Mazda34... I feel your pain. I am new to the Speed3 world, myself, and using the search feature here & on other sites doesn't always return the information I am looking for. You often have to be creative with your search terms, and read DEEPLY into the threads you find.
I'd advise 2 things if you want to avoid reactions like NCZ13's...
1. Do your homework first, and if you still need to post a question that might provoke a "do your homework" reaction, be sure to point out that you spent 2 hours searching & reading on 3 different forums, etc., etc. Maybe even repeat some of what you HAVE learned in your search, to demonstrate that your claim of having done the research isn't BS. This is more likely to evoke a positive response from folks who have already seen the same question 3 dozen times.
2. I don't mean this as a slam, but if you use proper capitalization, punctuation, and grammar, more people will take you seriously. I know the internet is a very casual communication medium, but if you post a run-on like your post above, it is hard to read & will be more likely to evoke a negative reaction, or drive someone away without reading your post in full.
Mind you, no matter how careful you are, there will always be someone with a smart-ass disposition who will get his jollies by insulting you for posting a question. (NCZ13, I am NOT implying that you are that sort... just that they are out there) But if you do your homework & make an effort to include details and make your post easy to read, you'll get a lot more positive responses.