Would you date a dancer/stripper

[FuNwaGoN]

Well damn some people are getting harsh. But hey everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

Just an update as to the situation. Well I called my friends that works at the club to try and find out more information about Missy. Boy I wasn't ready for what I heard. Some good some bad. Well let's see. So I call my friend and before I can even ask her about Missy she tells me that Missy was talking to her about me saying how cute and adorable I was and how I treated her like a lady and that I was the nicest guy she has met in a while. At this point my ego had gotten a little inflated but thats usually when it gets burst and it did. My friend told me Missy said she would love to be friends with me but she didn't think she could handle the temptation to be more than friends and since she is MARRIED then that wouldn't work. My friend then told me that Missy felt so bad for not telling me that she was married. She actualy said she kept going on and on about how the circumstances suck and how if she had just met me a year ago(she's only been married a year) But get this, her husband is the only guy she has ever dated or anything. She has dated him since she was 14. Now that blew me away. Well that runs about par for my course.... the first girl that I am interested in , in a long time and that is interested in me is freaking married. I know the flames are really going to get going in this thread now.... My friend did say that this girl is one of the sweetest and nicest girls she knows at the club. So I asked her if she knew about her being married and she said she did but din't feel it was her place to tell me. Oh well. Really sucks though cause this girl was really cool. Honestly she would make a great friend just to hang out with and go dancing or go to movies just cut up with, ya know. But marriage is something I don't take lightly and will not intrude upon. Oh and just to appease some guys in here I talked to my friend about having some girls pose with my car. She said she is going to ask a few of them. That way this thread isn't a total loss. I thinkk I am just going to go sulk for a little while now.

 

[freekwonder]

freekwonder

Ok, I gotta ask, not to be disrespectful or anything, but if you were broken down on the side of the road (If I'm reading it right) why was your wife stripping for other men?

ummm....I'm....just curious that's all...yup, that's it, just curious

Well she was at work (shes a dancer) I was at school and on my way home got into an accident.

 

[freekwonder]

Dating a stripper is like dating the bottom of my shoe. It is the lowest thing that a man can do, plain and simple.

care to explain this highly insitefull thought you have here to us. why would you say that. my wifes a stripper. Im very proud of her. not cause she is a stripper, but atleast she is helping me take care of our house hold. and is only doing it while she goes to school.

so i guess I am a piece of s*** then since you think the lowest thing a person can do is DATE a stripper, i must really be s*** since im MARRIED to a stripper.

 

[FuNwaGoN]

Freek wonder you are alright in the rest of our books who cares about that guy. Is it just me or have alot of the guys that have been buying MSPs and have started coming on these boards just dicks or what. Sorry but had to say it cause I have been seeing it more and more since that damn car came out. NOT speaking of those of you who had another car and were on these boards and then went to MSP just talking about all of these new guys coming on here thinking they are the s***. Like I said don't worry about him. you have what looks to be a beautiful family and seem more than happy with your life so enjoy. BTW I really do take offense to the comment he made considering some of my best friends are strippers and are married to strippers. Of course ignorant people can say anything and run like hell. An intelli gent person makes a statment and supports what he says and waits around for a response.

 

[Newf]

Funwagon, I understand what you mean about the MSP attitude thing. It isn't all of them, but there is defintely a few.

Freekwonder: I've been here a long time, so have you, and I cannot once recall you acting like a POS.


Oh, and since she's married....ummm...yeah, well that settles that doesn't it

 

[FuNwaGoN]

yeah sure does newf. still would love to have her as a friend. NO really ... just friends. Not saying wouldn't be hard to do but she is just really that cool. I would have felt the same way about her if I had met her in a gas station or store or something. It's just hard to find people that you have that much in common with and get along that well with so it's a shame but I honestly don't think anything will ever come of it. Friends or otherwise.

