Would you date a dancer/stripper

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Mazdaspeedgirl said:
It's a classic case, if genuine.
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If it was a classic case, then why would there be doubt?

MazdaspeedGirl: (hehe, you should now by now that I'm messing with you. It's fun)
 
Well I don't think I can ever acuratelly portray the situation going on in words on these boards. For starters some background on me. I have been around dancers/strippers for many years. I dated a girl for over a year in college that danced and 2 more after that. I know the lifestyles and the ploys and the games. But it is pretty easy to tell when they are being used on you. Like I said as well I was at dinner with my friends who work there and I know most of the girls up there by their real names and actually hang out with alot of them on the lake during the summer(my 2 friends have a lake house) I understand and appreciate everyones input on this. As for the dances yes I paid for a few but only because I wanted to. She did not want me to pay but I felt guilty for taking up over 2 hours of her time just talking to her. I mean after all she is at work and is there to make money. I wouldn't have thought twice about the things she was saying if I hadn't found out from my friends what kind of person she is. They said she is one of the sweetest nicest girls they know and one of a handful that they have asked why in the hell she was dancing(personality doesn't quite fit) As said before she has only been with one guy her whole life and that is her husband. She has been with him since she was 14. The problem her was that my friend keith(DJ) wanted to introduce me to her but hadn't talked to C(his wife/dancer) about it. Well C knows that Missy is married and knows her whole background(they've been friends for 2 years) Keith didn't. The problem was that neither of them thought we would hit it off as well as we did. Alot of you have brought up good points and most of them I already knew but the main reason I started this thread was because I was doubting myself and didn't want to miss out on what I think is the perfect girl.

Actually as an update to the situation I talked to her over the weekend. We both decided that we would try and be friends and nothing more. As said before she has been married for a year and things have been a little bumpy, regardless she is still married. I told her I sincerely hoped that things work out for her because I honestly don't believe in divorce. We both ackknowledge and agree to suppress the attraction between us. We will just have to see where it goes. Really don't get the wrong picture about this girl as she and I are both at fault as far as the flirting and such.
 
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First, there is no such thing as dating a stripper. You are either f*cking or playing games. You mentioned you have been dating strippers for years. Can't you see that something isn't working here? I, as you would say, dated 2 strippers. I call them f*ck buddies. I tried taking them out to dinner and all that crap, but all they wanted to do was go home and fornicate.

Definition of INSANITY: Repeating the same things, but expecting different results.

It sounds to me like you have been doing just that. You have been dating stripper after stripper thinking to yourself that this one is going to be different. WAKE UP--SHE'S NOT!!!

Now you say this girl is married?! Where is your self respect? Maybe you should do yourself and your wallet a favor and stay out of the strip clubs.
 
See it is doing me no good to keep trying to explain the situation to you guys. You cannot generalize strippers like you guys keep doing. I am sure that freekwonder can back me up.... There are strippers that all they want to do is F4ck and then there are those that are no different than any other girl except they dance and get mostly naked for a living. The girl I am referring to now is the later. She is a very sweet normal girl that 2 years ago ran into some serious financial difficulty and a sa reult a friend got her a job at this club. it is the only one she has ever danced at and she does not plan on doing it forever. The problem is that once your in and see how good the money is it is harder to get back out especially in todays economy. Don't lecture me about doing the same thing over and over again as the girls I have dated in the past have little more than their occupations in common. Also I have said I really don't spend money when I go up there. Well except on food and drinks(IT is a 5 star Restraunt) Most of the girls give me free dances. And it is not like I am going to a bunch of dif. clubs only this one. For me it is like hanging out in a bar where all of your friends work. Well that was my last attempt at trying to explain this situation and I am tired of hearing the rehearsed comments or comebacks on dating a stripper. Since she is married I am just going to drop this thread as there is no point. Thanks again to all of those that offered their insights. Now I am going to have dinner with my friends......hehehehehehehehhehehehe
 
Your explinations do no good becuase she is the typical stripper mentality of playing games with guys as everyone is telling you.

