank. Who obviously has never really been impressed before. And certainly, she won't be too impressed with him later on either - I wasn't. (upbum) lol
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LOL no, that was Matthew, another old member...
haha.. I miss Mathew. He had some choice words for Ghost back when this happened the last time. (enguard)
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oh jebus people lol
LASERBLUE135
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hrrmm...I'm my opinion (just me), "emotional cheating" is a rediculous concept.
Is the guy a douche? yes, absolutely, but from the sounds of it your relationship was up and down the the rules were not firm. In today's world of statistically 22% of men cheat and 15% of women (probably more for both in reality) when the relationship is not going smoothly people are going to look at other options. I realize you are heartbroken, and I feel for you, but that's reality. If he cheated while still being intimate with you that's cheating 100%, but if he waited until this was a done deal, whether he just walked out the door or not, that isn't cheating.
anyhow, good luck with your future. I'm happy this guy is gone from you. You deserve better.
-male, 29, married 10 years
Is the guy a douche? yes, absolutely, but from the sounds of it your relationship was up and down the the rules were not firm. In today's world of statistically 22% of men cheat and 15% of women (probably more for both in reality) when the relationship is not going smoothly people are going to look at other options. I realize you are heartbroken, and I feel for you, but that's reality. If he cheated while still being intimate with you that's cheating 100%, but if he waited until this was a done deal, whether he just walked out the door or not, that isn't cheating.
anyhow, good luck with your future. I'm happy this guy is gone from you. You deserve better.
-male, 29, married 10 years
shane02pro5
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So your saying if your wife was having long private phone conversations and online with them for hours at a time it wouldn't be considered a cheating heart! That is just as bad in my opinion...
LOL! I've seen him at meets and it's true. (rlaugh)
TheDirtyGoatee
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Sorry to be a little late on this but here is my philosophy...
There is a huge difference between sleeping with someone and just talking to someone. However, it's cheating the moment that their heart is off of you and they are thinking of someone else. Even if it's just "I can't stand my wife anymore... I wonder if _ _ _ _ is available because this won't last." That's cheating.
This...
"I can't stand my wife... I wonder if _ _ _ _ wants to have a coffee."
But the moment your mind tells your heart you want someone else, it's cheating. Because let's face it, if you heart thinks it, and it becomes available before you've left, you're gonna take it to the physical level.
Was that too confusing?
There is a huge difference between sleeping with someone and just talking to someone. However, it's cheating the moment that their heart is off of you and they are thinking of someone else. Even if it's just "I can't stand my wife anymore... I wonder if _ _ _ _ is available because this won't last." That's cheating.
This...
"I can't stand my wife... I wonder if _ _ _ _ wants to have a coffee."
But the moment your mind tells your heart you want someone else, it's cheating. Because let's face it, if you heart thinks it, and it becomes available before you've left, you're gonna take it to the physical level.
Was that too confusing?
Just stumbled across this thread -- and Lara, I'm so sorry. But you definitely deserve worlds better, and this is DEFINITELY for the best, for you and for your son -- and those are the only people that matter in your situation.
My opinions on cheating are probably much more harsh than everyone else's -- but I got very, VERY badly burned in a past relationship and I made the personal decision to never be hurt like that again. Overall though, I believe that it is the intentions behind the actions that matter. I firmly believe that a couple can and should have friends of the opposite sex -- but please note that I said FRIENDS. If a spouse (or significant other) is speaking to a member of the opposite sex with distinct sexual undertones and an inclination towards sexual involvement, that's the first step down the road to cheating. It might not be physically cheating -- but it's just as bad and should not be overlooked or condoned. Period.
Being in a relationship is all about the ability to talk about things. If you can't talk and express yourself and come to an understanding, you're screwed. B and I just went through a semi-rocky period, but we discussed our feelings and what was causing them and are working through it. If either you or the person you're involved with can't -- or worse, won't -- do that, then walk away. Because the relationship is no longer worth it.
Let Ghost's little mistress have him. They deserve each other and sooner or later, they'll both get burned for it!
My opinions on cheating are probably much more harsh than everyone else's -- but I got very, VERY badly burned in a past relationship and I made the personal decision to never be hurt like that again. Overall though, I believe that it is the intentions behind the actions that matter. I firmly believe that a couple can and should have friends of the opposite sex -- but please note that I said FRIENDS. If a spouse (or significant other) is speaking to a member of the opposite sex with distinct sexual undertones and an inclination towards sexual involvement, that's the first step down the road to cheating. It might not be physically cheating -- but it's just as bad and should not be overlooked or condoned. Period.
Being in a relationship is all about the ability to talk about things. If you can't talk and express yourself and come to an understanding, you're screwed. B and I just went through a semi-rocky period, but we discussed our feelings and what was causing them and are working through it. If either you or the person you're involved with can't -- or worse, won't -- do that, then walk away. Because the relationship is no longer worth it.
Let Ghost's little mistress have him. They deserve each other and sooner or later, they'll both get burned for it!
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