caught cheating

tonkabui said:
i don't understand how you guys can say that he's young and needs to live it up. if you want to live it up, don't get a girlfriend. don't start cheating on people when you are young cause it's gonna be a habit forming thing. don't get in another relationship until you are ready to commit to that person and only that person for the duration of your relationship. if you don't want to be with them anymore and want to be with her friend, break up with her first. don't be a sleeze ball. it's ******* stupid.
Yes, that's true. Just being young doesn't justify you screwing around while with a girlfriend.

But...
I guess what is meant too is that you are young, and assuming that this relationship isn't as serious as some you'll have when you're older, it's good that you made this mistake now, but learn from it, don't just say "hey, I'm young, I can pull s*** like that".

If you start feeling something for another girl then it means that there's something wrong with the relationship you have. DON'T screw around. If you get to a moment where you know you're about to do something that should be your alarm telling you that there's something wrong, that's when you just stop and push that unit back into your pants and say "I can't do this", walk away, and think if the girl you're going out with is really who you want to be with.

Stupid people are the ones who ignore the lessons from their mistakes. Learn from this mistake.
 
HOLY SHNIKES!!! Someone else on here with morals! Tonka...you da man! Why I don't have you on my buddy list, I don't know...but I'm adding you right now.

I dated a girl who was a perpetual cheater...nothing is ever good enough for those types. I hate to rag on you Falko...but "der commisar's in town...uh uh oh...." and you got caught. You're next step is to stop cheating. And yes...the friend is a little slut for participating in the act. With friends like that, who needs enemas?

Edit...Just saw my Connecticutian brethren's response. True...youth breeds stupidity, horniness, and afterwards (hopefully) wisdom through experience. Being in a long relationship through high school blows; you may miss out on a lot of things...I did. Best 190 lbs of useless mass I ever lost when that hoe dumped me though.
 
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You are a dead man my friend....a stupid dead man at that !

Women NEVER forget. I need bigger letters... N E V E R !!!!

This will be brought back time and time again, every fight, every time you screw up.

Let me ask you, was your GF pissed at the friend? You said they left together right ? I bet they set you up, and you took the bait, hook, line and sinker!

You now have the rep of cheating bastard with her, and whatever you do from here on out, you will always be the guy who is capable of cheating on his girlfriend.

You're done. Wear a cup, watch out for your stuff.

Sorry, but that's the honest truth.

Well said by the way Tonka, i agree with you completely.

Unfortunately, events like these are what gives guys and gals in general a bad rap, we're all cheating bastards/bitches.

Well, i don't cheat on my woman. never have, never will. Plain and simple.

MS MSP #143
 
Cut your loses and forget about it if your young. It'll suck for awhile but you'll get over it. Stay away from both girls. The best thing, if possible, is to acknowledge your a filthy cheater, ask her to one day forgive you blah blah blah, at least make it so neither wants to kill you. I have done this a couple of times. It sucks but sometimes males are slaves to pretty thingies.
 
tonkabui said:
i don't understand how you guys can say that he's young and needs to live it up. if you want to live it up, don't get a girlfriend. don't start cheating on people when you are young cause it's gonna be a habit forming thing. don't get in another relationship until you are ready to commit to that person and only that person for the duration of your relationship. if you don't want to be with them anymore and want to be with her friend, break up with her first. don't be a sleeze ball. it's ******* stupid.

word brotha.............ive been with my soon-to-be wife for almost 7 years and i have guys ask me 'how can you be with the same person for so long, youre young, you should be out having fun.' or 'dont you want to experience what its like to be with other people?' why is it that some people cannot understand that i am happy, this is who i want to be with. i dont want to be with anyone else. this is one of the things that makes our relationship special.

listen to tonkabui, hes right. you shouldnt even think about getting into another relationship until you are ready to commit to that person and not their friends.

and as far as using excuses go, thats all bs to me, using the excuse of being young is like saying 'oh, im sorry, i was drunk.' you cant justify what you did with excuses. you did what you did because youre not ready for a committed relationship and it is better than it ended sooner rather than later.
 
MS MSP said:
Hey Servoeyes, i hope you are the one that is 190 and not the ex!

MS MSP #143

Umm....no...unfortunately. Of course at the time I didn't realize how terrible she was so I gained a bunch of weight, went crazy...now I'm losing the weight. Got to cut the 1/4mi time...and my current girlfriend is just the right size for me! Squeezably soft yet not Japanese movie monster sized. 4 years for us today!

As for the whole set-up thing...I wouldn't be surprised if they left together. Women are catty, but if there's one thing most of them hate more than other women, it's good men. They try their damnedest to see us fail, just so they can be sure that all is right with their little world and that all men are a-holes. And we still love `em. Frustrating isn't it? Note: I said most...not all women are like this, but they all have a little hint of it in them that can sneak out...

Still...if you could have kept the tongue-mobile in the batcave you would have been ok...
 
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tonkabui said:
i don't understand how you guys can say that he's young and needs to live it up. if you want to live it up, don't get a girlfriend. don't start cheating on people when you are young cause it's gonna be a habit forming thing. don't get in another relationship until you are ready to commit to that person and only that person for the duration of your relationship. if you don't want to be with them anymore and want to be with her friend, break up with her first. don't be a sleeze ball. it's ******* stupid.

