there is a pro and con about analyzing things. you can either find out the cause or you dont. also if you over analyze your situation then a lot of "what ifs" come to mind and you dont necisarily want that to happen. cable i wish you luck with you and your family it isnt easy making the right choice or comming to that conclusion just do the best you can and remember it is the best you can and the best decision you came up with. never look back and regret because there is no way for you to have seen the outcome and to you it was the best choice at the time. i guess the main principle could be to find a hobby of some sort to distract yourself and keep busy. i guess it should be to distract your mind from the problems for moments at a time to find peace and happyness. for me its driving most of the time because that is what calms me down. i wish you best of luck with you and your family just dont stress over it too much because remember you do have a choice but you have no way of seeing the outcome so dont stress over it, make the right decision you feel is right at the time. yes think it over but dont let it consume you since it isnt the right thing to do. again best of luck for you and your family and i hope all goes well.