I need some emotional support

[mopiko]

one thing that I've learnt over these years is to keep my ears open, after alll, all the worst thing to a relationship had happened to me besides death, so continue to be heartbroken about it is just a little pointless, I might miss the true love of my life if I keep myself closed. funny thing is that several old and lost-touched friends started to talk to me again, and I know they don't know anything about my girlfriend stuff. I'll see what's God has in store for me.

Dreeza: I am still at the point where I have no strengh to be pissed at people or get up set of what they say, especially when they're here to help.

 

[Dreeza]

i agree, although i would replace both instances of "some" with "most"

hahah yeah....thats probably right!

 

[Cirielle]

Ciriell: Thanks for giving me the view from a girl's perspective, looks a lot different.

Honestly speaking I am not looking for girls to date to get laid, my religion prohibit me to do so, but I sense this girl was all about touch, we didn't get that far, but it was to a level that I was uncomfortable with.

But whatever, it's all over, I can only think if it as a dream, a dream that was good but didn't last. Now what sucks about this dream is that after the good part is over, the nightmare part always comes back in my dream at night, making me wake up everyday at 6:00am, no matter how late I sleep.

Just hate relationship turned sour. I got cheated on once before, that was horrible, and that girl had a presence of mind to tell me about it when she drove me to the airport the day I had to fly all the way back to Hong Kong, then I got stuck at Vancouver Canada for a night because of a snow storm... yeah, when it rains, it pours....

But then I've never turn around and tell others she's a slut for cheating, in fact I never said anything, my friends just kept accusing her for it, 2 years later her boyfriend got a treatable cancer, I even had a presense of mind to send her a get well card for both of them and attended their wedding half a year later. Honestly speaking I wouldn't want to have this story repeat itself, just hoping that I can find my true love for my lifetime before she does. Kinda help me get my mind off her altogether.

Again, many thanks for all of you, Matthew, yes your comments may be rough, but that's what I need to hear, someone to snap me in the face out of my world and realize the situation.

Well if you were uncomfortable, then she might have been as well. She may have been to a point in the relationship that you may not have been at and vice versa.
As far as the dream analogy....please don't look at it quite that way. I mean I understand totally. I have been depressed before to where I couldn't move. It sucks! Really really bad! I know it is really hard to believe but you will find love again. Or love will find you again.
Also though it is good advice to date another person to get your mind off of your previous relationship. It is not good to think that going from one serious relationship to another will solve all of your problems. You have to have a little bit of time to grieve.
As far as the ex that cheated on you - DAMN...I don't see how you could be that nice afterwards! I know that I couldn't!!!
I have been cheated on and I remember how badly that hurt. I could not do that to someone else. That is why that guy and I were broke up before I started dating someone else. That is also why I told him that I was dating someone after 1-1/2 months of our break-up. Yeah, for him that wasn't enough time and it hurt him, but I wasn't in love with him and he was or thought he was in love with me. If I had cheated on him, I could fully understand him going around saying stuff, but the fact is that I didn't do that and he chose to say that I had because he didn't want to face the fact that the two of us were not a successful couple. That I wasn't happy with him, not because I wanted someone else.
I understand that Matthew comments are rough and some of it is good advice. Just don't take it to the point where you get bitter!!!

 

[mopiko]

Cirielle: That you don't have to worry, if I am indeed that nice in your eyes with the other ex I wouldn't go bitter, maybe my kindness is what got me in trouble, but hell, that's the way I am, a little nice and don't know how to get mad at people.

If indeed love will find me, I will be very much reliefed and don't mind waiting.

 

[Dreeza]

one thing that I've learnt over these years is to keep my ears open, after alll, all the worst thing to a relationship had happened to me besides death, so continue to be heartbroken about it is just a little pointless, I might miss the true love of my life if I keep myself closed. funny thing is that several old and lost-touched friends started to talk to me again, and I know they don't know anything about my girlfriend stuff. I'll see what's God has in store for me.

Dreeza: I am still at the point where I have no strengh to be pissed at people or get up set of what they say, especially when they're here to help.

keeping your ears open is good, and yes, i think everyone is trying to help...if the girl does not want to be with you, yes, it does suck, but, it is not worth it to be upset for too long of a time

Of course its ok to be sad, then just realize that getting on with your life is the best thing for you, and you will find someone else who is better than her

i think this calls for a group hug!

dammit, why isnt there a hugging smiley??(group) i guess that will do, lol

 

[Dreeza]

Cirielle: That you don't have to worry, if I am indeed that nice in your eyes with the other ex I wouldn't go bitter, maybe my kindness is what got me in trouble, but hell, that's the way I am, a little nice and don't know how to get mad at people.

