mopiko said:
Hi everyone,
I am not happy right now at all, in fact I am feeling very depressed. Two weeks ago my girlfriend dumped me because she said I don't really pay attention to her. I love that girl and obviously I still can put that behind and move on. At first we promised to keep friends as I have known her for 7 years as friends... But now she doesn't talk to me anymore, no email replies. When I tried to call her 90% she won't pickup and the rest 9% will be "I am very busy what do you want?" and the 1% we had great phone conversation with jokes and stuff.
So this is very hard for me to take, although this is my 3rd time in the past 8 years being dumped by a girl. (Something is wrong with me.) Now I can't even put my 100% to my work, my boss even noticed it though she hasn't gave me a hard time, last Sunday was my birthday and several coworkers (my boss and her manager, and the owner) all chipped in and bought me flowers (ok I'm a guy why flowers) so I got good people at work at least. But that didn't help much and I just can't seem to put my ex behind and move on.
For those who is curious I am 25 years old now, not one of those puppy love I'm longing after, so this is devastating. I was thinking about attenting a meet JerseyEMT set up in the area but I didn't go because I was depressed to a point I would've drove my car to a tree...
I'd never figure this relationship would turn sour like this so quick, no warning, just one night she called and wanted to break up.... sigh....:'(
Any of you have some constructive suggestions? I am just venting... I'm not angry at her, but I'm very depress right now, I figure people here can give me some encouragement. Thanks for reading my story.
maybe your communication skills are the problem. after all, youre complaining about how sorry you feel for yourself right now on some internet message board instead of trying to patch things up with the chick. also, if she called you outta the blue and dumped you, and suprised the hell outta you, its cause she was ******* some other guy.
move on, and find some other chick. there are millions in the world, trust me youre better off. ive been where you are, and thats why im so blunt about it. id never make the same mistake twice. the scenario is, you frump around all depressed over some woman, and maybe she takes you back (after she gets bored with the person she cheated on you with) and then it goes to s*** AGAIN later. its hard to find a good woman, they are rare.
just think, how many AWESOME guy friends do you have? how many guy friends do you have that you would trust your life with? how many do you have that you could leave your gf naked in the same room with and they wouldnt even look outta respect? how many are always there when you need them, and not just around to hang out occasionally?
ok, now think, youve met prolly tens of thousands of guys. why do you only have a few really awesome friends? cause most people suck, or are shallow, or stupid, or boring, or useless. its not different from women. the only reason it seems like there should be more, is because some women are good looking, whereas (unless youre gay) all guys are repulsive. most women are equally as worthless as all the guys you meet. you just give women a better chance because they have the correct genitalia placement.
my point? youve wasted 7 years on some chick that had the great courtesy of cheating on you (stab in the dark, and people will flame away, but in their hearts know im prolly 99 percent right) and dumping you on short notice. i would highly suggest pepping yourself up by going and doing something fun that you like to do by yourself or with your friends. if everything reminds you of the chick you were with, thats because you didnt have your own life while you were together, and just means its even better you arent together anymore. in that case, start up a good hobby.