Well, I did a bit of fooling around when I was younger and now I'm in a relationship where I am completely loyal and so is my girl (together for a year and a half). It can be a habit form thing, but that's something usually reserved for week minded individuals with no self control at all. There are guys and girls for that matter who are like that and those people suck. The times I had cheated it ended up for the better, but I'd never risk a real relationship. What I meant when I said you are young and have fun, is do just that. Date and see as many women as you like, because that's the only way to make sure you know what you're looking for. Experience as much as you can.:D But at the sametime, you can't do too much cheating because it's the wrong way to go about things.
 
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you are one of the rare exceptions, and unfortunately, people like you who grow out of cheating are not the rule. the earlier you start cheating, the earlier people tell you it's okay, the more likely you'll keep doing it. the excuse now is "i'm young, i can do whatever." the excuse later on is "i'm making sure i was ready to get married." and later still, the excuse is, "well, she was pregnant, a man has needs."

ok, all i know is this. i don't care what you do with yourself, i don't care who you have sex with, make out with, have animal sex with, whatever. JUST DON'T HURT PEOPLE IN THE PROCESS. it's selfish and unfair. look at the situation falkofire's (ex) girlfriend is in now.

in that one moment of lust between falko and the friend, her world fell apart. she lost not only a bitchass cheating boyfriend and their relationship, she also got betrayed by her bitchass backstabbing friend. and that's really really sad.

falko, nothing personal buddy. i got cheated on. there's no room for sympathy in my heart for people like you in this situation. i'm not saying that you are a horrible person. i'm just saying in this specific circumstance, you suck.


APEXistud said:


Well, I did a bit of fooling around when I was younger and now I'm in a relationship where I am completely loyal and so is my girl (together for a year and a half). It can be a habit form thing, but that's something usually reserved for week minded individuals with no self control at all. There are guys and girls for that matter who are like that and those people suck. The times I had cheated it ended up for the better, but I'd never risk a real relationship. What I meant when I said you are young and have fun, is do just that. Date and see as many women as you like, because that's the only way to make sure you know what you're looking for. Experience as much as you can.:D But at the sametime, you can't do too much cheating because it's the wrong way to go about things.
 
Just say "It wasn't Me"

LOL

sorry to hear about it..next time don't be so out in the open if you want to cheat!!!

Chas
 
Let's not get vicariously bent out of shape about this guys situation. Some people are saying "your young, forget it". Some are saying "don't be a sleeze ball. it's ******* stupid". You did a bad thing touching the no no's. Do something to make your situation better. Learn from it, apologize, forgive yourself. Be alone for awhile if you need to. Just don't get too down on yourself. You'd think from some people's reaction to this you shot someone. Stuff happens in life.
 
MS MSP said:
You are a dead man my friend....a stupid dead man at that !

Women NEVER forget. I need bigger letters... N E V E R !!!!

This will be brought back time and time again, every fight, every time you screw up.

Let me ask you, was your GF pissed at the friend? You said they left together right ? I bet they set you up, and you took the bait, hook, line and sinker!

You now have the rep of cheating bastard with her, and whatever you do from here on out, you will always be the guy who is capable of cheating on his girlfriend.

You're done. Wear a cup, watch out for your stuff.

Exactly what he said - you're done like dinner.



dr_"shamefully, speaks from experience"_sarcasm.
 
thanx guys...Ill keep u posted on progress...all in all..there goes that girlfriend...and well...tahts a big dissapointment, but I do not see any possibility of gettin her back with a trusting relationship...its not gonna happen, and its jst not worth it
 
Lisakay said:
Do you guys blame the gal for being upset?
i'm just curious...
No, not at all.
I've been cheated on before (High school), so I've been at the other agonizing end. My girlfriend cheated on me with my sister's ex boyfriend (yeah, that's right). He also had cheated on my sister when they were together so he was a known sleaze. What hurt about that too was that he was always really cool with me, like a big brother, and I looked up to him. :(

So yeah, I don't blame her at all, especially since she witnessed it.

But like someone said, what goes around comes around - She (my ex) ended up "falling in love" with the asshole (in 2-3 months too) and gave up her virginity to him. He went back to college and completely ignored her after he got what he wanted :D

Yep, what goes around comes around :)
 
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Holy s****! That almost sounds like what happened with me and my ex, CBCBD! Left me...fooled around with some guys...then got with one of our mutual friends (i was with my current gf at that point) and she gave it up! Then he just blew her off! Best revenge EVER! Karma's a b**** and a queen!
 
servoeyes said:
Holy s****! That almost sounds like what happened with me and my ex, CBCBD! Left me...fooled around with some guys...then got with one of our mutual friends (i was with my current gf at that point) and she gave it up! Then he just blew her off! Best revenge EVER! Karma's a b**** and a queen!
:D :D (rofl) :D :D

Hell yeah, my friend!!! KARMA ALL OVER HER FACE!!! (bj)
 

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