If indeed love will find me, I will be very much reliefed and don't mind waiting.

thats the spirit!! If she doesnt appreciate your kindness then she doesnt deserve you

 

[Cirielle]

you said you werent ready, you said it yourself!

I said I wasn't over it. I was over the guy but not what had been done to me. That doesn't make me not ready to date. I was just not ready to be in a serious relationship. And I hadn't done that!

i was going to respond to this sentance, then i realized it made no sense grammatically and i wasnt sure what you were trying to say for sure.

I was going to respond to this as well, before I realized it didn't make sense either. And yes that is a joke....it is just ironic that you were busting on me for a typo and then you did it yourself!

youre wrong again. if you go to the club and think thats going to be where the love of your life is hanging out, youre prolly wrong. if a chick comes on to me while im at work and wants to know what im doing later, im sure its not because of my personality, its because she wants to ****. upon agreeing to meet, its obvious we both want to just ****. i never looked for the love of my life, or wife, or however you want to call it. i knew i wouldnt be likely to find her anywhere i normally went (parties, ****** at work, strip club, dance club), and when i found her it was by accident.

What exactly am I wrong at???
I would never think that I was going to find love at a specific place. I pretty much never thought I was going to find love. I never went looking for it. I didn't think that was necessary. If I got into a relationship and love was there...well there you go...if not well there you go.

you mean you knew you wanted to ****. after all, you said:

If I just wanted to ****, then man did I pick the wrong guy!!! Dude was a virgin!

so you were looking to love anyone on the rebound and you werent emotionally ready for a relationship despite that you wanted to love someone at that point. thats why you shouldnt have been dating, because you were in a pathetic state, that you mentioned yourself.

I could have stated that a little better. I was not looking to love anyone. I was confused on whether I would love him. I wanted to. That I admit. I knew he was nice and for the most part nice to me. I wasn't quite on rebound, but maybe a little. That doesn't make me in a pathetic state. I had the chance to date other guys before him and after my hellacious relationship. I dated a few and I picked him to date because I thought we had a lot in common. We didn't. Still that doesn't mean that I wasn't emotionally ready to date or not date. I wasn't emotionally ready to get serious and I didn't. I was hoping that I could, but it just didn't pan out!

 

[Matthew]

ok then your words just needed spoken better.

and sorry i misspelled sentence , but at least you could understand what the hell i was saying. with your mismatched words and poor sentance structure, im STILL not sure what you meant there. and seeing that you didnt really respond either, maybe you have no idea what you meant was well.

 

[mopiko]

This just crossed my mind, though this tread is not car related, I'll nominate this thread to be the thread of the year award...

And I'll say for the winner of the thread of the year award all who participate will receive, from the manufactor, HiBoost or Spool or something, a full turbo system!

 

[Cirielle]

ok then your words just needed spoken better.

and sorry i misspelled sentence , but at least you could understand what the hell i was saying. with your mismatched words and poor sentance structure, im STILL not sure what you meant there. and seeing that you didnt really respond either, maybe you have no idea what you meant was well.

Nope you just posted before I had gotten around to it!!!
I am at work.....SORRY!!!

So when you used to go out on dates and you knew in your heart it was for ****'s sake, do you think that they did? Or did you tell them that....
yeah here's dinner/here some grub....wanna **** now or what?
I highly doubt that. And I highly doubt that are previous relationship before your wife were that way.
I am sure that you went on a couple of dates that you wanted to see where the relationship took you. Obviously those didn't work out and I am sure that not all those women broke it off with you, but hey I guess they were all flakes too, because they should have known that you were going to break up with them. Just another case of them not knowing what they wanted too. They should have known that they really didn't want to be in a relationship with you and you had to tell them that.

The sentence should read -
And I highly doubt that all you're previous relationships before your wife were that way.

I switched back and forth between programs at that point...

Try to work while posting = typos!

 

[Cirielle]

This just crossed my mind, though this tread is not car related, I'll nominate this thread to be the thread of the year award...

And I'll say for the winner of the thread of the year award all who participate will receive, from the manufactor, HiBoost or Spool or something, a full turbo system!

