Cheating Spouse

[Diehonda]

I think you'd feel that way until someone did that to you. I think in some cases, that can be worse than cheating physically.

Yes, because the other person should be grown enough to break things off before they started that bond with someone else.

 

[SpooledupRacing]

I think you'd feel that way until someone did that to you. I think in some cases, that can be worse than cheating physically.

Na I dont agree..

 

[SpooledupRacing]

Yes, because the other person should be grown enough to break things off before they started that bond with someone else.

not his kid no need for child support.

 

[mckraut]

Na I dont agree..

Which part?

 

[Diehonda]

not his kid no need for child support.

I think you quoted the wrong post but if it isn't his kid that count yourself lucky. You are not bound to him.

How long where you married?

 

[SpooledupRacing]

I think you quoted the wrong post but if it isn't his kid that count yourself lucky. You are not bound to him.

How long where you married?

I did yes sorry.. she should just be happy there is no ties and get the civorce final ASAP.

 

[SpooledupRacing]

Which part?

I'm a firm believer that if somone is/has fallen out of liove with you.. then it is ok to let them go so u can move on and be better..

a rough relationship is not the way to live.. Marriage is trying but it should not be a fight daily... if it is I would not feel bad if somone moved on.. before and after.. gotta do it somehow.

 

[mckraut]

I'm a firm believer that if somone is/has fallen out of liove with you.. then it is ok to let them go so u can move on and be better..

a rough relationship is not the way to live.. Marriage is trying but it should not be a fight daily... if it is I would not feel bad if somone moved on.. before and after.. gotta do it somehow.

Agreed, but you would feel bad if someone was planning a future with someone else behind your back and then suddenly said "Yeah, I'm moving in with so and so". You'd be hurt, whether it was the right thing for your spouse to do or not. It's about how you handle your business. There's a right way to handle something like that.

My last ex-girlfriend I was with for over 3 years. Over time, we grew apart and while she was still in love with me, I could not see a future with her at all. It hit me very suddenly during the fall of 2004 and I sat her down and explained that there was no one else, but I just couldn't lie to myself anymore. It wasn't doing me any good to pretend and it wasn't doing her any good when she could be looking for someone who could have a future with her. Sure, she hated me at the time, but it was best for both of us. Months later, we had dinner and she even admitted that it was the right thing to do.

Edit: My story made it sound like I woke up and was like "s***, I gotta get away from this woman!" What had happened is we were talking about getting married but only after certain things lined up, I got a solid job, she graduated school, she got a solid job, etc. Well, those things started falling into place and "tomorrow" was about to become "today" and I couldn't see a future with this woman. I wanted kids, she didn't. I wanted to live in the suburbs, she wanted to live in the city...the list goes on and on. I was content with the present, but once I figured out right now was going to become forever, things became really clear to me.

 

[laracroft]

I think you quoted the wrong post but if it isn't his kid that count yourself lucky. You are not bound to him.

How long where you married?

We were together 10 years. I'm just neusiated (spelling?) at the thought of him being with someone else this early. It was of course, I'm not WITH anyone geez. And he'd cynically laugh about it. But for him to be in a hotel room right after we were together a little while before that. Makes me ill. I've lost 9 pounds in the last week and a half. I'm trying to do my best for my son and I, but this is just sickening to me. No one gets on with life within a week and has someone else say "it feels so good when he holds me". Wtf. He just held me too b*** a week before that! Karma is a b***. I hope they both get it soon.

 

[SuperStretch18]

We were together 10 years. I'm just neusiated (spelling?) at the thought of him being with someone else this early. It was of course, I'm not WITH anyone geez. And he'd cynically laugh about it. But for him to be in a hotel room right after we were together a little while before that. Makes me ill. I've lost 9 pounds in the last week and a half. I'm trying to do my best for my son and I, but this is just sickening to me. No one gets on with life within a week and has someone else say "it feels so good when he holds me". Wtf. He just held me too b*** a week before that! Karma is a b***. I hope they both get it soon.

I'm a thin guy as is and I lost 20 lbs when I went through my drama. It's crazy how stress affects you!

 

[Diehonda]

I'd hate to say it but some state laws required support due to length of stay. He doesn't have to be the birth father.


Don't worry, karma does suck. They will get theirs.

 

[SpooledupRacing]

I hope I lose 20 lbs through this.

 

[SuperStretch18]

I hope I lose 20 lbs through this.

At least something good can come out of it, right? LOL. Yeah, I'm down to my high school weight of 185. And I'm a tall guy...

 

[twowings]

Get a lawyer, get some counseling, get on with your life and your children's lives...and smile, you've just been handed a 'Get Out Of Jail Free' card.

The pain won't ever completely heal but it will subside.

Life is too short to tolerate liars and cheats.

Good luck !

 

[ForceFed]

I just need some opinions here PLEASE. I won't go into the details, but here is my deal:

If you're significant other, specifically a spouse, was talking to someone on the phone, texting, meeting them places - before telling you he is moving out, and even though you had your share of ups and downs, did NOT see this coming, is this to be considered cheating if he alone had planned it in advance?

So if they move out and in ONE week they have someone else that they met just two weeks before leaving...(unbeknownst to you) and are now dating (all within a week) is this considered cheating on your spouse if you had just been together a week prior? Say having sex one day with you and then all of a sudden, he's gone and taking her to a hotel the next weekend and they proclaim they are a couple after that one weekend. Granted, it has happened several times before with other women saying he was trying to "get with them" too - each time taking place during the course of the marriage - again, regardless of what you were going through with the other person.

Is talking, seeing and devising a plan TO cheat while married and then doing it one week later considered cheating? And remember, this is a marriage, not casual dating or simple boyfriend. There was a family involved.

Wait...What?

Are you still married....TO Ghost?

I assume this is you we're talking about here right?
Wow..I had no idea...nor do I know how to reply.

 

[stevessvt]

I went through a divorce last year, and www.loveshack.org really helped me out. They can be a bit harsh sometimes, but once in a while its good to have an outside perspective.

 

[Reyan]

I really like reading everyone's post, it dosen't matter who we are or where we come from, everyone here has been in and out of relationships at some point and went through the same feelings, we can all advise moving on, this will be better in the long run and so on, but at this point in the feeling of being lied to, the taught of what went wrong and what should have make the relationship work and what's next keeps running through your mind.

Love really hurts, so why do we fall in love or think we do? Is love a short term or long term feeling? To me love is a verb not an adjective and it is shown in actions not words.

I hope in one of these posts the answer can be found to help heal the wound.

 

[laracroft]

Wait...What?

Are you still married....TO Ghost?

I assume this is you we're talking about here right?
Wow..I had no idea...nor do I know how to reply.

I know, I'm a glutten for punishment. But now it's over. And after all the times this has been done to me with him (different cars, different forums, different girls - you remember) I'm finally getting a divorce.

 

[evilmonkeyMSP]

I thought i remembered hearing about past issues with him. Sounds like you'll be better off...

I know, I'm a glutten for punishment. But now it's over. And after all the times this has been done to me with him (different cars, different forums, different girls - you remember) I'm finally getting a divorce.

 

[mx-p5]

I know, I'm a glutten for punishment.

Well, you do drive a MSP. lol

Sorry, gotta lighten the mood somewhat