The wife factor

[spec2k5]

It is easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission.

 

[RacerXGirl]

It is easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission, unless the sofa is really, really, really uncomfortable.

*fixed

 

[Subsparx]

ROFL Racer.

 

[nextcar]

The wife and I pride ourselves in our communication and understanding of each other.

so like osmeone else said. alot of these theroys of approaches are untested and I cant advise on many of them.

A car is a big finacial obligation and should be discussed by both sides.

I think she makes the cash in the family from what I take from OP's posts

actually i make a lot more than she does, but that's not important. from my standpoint, once you're married, all the money goes into one pot, and it's OUR money. major purchases should be discussed together.

there have been many good comments here (and also some lame ones), and it's good to know that some ms3 owners are women on this forum. also, to clarify, cost is not a factor here because OUR income allows us to consider far more expensive cars, but we're rather frugal people, and honestly i think i had more fun driving the ms3 than the bmw 335. the bimmer is just so smooth and civilized. i want something a bit edgy.

finally, i haven't put too much effort into persuading her yet because i myself have some reservations:

1. is the ms3 easy to live with long term?
2. i want to wait for the september introduction of the audi a4 with the new 2.0 turbo. the new 2009 a4 looks like a mini R8 - it looks so good.
3. i am so frugal that it's hard to give up the 47 mpg i get with the prius, considering that i put in almost 20k mi/yr.

 

[Russm]

Take Her for a ride and hit 155, then she will know you are crazy and not mess with you any more!

 

[Subsparx]

Ouch on point 3. I can definitely understand you on that point. I went from an RX-7 to the MSP for fuel reasons (initially) as I was driving about 200 miles per day to work and back. That got me from about 18mpg to 30mpg. I can only imagine what it would be like going from 47mpg to mid 20's. Ouch. I don't have an MS3 myself, but as far as MS3 owners I've met, I've yet to find one who isn't happy with their purchase. As far as my MSP goes, I've had little issues here and there such as the cats breaking and such, but I'm more than happy with my purchase. As far as I know the MS3 doesn't have any of the major issues the MSP is plagued with. On top of that you'd have a warranty to cover it.

 

[Russm]

Honostly, I commut 110 a day and have a painting business in even wkend need some space, I had been driving a e150 van read 13MPG $700+ 3 months ago, for me I set a limit on cost buy telling my wife if I can find a vehical that can get me 30MPG so the car pmt and gas bill would be less than my riseing gas bills , that would be the car I would buy, it trutfully after researching all option that (22) the MS3 was the best choice.
I didn't tell her about the CAI and CBE I added to the note though, she will find out! I am getting combine city / hwy 29 and I come home happy from my commute everyday. She is pleased!

 

[Donas64]

actually i make a lot more than she does, but that's not important. from my standpoint, once you're married, all the money goes into one pot, and it's OUR money. major purchases should be discussed together.

there have been many good comments here (and also some lame ones), and it's good to know that some ms3 owners are women on this forum. also, to clarify, cost is not a factor here because OUR income allows us to consider far more expensive cars, but we're rather frugal people, and honestly i think i had more fun driving the ms3 than the bmw 335. the bimmer is just so smooth and civilized. i want something a bit edgy.

finally, i haven't put too much effort into persuading her yet because i myself have some reservations:

1. is the ms3 easy to live with long term?
2. i want to wait for the september introduction of the audi a4 with the new 2.0 turbo. the new 2009 a4 looks like a mini R8 - it looks so good.
3. i am so frugal that it's hard to give up the 47 mpg i get with the prius, considering that i put in almost 20k mi/yr.

I hope you and your wife get the MS3 and love it. The prius is phenomenal for gas mileage, but I'd be bored to tears driving one. P5 P5 is slow but still entertaining. I'm okay with that.

I need to take a looka at the new audi's. I'm a big fan.

 

[ghettoracingkid]

wow my mistake nextcar.

Well is there a chance of holding onto the prius for partime commuting and have the MS3 also?

then if the gas becomes an issue you can use the prius more and then have the ms3 as a slight tuner/sunday driver/commuter/fun to drive car.

i think tis time to splurg on yourself after a test drive of coarse

 

[Subsparx]

Same here. Calculating it out I was spending roughly the same for the car payment for the MSP and the lower gas. As gas prices rose I started adding little things here and there to free up the exhaust and such and increase gas mileage. As soon as the cats blew up though it became a modding frenzy. I'm happy though. Gas mileage is phenomenal now, around 34. Couldn't really ask for much better gas mileage for a car that performs as well as mine does right now. Once I put a fuel management in it will be even better.

 

[Knox Joe]

I still cannot believe you guys need permission to do what you want.

I'm sorry if I do not bow down to women. The days of the stay at home mom are gone, and I want them back. This is how nature intended it. Men work, provide for the family, they're the alpha. The women stay at home, cook, clean, take care of the children, and the house.

I do not do chores. I have not done laundry in years. I provide for my family, and what I say goes. That's how my wife wants it, that's how I want it.

Also, to adress the comment about lacking in "other" departments;

Yeah right, my wife basically begs me for it.

You all are in the "new" generation of thinking, and frankly, you people make me sick. Cell phone, MTV, me, me, me people. People are greedy and obsessed with belongings, otherwise there would be no need for both men and women to both work.

You say how I treat my wife is wrong, but she'd tell you differently. I provide a standard of living for her that she could not, keep her bills paid, keep food on the table, and give her pleasantries she'd otherwise not be able to afford.

The way it was in the beggining of this country, and the beginning of time for that matter, is the way it was supposed to be.