Hey don't joke about that! Matthew will die for one of those! This thread is about to be officially blown up!!!

 

[Matthew]

Nope you just posted before I had gotten around to it!!!
I am at work.....SORRY!!!


The sentence should read -
And I highly doubt that all you're previous relationships before your wife were that way.

I switched back and forth between programs at that point...

Try to work while posting = typos!

damn that makes a lot more sense.

 

[Dreeza]

The sentence should read -
And I highly doubt that all you're previous relationships before your wife were that way.

lol, yeah everyone makes typos...but it should be your, not you're. sorry i correct a lotta ppl for that!

 

[Cirielle]

damn that makes a lot more sense.

Actually I still managed to screw it up grammatically!!!

It should read -
And I highly doubt that all your previous relationships before your wife were that way.

 

[Cirielle]

lol, yeah everyone makes typos...but it should be your, not you're. sorry i correct a lotta ppl for that!

I posted as you were posting....I actually caught that before you stated it!
I actually caught it while I was looking on Ebay and thought about it.....
Damn forum is getting to me!

 

[Matthew]

Actually I still managed to screw it up grammatically!!!

It should read -
And I highly doubt that all your previous relationships before your wife were that way.

yea but i could understand what the hell you were sayin.

 

[krillin]

Hi everyone, I am not happy right now at all, in fact I am feeling very depressed. Two weeks ago my girlfriend dumped me because she said I don't really pay attention to her. I love that girl and obviously I still can put that behind and move on. At first we promised to keep friends as I have known her for 7 years as friends... But now she doesn't talk to me anymore, no email replies. When I tried to call her 90% she won't pickup and the rest 9% will be "I am very busy what do you want?" and the 1% we had great phone conversation with jokes and stuff.

So this is very hard for me to take, although this is my 3rd time in the past 8 years being dumped by a girl. (Something is wrong with me.) Now I can't even put my 100% to my work, my boss even noticed it though she hasn't gave me a hard time, last Sunday was my birthday and several coworkers (my boss and her manager, and the owner) all chipped in and bought me flowers (ok I'm a guy why flowers) so I got good people at work at least. But that didn't help much and I just can't seem to put my ex behind and move on.

For those who is curious I am 25 years old now, not one of those puppy love I'm longing after, so this is devastating. I was thinking about attenting a meet JerseyEMT set up in the area but I didn't go because I was depressed to a point I would've drove my car to a tree...

I'd never figure this relationship would turn sour like this so quick, no warning, just one night she called and wanted to break up.... sigh....:'(

Any of you have some constructive suggestions? I am just venting... I'm not angry at her, but I'm very depress right now, I figure people here can give me some encouragement. Thanks for reading my story.

mopiko,

sounds like you're better off without her. why would you want to be with someone that is like that anyway? as hard as it sounds, just don't think about her and don't call her anymore. if she wants to talk to you then she will. go out with your friends and enjoy life.
some women are indecisive. they don't seem to know what they want, and don't seem to care who's feelings they hurt. screw em. you'll find a much nicer girl, i guarantee you. just try to move on.
i don't know you that well but you seem like a nice guy. if that's the case, then i guess it's true what some ppl say. "nice guys always finish last" <-- it's may seem like that at first, but it's not true ^_^

hang in there!

 

[Dreeza]

I posted as you were posting....I actually caught that before you stated it!
I actually caught it while I was looking on Ebay and thought about it.....
Damn forum is getting to me!

hahaha, oh well, sorry, i just had to point it out!

 

[mopiko]

krilli: Thanks, I think I'm going to do just that, just move on, there are something that I would like to do, and I think I'm going to do it now. If nice guy does indeed finish last, it's still okay for me, as long as I'll get to the finish line, it doesn't really matter.

Like I've said before I'm really glad I decided to ask you people for opinions, now I'm more released and came up with things I can enjoy to do. This ain't a perfect world, still sucks being in my shoe, but what the heck maybe it's much better for me this way. Now if I can stop being a baby and stop crying about it......

 

[MotegiMazdA]

MotegiMazdA: I think I've found a place where I can get some comfort... here. I'm so glad I posted it here since I never expected a lot of good stuff you guys have in your mind.

yeah same here I like to come here when Im at work or after I get home to get stuff off my mind. There is always something there that makes me laugh my ass off and I love making people smile so I will do whatever I can to make that happen...well within reason