For the original question "Should I lower it?" -> Yes, absolutely!
But in honest opinion, the image what I have gotten from your writings, you don't want to have Fast&Furios ride, but rather OEM+ style.
So I would say that lowering spring just for the front is the best option.
Getting front end just like 20-30mm lower would make it more in balance looking than rear heavy.
And getting quality springs, ie. Eibach, they are usually progressive springs.
So they are "soft" without load, could evevn feel like original spring. When compressing they will get stiffer.