Why else would you have even had to make a desicion about a MARRIED woman. If she was in any way truely loyal to her husband or to any man then this would not be an issue. However you had the make the decision of pursuing or not becuase you damn damn well you can and she will not stop you.
 
I didn't have the attention span to read the whole thread but here's my 2 cents. . .

She's a dancer...she's going to be dancing for a while...she's got a man.

Now if she drops him for you, regardless of what you have in common and how hot she is, in the back of your head you will know she left some other guy for another guy she met in the club she works at (who happens to be you). If she dumped this other guy, whats going to stop her from dumping you when she dances for a cooler guy than you several months from now?

I'm not saying its going to happen, and it seems to me that she's a cool chick and it probably wouldn't happen....but it could. Repeat that...but it could.

I say good things come to those who wait, and you should wait for her relationship to end. Be friends with her, but don't push it any further, and make sure it doesn't go any further until the other guy is out of the picture.
 
Sometimes these boards are so aggrevating because it seems that when you are really trying to explain something people either take it one way or another. I understand and thank everyone for their advice. 1st MP3, Mazdaspeedgirl, Mr. Repu. Listen guys and GAL(DIANE) I am not pursuing her. She is not persuing me. we are going to try and be friends. BTW she really wants to stop dancing for those that say she is the usual stripper and thats all that she is going to do.

Also I think you guys need to spend a little time in a nice club and not a hole in the wall. THe crowd is extremely different. I am not blaming you for making some of the assumptions that you have made because as I said I have dated "THAT STRIPPER" before and she worked in one of those hole in the walls. This club is a national club and is a 5 star restraunt. I can't tell you how many times my friends and I go their just for dinner. The place is awesome. Granted there are some of the typical strippers there the majority are nothing like typical. There is one girl there that is just finishing up her second masters and is doing this to be free of debt when she graduates. I am telling you guys that you don't understand the situation.... THese are my friends and this is a place I hang out. I hang out with them at their houses and at other clubs/bars. Not all of the girls but a good amount of them. The whole thing between me and Missy just came about after talking to her for like 2 hours. they were dead that night and we were all eating and talking. It was not like she came over and asked me if I would like a dance. After 2 hours I asked her and she was suprised when I did.

But seriuosly once and for all I am saying I am not persuing her so it is a mute point. I wish I could and wish I would but I am not going to because she is married and that is something I respect. Also stop insulting her. Not going to name names or point fingers but she is not like all of you are saying she is. She is a very sweet girl and it's not like she is going to cheat on her husband with me or anything. We just both agree that we like each others company and get along and would like to be friends. Yes there is attraction there but neither of us will act on it. As I said before as well she did not plan on ever dancing but a friend got her the job after she ahd been out of work for 4 months and needed money bad. Yes it is 2 years later but when is the last time you looked for a job. It ain't pretty out there. Honestly I am just glad I met somebody like her. It's been too long since I met a really genuine person. I was beginning to think they didn't exist any more. Oh well wish I could introduce her to everyone on here to show you how she really is but if all that you can see is her job you might want to ask yourself what you do for a living and how people see you. Oh and for all those I know which of you are kidding and which of you are being serious...
 
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Mr REPU said:
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First, there is no such thing as dating a stripper. You are either f*cking or playing games. You mentioned you have been dating strippers for years. Can't you see that something isn't working here? I, as you would say, dated 2 strippers. I call them f*ck buddies. I tried taking them out to dinner and all that crap, but all they wanted to do was go home and fornicate.

Definition of INSANITY: Repeating the same things, but expecting different results.

It sounds to me like you have been doing just that. You have been dating stripper after stripper thinking to yourself that this one is going to be different. WAKE UP--SHE'S NOT!!!

