Help: Give a guy a second chance? karma..?

[Breeegz]

Besides, you're hot.... (mj)

if i wasn't married, I'd date you...

 

[Bijou-MP5]

For me, once cheater is always cheater.
if his parents have no respect for him, then there must be good reasons for it.
I know you had feeling for him(maybe even now?) but you can't always be nice girl to him.
even if you forgive him, you will always doubt him about things, worry after worry everyday.

 

[girth]

That guy is a ******* loser. If statistics hold true, you will go back to him.

 

[jflo]

remember...it's not love, it's trust. if you can't fully trust someone it's kinda hard to really say that you love 'em

 

[SpicyMchaggis]

the lord says to forgive, but i'm not jesus, so leave his ass to rot.

 

[jersey_emt]

the lord says to forgive, but i'm not jesus, so leave his ass to rot.

My thoughts exactly.

He has you pretty much wrapped around his finger. I mean, you bailed him out of jail right after you learned that everything that was ever between you was a lie. Now he knows that he can pretty much get away with anything.

I know it's hard to let go, but I think it's the best thing you can do. Deal with the pain now instead of waiting until years from now when it will be much worse. It is my belief that while people can, and do, change, you cannot change someone's 'core values'. Which, in his case, are severely lacking.

I don't think it is worth the chance to give it another shot. You will almost certainly be hurt again sometime in the future.

 

[MinivanHunter]

the cop gives him the tests.. and takes him in for DUI to jail.

That seems to be the most troubling/important part of your story, that he is driving you around while he is legally drunk, much more serious than his cheating on you.

 

[Foolish]

.. and I want things to get back to how they use to be..

You mean back to when you didn't know he was lieing to you and cheating, or back to the time before you knew him at all?

Cut him loose. You'll be better off without him.

Sorry.

 

[srtchick]

get over him & kick his ass to the curb.

 

[Brad]

That seems to be the most troubling/important part of your story, that he is driving you around while he is legally drunk, much more serious than his cheating on you.

Something that I did not even think about. Taking both of your lives in danger.

 

[RallyeRedSi]

if he knows you will forgive him he will most likely do it again, he may stop for awhile but he will most likely want to do it again, sicne he already did it once, im sure you will be suspicious of his actions and not trust him which brings up bigger issues, so be there for him if you want just don't be his girlfriend while doing it

 

[Jliao]

He'll do it again and next time he'll be more cautious from letting you know.

 

[gimpo2]

i think everything can pretty much be summed up with this t-shirt. Sure it might not fit exactly but the consequences are still the same. It may just be better to take you losses and move on, or you may just be stuck in something later on down the road. Love blinds people to many things, but eventually it'll surface itself. But you know what, by then its too late because its not something that you're going to be able to change.

*props to the owner of the shirt. you know who you are

 

[Rush]

Run. Now. And don't look back.

Guys like this never change. Like everyone else has said, he knows he can get away with it now -- so he'll do it again. And the trust you had is now shattered, and it will NEVER be fully restored again. There'll always be the little voice in the back of your head questioning his every move -- do you really want to live with that?

Break his kneecaps and go.

 

[k-lea]

wow.

 

[Snacks McGee]

That guy is a ******* loser. If statistics hold true, you will go back to him.

(werd)

 

[sanblaster]

End the relationship. If he did it once he will do it again. And this guy is on probation? That should tell you something. Why waste your time trying to fix something not worth fixing. Too many fish in the sea, you can do better, (blah)

 

[ZoomZoomH]

good luck steph, hope you make the right choice... be strong!

 

[crispixoo7]

drop him....

he did it once, he WILL do it again.

 

[clownphish]

From the words of Dan Savage: DTMFA - Dump The Mother F*cker Already. Please, please don't be one of those sorry chicks who stays with the guy because they never think they can feel that way again. You can and you will. This guy is s***, Karma's a b****, you see what it did to him. All his lies, cheating, wrong turns led him to jail, losing his job, and now I think he should definitely lose his girlfriend - you. Be confident in yourself, and respect yourself by not being taken in by this bastard and his lies and games. Fool me once, you're the fool, fool me twice, I'm the fool. Sage advice. Also, check out Anne Rule's Kiss Me Kill Me to see just how trustworthy guys like this are. Please please please run the other way from this jerk.