 

[blynzoo]

yeah sure does newf. still would love to have her as a friend. NO really ... just friends. Not saying wouldn't be hard to do but she is just really that cool. I would have felt the same way about her if I had met her in a gas station or store or something. It's just hard to find people that you have that much in common with and get along that well with so it's a shame but I honestly don't think anything will ever come of it. Friends or otherwise.

Man, that is rationalization.
I was hanging out with a married couple. One night we were at a work party. We were dancing, pretty innocently (i.e. I was dancing with other married women all in good fun). One of the women pulls me into the women's restroom of the club and starts taking off my pants. I stop her, give her a kiss on the forhead, and dip out.

She apologizes the next day, and we agree to be friends (which is hella similar to what you're going through). So we hang out a couple times, eat lunch together, that s***, just "being friends." Well, through a little manipulation on her part (and a little desire on mine...she is freaking HOT), she ended up taking me to bed.

It happens once, whatever. But now her and her hubby are getting into some tough times, and I worry she will bring me up. Hell, even if you DO stay just friends she could use you as a weapon if s*** goes sour. My new rule is no married female friends unless I have a serious GF. And since I dont, no married female friends.

 

[FuNwaGoN]

Yeah I hear ya Blunzoo. Kinda funny cause Missy and I talked about how hard it would be to be friends and thats it. There is alot of attraction there. But we are both the type of people that would never cheat. Just really kills me that people are that insecure with there spouse that they can't have opposite sex friends. Am I the only one that thinks that your wife/gf whatever should be somewhat independent. I mean you don't have to be around her and most likely can't 24/7. You can't control what other guys do but you should love and trust your significant other enough to know that she won't do anything. I can't stand when people get married and drop friends they had before for these very same reasons. I know this is different cause I didn't know her before they were married. I am just not the jealous type at all. Kind of a downfall you could say because I think I am too the point of being too trusting. Everyone of my GF's has cheated on me. Which may explain alot of my relationship problems or hangups now. But even with everything I have been through I still think it is ok for a woman being my wife or girlfriend to still have friends and still do things with them and be independent enough that she can take care of herself.

 

[freekwonder]

Freekwonder: I've been here a long time, so have you, and I cannot once recall you acting like a POS.

funwagon - thanks man, i know what you mean. peole think stripper and they think some drugged out crack *****, who will do antying for a buck or a rock. 60% of them are that way, but not ALL of them. I know a few of the girls at the club and they are nice and normal girls. the other ones are druggies though.
also like i said on your situation, not like I'm an expert or really have any credit to give advice, but if it was me. I would just be friends with her. if they break up, maybe it would be come a friends with benefits situation.

and newf, thanks man. I try to be socialable. I hate internet muscle men. the ones that think they are bad ass on the keyboard. I feel old on this board now, we have been here since the begining havnt we. you know for being one of the originals on this board, i sure do have a low post count compared to these new post ***** guys .

and yes i have noticed a majority of the MSP guys have been coming on here with a bad ass attitude, "NOT ALL" but most i have seen.

 

[Familia323]

First of all, that really sucks FunWagon....
Second, I don't understand why so many people get married now a days anyway. I hear so many stories of cheating and divorce... I just don't get it.. but then again, I am only in my early 20's.

 

[bruce95fmla]

from my way of thinking

If I thought of her like you do and she was involved with someone , I would try to be a friend with her, get to know her and be close. Maybe not seeing each other all the time , but keeping contact and maybe just doing lunch or something every know and then... The way I am , I would not want anyone to cheat on their other, or leave someone else to be with me , because that all comes back to you sooner or later. Plus trust issues can arrise. But it can't hurt to be here friend .

I am odly enough in a similar situation as you . I have a english/st.lucia girl that I am head over heals with , but she is with someone else.. I want to be with her but don't want to disturb her relations, when it is done and over with naturally .. then she knows it is and will be our time to move on... I have been trying to be there for approx. a year ... We are really close, but have our moments..
Bruce

 

[bruce95fmla]

Man, that is rationalization.
I was hanging out with a married couple. One night we were at a work party. We were dancing, pretty innocently (i.e. I was dancing with other married women all in good fun). One of the women pulls me into the women's restroom of the club and starts taking off my pants. I stop her, give her a kiss on the forhead, and dip out.

