Found my aux tranny cooler line was weeping ATF everywhere, this was due to the guy at the auto parts store giving me fuel hose and not transmission cooler hose, replaced with correct hose.
Also noticed I need to replace my radiator support due to the right upper mount being damaged from a run in with a deer; the support is just reinforced plastic, it has 6 mount points but the two upper mounts carry most of the weight. Ordered new OEM support $290 free shipping, should be here by this Friday. It sucks but at least I know its a pretty easy job.
The road noise finally got to me and using the idea from others, I ended up using some home window seal sick on insulation from Lowes (arouond $18 for a good size roll, mine was called "tite seal" i think), used almost an entire roll just for the spare tire area, then a bunch under the front driver and passenger foot well area plus a bunch on the inside front fender liners and some areas between the liner and the body.
After freeway driving at 70mph I think it did make a difference, I can talk to my wife without yelling and I don't have to turn up the radio as much to drown out the road noise, i still have extra leftover so I think I might add a few more layers and for the price I could even add another layer everywhere and maybe some for the roof.