Yep, sounds like you are starting down the same path I am finishing. You know, a good Front Sway Bar would be a good first step. Should eliminate most of the body roll, give you a more planted feel in the twisties, and will continue to work well with either coilovers or a spring/strut combo in the future. Shouldn't make the comfort of the ride much worse either.
I totally agree with you and since I am no suspension expert I have to rely on info that I can find here and on 8club to make decisions. Coilovers and spring seem to be measured using a different scale and method. Regarding tuning the Stance GR+, when you are getting ready to buy some, or are getting close to a decission, get in touch with Adam from THMotorsports. He can take care of you and I think he can get a set of Stance with exactly the rates you are looking for. He has a really good relationship with Stance and can help you with your decision.
Get the FSB, you wont be disappointed. I got the Progress Tech and it is a nice piece. Fair warning, its a PITA to swap, but worth the trouble.