the stock BOV sucks. sorry. I come from a world of DSM's, Supras, and RX7's. Ive seen good ones, and ive seen really sucky ones. For instance, Saab and Porsche have nice ones. MKIII supra has a sucky one. 1G Eclipse/Talon/Laser have REALLY good ones, 2G Eclipse/Talon have really sucky ones.
Just cuz its original doesnt mean its good. Just cuz the outside of the BOV is the size of a silver dollard doesnt mean the actualy orifice is that size. the diaprahgm is silver dollar size. Ill be that the actual orifice that air passes thru is only about the size of a nickle...thats tiny. Not very good when considring the more air it flows, the better the turbo stays spooled. and Yes, im sure it will leak air underboost, Not just partial throttle, but any high boost. so anytime the turbo is fully spooled, its probably leaking. 2G Eclipses (FASt and furious style) had all-plastic BOV's and leaked at anything over 12 psi...and they have the same Garret T25 turbo, except it was standard wick-type bearings.
Your initial Mods should go like this:
Autometer Pro-Comp Boost guage -20/0/20psi (never trust a factory guage, you poor guys dont even have THAT

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K&N intake w/ some kind of heat sheild
Shorter intercooler pipes (the stock setup is a clusterF*ck)
BOV w/ reciruclation kit (HKS or Trust)
Big FMIC
2.5" downpipe
3" cat back exhaust
Leave the boost as it is for a while. Im not sure how the fuel system can handle added boost, plus i know the motor cant. The motor is basically the same as the ES protege w/ a turbo kit on it. It still runs 9.1:1 compression ratio, which is SKY HIGH for a turbo applicaction. And im 99% positive that they are cast aluminum pistons not meant for a turbo application. which means they wont hold up to high boost levels, excessive detonation, or high EGT's.
However, you can make it last and make some good power w/ the motor IF, and only IF, the engine is tuned very well. Not tuning it is what will kill it.
Btw, a dump valve and bov do the same job.