Anyone been through a divorce before?

[Gasological]

Oh I've heard of visitation rights for a dog before. *rolls eyes*

I can't really see how people could get to be that way, but then again, I'm not a very sentimental person.

Good luck with the divorce. This too will pass.

 

[Speed3girl]

LOL Sounds like it is happening to alot of people.

I am leaving mine, and I have heard of others doing the same. Bad timing!!!

 

[EvilJen]

I'm sorry that you're going through this, Speed3girl. I couldn't ever imagine something being so broken between me and my husband that it could not be repaired. I think some people go into marriages thinking it's going to be all fairytails and romance and don't understand that there are going to be trials and tribulations. You just have to work through them, sometimes. And no, I'm not insinuating you are guilty of this; I'd never kick you when you're down. I'm just sorry that you have to go through this so soon in your marriage.

 

[Speed3girl]

I know and I appreciate it. I do feel wrong for not having it in me anymore. But I am following my heart. I can't live and not be happy.
I gave everything in our relationship. everything I had and ended up where i am now.

 

[EvilJen]

I know and I appreciate it. I do feel wrong for not having it in me anymore. But I am following my heart. I can't live and not be happy.
I gave everything in our relationship. everything I had and ended up where i am now.

If you've given everything you can, then you're making the right decision. You'll work through it.

 

[Speed3girl]

Yes. Thanks.
Now I feel I can spread my wings and be who I am. Not satisfy someone else. I can wear make up, dress up, and go out. woo hoo

 

[vindication]

I cant give any advice cause I dont know you two nor do I know the situation(nor do I want to know), but following your heart especially when there are no third parties involved is always a good thing. Hopefull all will work out.

 

[Speed3girl]

Thanks.

 

[icespeed]

when i find myself in times of trouble...

er-wait, that wasn't me.

There are alot of cliche's to be said. Some support what you're doing and some contradict your actions. I say f*ck the cliches. Live for the moment. You know in your heart whether this is right or not.

Here's your problem though... there will be times when you miss him and want to call. Or times when you hear from your friends that he's with someone else and it will hurt you, deeply, even though you're the one that called it off. You can lie to him, you can lie to us, but deep down you know the truth.

I personally feel that if there is the slightest sliver of a chance in hell that there is still something there, you fight for it with all of your might. Call me a romantic, but there is nothing more sacred or rare than love... even if times are tough right now and you feel like you've given him everything that you've got.

Think back to your wedding day. Remember that feeling you had when you said, "I do"? Was that really love? You don't have to convince me or anyone else here, but you need to know in your heart. "Gnothi seauton", speed3girl - "know thyself".

Otherwise, if you're really set on "being free", laughter, friends and family will always get you through.

Speaking of laughter.... if you're gonna be single...

How YOU doin'?

 

[Speed3girl]

LMAO!!!
Throw that in there thanks.

I have thought back to the wedding day. I just can't do this. I want so much out of life and have given and done everything for him. I am only lying to him if I were to stay. That is not the right thing to do.

 

[MakeMeGoFast]

Something that a friend told me once, that I think everyone should know, when regarding to this kind of stuff. is that you don't have to like them everyday just love them.

 

[icespeed]

lol, well i figured, "hey, single girl... into cars... in a phase where she needs comfort.... how you doin?" LOL

I'm shocked that in a forum of 30,000+ members and after 28 replies, I was the first to try and pick you up!

Deep down if you really feel this is the right move, then don't ever let you head get in the way of your heart (meaning, do not feel guilty or second guess or over analyze or any of the other stupid thoughts that we, as humans, go through when it comes to our emotions). I wish you the best

Oh, and since it's a divorce... take him for everything! That'll teach him to appreciate things and people a bit more

 

[Speed3girl]

LOL

I will not take him for everything. I just want out.
It is what my heart wants. So I am following that.

I love you have to love someone to be together.....and I feel I lost that.

 

[Speed3girl]

By giving everything and not getting what i thought i should in return

 

[Killer]

If you are the girl with the little Scotty...I saw this comin'

He was married WAY out of his classification level. (lol2)

 

[Powerslave]

I have been feeling a bit weird about things for some time.
I just sort of snapped this month. Couldn't take it.
I need to focus on me

WOMEN, unstable, no commitment, like a wild "unbroken" horse that needs a good spanking to learn respect!!!......lol just given you a hard timw ..lol

 

[fastdreams]

Good luck to you. Condolences and congratulations

I find marriage to be completely unnatural and uncomfortable.

 

[Speed3girl]

I was the one with the pic of me and my scottie. Why should you have seen this coming?

Oh I had posted our pics in the off topic thread.

 

[Speed3girl]

I was also the one posting about losing weight on here before

 

[CHICO2003]

Who's Scottie? Scottie Pippen? Beam me up Scottie? hmm....