Now you say this girl is married?! Where is your self respect? Maybe you should do yourself and your wallet a favor and stay out of the strip clubs.
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I take major OFFENSE to this comment and if my "WIFE" ever read it, i know she would come over and kick your head in. Why can't people understand that not all strippers are the same. of course people are going to say, but your wife is dancing. shes dancing cause when i got out of the Marine Corps I was unemployed for 3 months and we had no money. she is dancing to get through school then geuss what she is going to quit. not all stippers are drugged out nymphos. I know plenty of girls dancing just so they can go to school, hell i know four of them that are going to DeVry with me. Yes majority of them are druggies, hell my cousing was one of the drugged out nymphos. she even admits not all stirppers are like that. you said they were just looking for a ****, what says you werent looking for the same thing. my wife and I have never had to question our honesty, love or trust for each other.

I have read everything Funwagon has said and i understanding what he has said. he originally asked if he should stray away from his rules of not being the other man. CAuse she is in a bad marrige that is ending. usually what happens when people date stirppers is they think its cool at first. Then the guy starts to get jealous and tells the girl to quit or he is leaving. maybe thats what you did. thats probably what this guy is doing. but funwagon AND the girl have decided to just be FRIENDS. IM going to stop now cause your comment has serouisly PISSED ME OFF. and I dont know you and we are on the interent so I dont want to try and start an internet fight cause they are stupid.
 
freekwonder I knew I could count on you to understand. Of course I understand some of these people because they have never been in the situation but there are alot on here that have very closed minds and argue their points in an ignorant manner. I guess if we don't think like them then we are the bad ones huh????? J/k not trying to start a war either. BTW if I had a better body I would be dancing...i mean when is the last time you left work with $600 in cash in your pocket????
 
Fun we are not speaking of you or her pursuing but the fact that the decision even needed to be made as she has a husband. There should have been no reason to make a decision in the first place by either of you.
Now add to this you want to be friends. Have you asked her husband about this. Knowing she has a friend she may have wanted to cheat on him with that she met while taking off her close for money, hmmm, I am sure he will be ok with that :wtf:.

As for al strippers being the same.
No 2 people are totaly the same, however all strippers have a more relaxed morals then many people. After all THEY TAKE THERE CLOTHES OFF FOR MONEY!

I have known several strippers and some are now happily married. However they no longer strip. I know several that have done it for years and are drugged out I know others that are straight as can be. No pun intended as most are Bisexual.

An event that happened a few months ago at a club explains my view very well. I was drinking a bear and noticed all the tables around me were getting dances so I had 3 strippers around me. I look at my Boss Carlos and say, "Help, I am surrounded by ass"!
He luaghs and one stripper gets pissed saying I was disrespecting them and alot of:bs:. Of coarse Carlos is not to happy tonight so he talls the girl to **** off and how can she expect anyone to respect her when she takes her clothes off for money and acts like awhore. Sparks flew, I luaghed, we almost got tossed out. Good time. Another time a friend of mine yelled at a stripper, "YOU TAKE YOUR CLOTHES OFF FOR MONEY, YOUR NOT ******* BETER THEN ME!" God was that funny.

After all how much can you really respect someone that takes there clothes off for money. Simply put, I can't respect them at all.
 
Well I guess we are different in that respect 1st Mp3. I have no problem with anyone taking their clothes off for money. It is a job. I mean if people are willing to pay then thats their fault. I don't think that a persons job says one iotta about that person. of course I am speaking generally but for the most part most of the people I meet or know including myself do jobs that are nothing like the person they are. I judge people on a case by case basis and usually never on the first meeting. I know people in the knoblest of professions who are the slimiest people on the face of this earth. I also know people who have horrible jobs or jobs that others look down on(strippers) who are the nicest kindest people on earth. I can sit here and explain this all day and try and rationalize it out to you but I am not trying to change people. If thats what you believe then you must ahve your reasons for it. if you don't have reasons for it then you might consider a new view that you come up with on your own. 1st MP3 I know it may sound like I am coming down on you or flaming you but really I am not. I think you are a stand up guy from what I know of you on these boards. I am more speaking to everyone here. I understand everyone has an opinion but you need to understand that just because you feel or beleive something doesn't mean that everyone else out there is going to as well. I really think some of you guys need to open your minds some cause you are missing out on some great people out there because of your close minded views. But thats just my opinion.
 
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