Anyone been through a divorce before?

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Speed3girl

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I am going through one now. I can't help but feel worried this whole time.
We have been together since we were 15 and married about a year and a half. It is my decision to leave him.

Any suggestions?
 
I have been thru one but there were kids involved, I'm on the other side of the fence perspectivewise being the dude & yes she made that decision for her & the kids. My only advice is to not be looking for or expecting to find a "perfect" mate, that doesn't exist. You don't know someone until you live with them. That's about it, have fun, move on & find the one who adds to your life, not drains it & find one with the least amount of compromise involved for both parties to do. Have a sense of humor, expect less & be disappointed less often & give at least as much as you take from the relationship. OK, I'll stop boring you with my 47 yr old been there done that s***. Good luck in whatever you seek.
 
I have been feeling a bit weird about things for some time.
I just sort of snapped this month. Couldn't take it.
I need to focus on me
 
Honestly No. I can't do it. I just feel so completely wrong for that. But my heart just does not want it. There have been so many weird and horrible things that have gone on that I feel I have moved on.
 
Does the fact that you've been with him since you were 15 (and presumably only been with one man in your entire life) have anything to do with it? I'd imagine that would be a much bigger problem for him... but would be surprised if any woman this side of the mason dixon could handle it as well. The whole highschool sweetheart thing sounds good in theory... but I think it ends up backfiring on a lot of couples. But what do I know?

Sort of sucks though... after you've been with him so long and all. Hopefully it's at least mutual and you're not completely breaking his heart on the holidays! : ) Good luck!
 
No kids and not happy after 11 years together that's a long time but if your not happy what advice can be given?!

I am divorced and have custody of my two boys since my ex decided heroin was more important than our 8month old and 1-1/2 year old. It was a no brainer for me.

Talk about feeling worried! She was living with her drug dealer and constantly making threats that she was going to showup at the house or the daycare and take the kids away!

She's still a nut case but at least she's off the (illegal) drugs for now!

No kids! No worries move on and be happy!
 
People say that the first 5 years are the hardest...maybe marriage counseling is a good idea right now. My first 5 were hard, but now it's great and can only get better.
 
weird and horrible huh?

I remember looking for an extra hanger in my wife's closet once... that's when I noticed the severed heads in ziplocks. that was some 'weird and horrible' s*** for sure. But after a couple sessions of marriage counseling... we got through it. Still, I can understand if you wouldn't want to even go that far. I mean, that is pretty F'ed up! I mainly stuck around cuz I didn't want to end up like those guys.
 
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CHICO2003 said:
weird and horrible huh?

I remember looking for an extra hanger in my wife's closet once... that's when I noticed the severed heads in ziplocks. that was some 'weird and horrible' s*** for sure. But after a couple sessions of marriage counseling... we got through it. Still, I can understand if you wouldn't want to even go that far. I mean, that is pretty F'ed up! I mainly stuck around cuz I didn't want to end up like those guys.
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Yeah there is stuff that i didn't approve of. But we learn from our mistakes. You realize what you had when it is gone. And he is doing that.
I did more for him then he ever realized.
 
Im sorry to hear this My soon to be wife broke up yesterday and we have two dogs that i love i wonder how that is going to go.
 
your soon to be wife? you mean ex-wife or... were you engaged?

the dog thing sucks almost as bad as the kids... maybe even worse cuz at least with the kids you're allowed to visit and what not. be kind of weird if you were to get visitation rights to a dog.

guess it's a good thing they're man's best friend eh?
 
we were engaged for two years and together for six years i was going to give her the wedding of her dreams December 31.
 
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