so pissed at my fiance

[Ryoga28]

***Update***

Took my guinea pig to the vet on thursday (fee was $82.46, paid by my parents-fed ex the money). She may need to be put to sleep depending if her leg goes necrotic or not. It's very serious...

Concering the fiance...still mad at her. We haven't been talking at all.

 

[mooS mooS]

I'd seriously slap some neosporin on that thing, stat

I have a Bearded dragon that was attacked by one of its siblings and practically had its arm bitten off .... I wasn't able to save the mangled part, but the neosporin helped to keep any infection from starting. I ended up having to amputate his arm myself, and to this day, that runty little tripod is the only one of its litter still alive ...

even if it's not neosporin, make sure to keep that wounded area medicated and definitely try to create some kind of Cone muzzle to keep him from gnawing on himself. You can make it out of a Paper Cup and Duct Tape

 

[Midnight22]

that looks horrible... hopefully it will get better

about the fiance... get out of the situation... if she isnt doing anything now, dont expect her to do anything later on in life... and if itz bothering you that your different now, it will kill u later... cuz then shes gonna be like, ur married u have to stay home... it will happen despite what u say... and if ur thinking about sex elsewhere, it will happen, cuz once the thought is in your head, it will take root and grow, and grow and grow... so save yourself a shitload or trouble later and bug on out of there, and as far as money goes... pull a loan pay her back in full and say c ya... that way u have no regrets and since u were gonna pay her back anyways, u can just pay the bank... my .02

 

[Ryoga28]

I know I need to get out of this relationship...I may want to talk to her soon about getting out, but temp having the same living condition until later.

 

[tttP5]

thats screwed up, money should never get in the way of a problem between two lovers. unless your love is bound by money, and if it is then i guess you'd better look somewhere else.

there really isn't any clean cut line between money distribution when you live together. i'm sure you have bought groceries with tampons, hand cream, fancy shampoo, face cleanser, cotton pads and s*** like that included in the bill and i'm sure you still paid even though u don't use these things. if you did you should tell her. now its her time to dish out some money when you need it badly. hope your pet gets better soon. if she loves you she would loan you the money, a life is still a life even if its only a small animal

 

[tttP5]

About children..I don't think that's going to happen anyway. Once a month. also she's crazy about contraceptions...condoms+vaginal spermacide, plus no cumming inside...sigh...it's depressing...

i have a friend that says she does this too when she has sex, well she is kinda like a doctor.... apparently she thinks that condoms are very unsafe because they can rip, so its condoms, the pill, spermacide and no inside.... er.... how much more safe can you get??? that must be no fun at all...

anyways you say that you have poor money management, well you are young, and you will be tempted to buy things and spend money, spending kinda makes us happy. but then you will be a doctor in the future and loads of money will be pouring in, when loads of money starts pouring in thats when you need to think about management.

 

[1sty]

Ryoga, in the future if you need and free animal care advice just PM me. My girlfriend has been a vet tech for 4 years now and is soon to finish her batachlers and become certified. Anythingyou need to know, I can relay to her.

 

[laracroft]

My hamster used to self mutilate himself. Wasn't that way at first, but he became that way after about a year or so. You couldn't keep medication on him or stop him from taking off bandages. I dont know why they do that, but he died soon after. He started getting neurotic after a while and it was agonizing to see that as a 12 year old. The only thing the vet gave me was some type of neosporin for pets and small bandages to wrap him in. He HATED it. It wasn't something that felt natural I guess and when it got infected, he would itch it with his feet or teeth, obviously making the problem worse. DONT BEAT YOURSELF UP OVER IT. Do what you can and remember that it is not your fault. It's one of those things that just happen with animals and all you can do is your best. If he is suffering or he does not improve, then don't let him/her suffer.

Maria should be helping you through this but sounds as if she just doesn't give a crap. A relationship should be 50/50 and she should be pulling some sort of weight. Granted, some people are not the most energetic people when it comes to going out, hate cleaning, can't cook, etc. But she should be making some sort of effort and attempt to make you happy. It's all about compromise and she is not willing to do so, then you need to let her go. You will feel worse come your first wedding anniversary when you're told not to invite people over because she has a headache, make her something to eat because she's too lazy to make something for the two of you, wash the dishes because she doesn't want to get dirty and put the kid to bed because she doesnt feel like changing diapers or reading a bedtime story.

 

[Ryoga28]

Thanks for all your concern and advice. My guinea pig is doing better, but is still trying hard to get to that foot (bandage the foot and also collared her). I don't think she'll live very long though...if this wound does heal, I don't know if it'll happen again. It's kinda sad, because i had her since she was just a tiny baby. She's the most laid back guinea pig I've ever met. For example, if your flip her she'll still flipped until you push her back. Maybe she's depressed lately because her cage mate has been ignoring her, but who knows. They don't speak our language. It'll be much easier if they could tell us what's wrong.

Luckly my parents (altough on welfare and retirement funds) and my sister helped me this time. Told my mom the problem and she immediately ran to the post office to send a money order. Guess family nothing can beat family.

Concerning Maria...although we are back to normal right now. I probably won't get married..it's probably best not to, just in case. Getting married will tie me further down and if I want to escape, I can't. She hardly does any house work now. She only does it if it's bothering her. It's already driving me crazy because I would come home from a long day at school, just to see a mess in the kitchen or bathroom. She's hardly cooks because she claims her cooking sucks. SO I would be the one to make food (usually much better...taiwanese style).

Interesting thing though, my mother said the exact same thing Laracroft said in his/her second paragraph. I should listen to my mom more.

Spending money makes me happy...There I said it. I collect fountain pens and I enjoy modding my car, as long as it won't void my warranty. These hobbies are usually expensive, but luckly I'm not into watches ($$$) or negative activities. This year I told myself that if I save $100 per month, I could maybe buy a fmic at the END of the year, not the beginning. Or I could use that money for emergency purposes. I will have about $330 a month for food, gas, and misc (computer, car, pens, etc). Last year I usually spend anywhere between $350 to $600 a month just on those things. I can understand why Maria would be sad when she saw my spending habits.

 

[TStar]

oh dear.. well,everything has been said..

i'd like to say 2 things:
- never just let 1 guinea be by itself..they're in need of social partners so badly.
- treating a creature in bad ways, which has been given to your custody tells a lot about your character...

 

[Ryoga28]

oh dear.. well,everything has been said..

i'd like to say 2 things:
- never just let 1 guinea be by itself..they're in need of social partners so badly.
- treating a creature in bad ways, which has been given to your custody tells a lot about your character...

-My guinea pig is usually caged in a 10.5 sq feet coroplast cage (2 x 4 grid) with two others. Right now, it's necessary to separate her from the others because she's sick and I'm not sure if the bite was started by someone else.