She apologizes the next day, and we agree to be friends (which is hella similar to what you're going through). So we hang out a couple times, eat lunch together, that s***, just "being friends." Well, through a little manipulation on her part (and a little desire on mine...she is freaking HOT), she ended up taking me to bed.

It happens once, whatever. But now her and her hubby are getting into some tough times, and I worry she will bring me up. Hell, even if you DO stay just friends she could use you as a weapon if s*** goes sour. My new rule is no married female friends unless I have a serious GF. And since I dont, no married female friends.

s*** ,, I'll tell you something , I won't hit a women , but I'll shake the s*** outa one ,... and I am frigin serious ...

I would really make sure she knows not to bring my name up or she and her husband will have to be dealt with if I get approached by anyone

 

[Familia323]

.. I won't hit a women , but I'll shake the s*** outa one ,... and I am frigin serious ...

hmm... not something I would have shared, if I did that. :wtf: (notcool)

 

[Newf]

freekwonder. Funny you know. I'm on this site a lot....way too much actually, and I have just over 2000 posts. I was thinking the other day, after noticing a few people here in the MSP section that have been here since Jan 2003, and already have almost double mine????? wtf???? I've been here almost two years, on the site everyday, I leave it on in the background all day at work, and have the laptop sitting on my couch at night when I'm home....how can someone have so many posts in 4-5 months? I'm just amazed that's all.

later guys

 

[bruce95fmla]

hmm... not something I would have shared, if I did that. :wtf: (notcool)

I never said I did that
Bruce

 

[Familia323]

.. but I'll shake the s*** outa one ,... and I am frigin serious ...

might as well have.

 

[Mazdaspeedgirl]

ALLRIGHT...

There are a few...very few exceptions to strippers, obviously Freekwonder's wife (*smiles at Freekwonder*), but as a whole, let's get it straight:

Strippers will use their "powers" (as I call em) to create loyal clientele. That's it. They will tell you anything...lead you to the point that you'd believe they really want you just to get you to come back and spend more $$$.

Let me ask you FuNwaGoN, did you have to pay for the dances? Even if only some...

This may point things in the direction of my statement. Hence the kissing, flirting, and whatnot leading you all the way to the point of you asking her her out...and THEN...the shootdown. It's a classic case, if genuine.
I have known many strippers and believe me they tell girls things they would never tell guys.
But, this case requires mores analysis...

 

[Mazdaspeedgirl]

Even if there is execution from their ploy, most only see men as pawns in their sick little game that they use only to try to make themselves feel like they are in control; these desires are usually necessitated by some form of trauma, thus the "issues", as blynzoo has identified...

 

[Mazdaspeedgirl]

i guess that was too deep...

 

[1sty]

STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM HER!!!

If she is willing to flirt and all but lead you to want to go after her and she knows damn well she is with someone but is trying to get you to pursue her then she is nothing but trouble.

She tells her freinds she wants to be with you, even though she is with someone else. This is horse s*** and an example of what she will in turn do to you.

For her to do nothing to sway your interest and she continues to push you toward her or atleast attempt to. SHe is untrust worthy and nothing but a headache.

By the way, a Stripper is a stripper is a stripper. No difference. It is a perfession and not a status classification. Although this one seems to be to your description of a stripper aswell.

I'd suggest finding a women less sexualy forth giving.
Get a woment that doesn't take her clothes off for just anyone and you will find they tend to do other things less liberally aswell.

Get a quite reserved girl that works her ass off, with her clothes on. They are more loyal, lewss frifaless with there bodies and use sex as stress relief and GOD is it GREAT!!!!!!