Then you're reading the wrong things.
People were blowing their engines mostly because of bad tunes, knock, and/or not replacing their fuel pump when it was dropping pressure.
If you have anything more than an intake the HT is not for you.
Agree about the bad tunes causing the zoom, zoom, boom. The K04 and its wastegate flow rate are pretty well matched and pretty well matched to the car. Most people want snappy throttle response and power that comes on at relatively reasonable rpm. A bigger turbo will make more power, will have a greater flow through, including wastegate discharge, but at the expense of lots of turbo lag and poor throttle response and anemic power delivery in ordinary stop and go driving. I've been down that road with big Garrett T-4 variant upgrades on other platforms. Power comes on very late, comes on like a light switch, and there is no power down low. I was having trouble keeping up with econo cars until 4,000 rpm. That's not for me.
The K04 delivers great power from 3k to 6k rpm on a good tune but still turns into a cherry hot furnace when pushed over 6,000 rpm at sustained boost levels above 18 psi. It is efficient at up to 20 psi, maybe a little more at lower boost levels, but tunes should try to keep boost max in the 19-20 psi range when coming up on boost with a gradual taper to 16 at 6,000, and should try to keep AFR's on the rich to very rich side under load, especially in the higher gears. This is a direct injection engine and it needs the rich fuel for cylinder cooling. Let's not forget that in our quest to gain a couple extra horses by going too lean.
What gets these engines in trouble is the AFR going lean. This happens when fuel cannot keep up with the air the engine is receiving. That can happen for many reasons, most of which have to do with stupid tuning decisions or the fuel pump taking a dump. Maxing out the wastegate happens because someone is trying to force more air through the engine than can be safely discharged as exhaust. When that happens, the excess can only go one other place: it keeps spinning the exhaust impeller side of the turbo faster and faster, thereby increasing the pressure on the compressor side. Two scenarios are then likely. The boosted air becomes super heated due to the friction. This raises the temperature in the turbo housing well above its 1600 degree F. limits, the center shaft softens and the turbo fails, sometimes dramatically with broken compressor vanes being sucked into the intake. The other scenario is that the overboost raises the AFR to unsafe levels because the fuel pump can't keep up and the lean condition causes extreme combustion chamber and pistion damage.
But, I DISAGREE that HT is not for anyone with mods above intake. HT raises boost levels to the 18-19 psi range. Combined with a good catless dp/rp (as in my sig below) this also raises that limit a little bit more. The better flowing exhaust benefits from another mapping change - a sensibly raised load limit that will allow the engine to produce more power under load before the load/boost/fuel cut safety features step in. It also has spot-on MAF callibration corrections for each of the more popular specific aftermarket intakes. This is not only beneficial in optimizing the intake, but it optimizes ECU function for all other mods, including on the exhaust side.
One of the very issues that causes zoom, zoom, boom is large boost spikes that can happen when running 3 inch dp/rp catless exhausts on stock tune. I was worried about the long term effects of that. When I went with the HT tune, I found that the spikes disappeared and I have a nice smooth 18-19 psi solid, reliable boost under load with a gradual taper to 16 at 6,000 rpm.
Not trying to say anything negative about either AP or Standback. Both offer a lot of features that HT does not. But they offer them at considerably greater risk of zoom, zoom, boom.
And it is a gross simplification and overstatement to claim that HT is not for me at my mod level. I know better.