 

[GT-Mazdaspeed 6]

actually i make a lot more than she does, but that's not important. from my standpoint, once you're married, all the money goes into one pot, and it's OUR money......finally, i haven't put too much effort into persuading her yet because i myself have some reservations:

1. is the ms3 easy to live with long term?
2. i want to wait for the september introduction of the audi a4 with the new 2.0 turbo. the new 2009 a4 looks like a mini R8 - it looks so good.
3. i am so frugal that it's hard to give up the 47 mpg i get with the prius, considering that i put in almost 20k mi/yr.

Man, either you want a Speed or you don't. I think that the real question is how do you convince yourself to get a Speed (not your wife). If money isn't an option, then just keep the Prius and get the Speed too.

 

[EvilJen]

I still cannot believe you guys need permission to do what you want.

I'm sorry if I do not bow down to women. The days of the stay at home mom are gone, and I want them back. This is how nature intended it. Men work, provide for the family, they're the alpha. The women stay at home, cook, clean, take care of the children, and the house.

I do not do chores. I have not done laundry in years. I provide for my family, and what I say goes. That's how my wife wants it, that's how I want it.

Also, to adress the comment about lacking in "other" departments;

Yeah right, my wife basically begs me for it.

You all are in the "new" generation of thinking, and frankly, you people make me sick. Cell phone, MTV, me, me, me people. People are greedy and obsessed with belongings, otherwise there would be no need for both men and women to both work.

You say how I treat my wife is wrong, but she'd tell you differently. I provide a standard of living for her that she could not, keep her bills paid, keep food on the table, and give her pleasantries she'd otherwise not be able to afford.

The way it was in the beggining of this country, and the beginning of time for that matter, is the way it was supposed to be.

I have neither the time nor the energy to even begin to point out all the flaws in your thinking.

You do your thing and I'll do mine... which is contribute equally to my household and provide input and make mutual decisions with my husband.

 

[mckraut]

This is going to be very childish, but obviously I need to bring it down to your level of comprehension.

I still cannot believe you guys need permission to do what you want.

I wouldn't call it so much asking permission as having an intelligent discussion. It certainly sounds different than what I'm sure if a typical conversation in your household. "Cronk bring home food, you make! I go scratch self!"

I'm sorry if I do not bow down to women. The days of the stay at home mom are gone, and I want them back. This is how nature intended it. Men work, provide for the family, they're the alpha. The women stay at home, cook, clean, take care of the children, and the house.

As nature intended it. So the lioness never goes hunting and male lions never watch over the cubs. Got it.

I do not do chores. I have not done laundry in years. I provide for my family, and what I say goes. That's how my wife wants it, that's how I want it.

Never could figure out how much soap to throw in eh? Poor thing, you go get that GED. You can do it.

Also, to adress the comment about lacking in "other" departments; Yeah right, my wife basically begs me for it.

By beg I suppose you mean submit to the will of your club prior to you dragging her back to the cave.

You all are in the "new" generation of thinking, and frankly, you people make me sick. Cell phone, MTV, me, me, me people. People are greedy and obsessed with belongings, otherwise there would be no need for both men and women to both work.

You're not even a year older than I am. Perhaps you're stuck in the past?

You say how I treat my wife is wrong, but she'd tell you differently. I provide a standard of living for her that she could not, keep her bills paid, keep food on the table, and give her pleasantries she'd otherwise not be able to afford.

I'm sure you and those around you were brought up this way, your wife included. No wonder she enjoys being treated that way, she doesn't know any better. Unforunately I came from a family where the whole male headship thing was in style, although nowhere near as extreme as your situation. Ignorance on this level infuriates me.

The way it was in the beggining of this country, and the beginning of time for that matter, is the way it was supposed to be.

...this one I can't even comment on. It's too stupid.

 

[Cisco240]

You should be able to sell your Prius for a nice profit right now due to the high demand of hybrids. Especially since you live in CA.

does the ms3 give you $1500 worth of fun every year?

And then some.(yes)
My wife actually encouraged me to get the MS3 to repalce my 240 as my DD.

 

[tiagotiago]

Ok, right off the bat I'll tell you I'm not married, so I don't have that experience, so use your criteria on my opinion.

Guess that you might wanna figure out what is that you want before wearing yourself out on this. Audi's are goregous cars and it would probably be a lot easier to sell her the Audi instead of the Mazda. I can't comment on Mazda's reliability, but it is a Japanese company so I expect few, if any, problems. My experience with VAG dealerships (owned a VW) was bad enough that even though I like the GTI, I never really put the car on my shortlist, so you might want to see how the Audi dealerships are around your neck of the woods.

I also think that with the craze of people wanting to buy a hybrid, selling the Prius now would fetch you a price well above what it should be worth. Do some investigating, if you get numbers to back this suspision up, I'd dobut she'd get upset with you wanting to get another car while selling the current one makes a lot of sense.

And well, talk. You know her better than anybody in this forum, maybe some of the things you said here should be said to her, maybe she hasn't got a good idea of how important this is to you. Whatever happens though, I'd think it would be unhealthy to just do nothing on your part, or make her really upset. Nothing bad happens with a small crack that you fix, but a bunch of 'em left uncared for might lead to a far more serious problem further on.

Best of luck.

 

[Shadow102]

somehow for a thread to reach this level of mental retardation it didnt surprise me to find it in the SRT-4 section....ooopppsss i am sorry i meant the MS3 section

 

[EvilJen]

Mmh-mmh! Just got done eating a delicious meal that I cooked. And now my husband is doing the dishes. *Gasp*

 

[jtspells]

Well good luck eather way man hope all goes well with your choice, there is not too much that has not all ready been said, just have to justify the car to yourself also.

 

[genericuser]

Mmh-mmh! Just got done eating a delicious meal that I cooked. And now my husband is doing the dishes. *Gasp*

Your family structure is a danger to society.