MY girl goes to retreat

[styles_t]

aight people tell me this, my girl that i have been with for 3 years decides to go to a church retreat

latelty, before the retreat she has a nasty attitude, recently startin cursing when she talks to me and has this thing about she doesnt get along with people because thats not how she is.. .. whatever

anyway, she came back yesterday from the retreat and now me and her has nothing to talk about, yesterday we were quiet, and today, in the morning we didnt say anything

she comes back talkin about her sisters and brother (talking about the people who were in the retreat with her)

anyway, my point is "i think she's a fake now" she's been brainwashed or something, she feels that she had to "find herself" - my opinion is that anyone who goes to those things to" find themselves" has a weak mind

Any opinions - i need to know what people think

 

[cbcbd]

Has nothing to do with the retreat. She probably has felt suffocated by the relationship, hence the being b****y and going away on a retreat. Maybe she thought that with some time to herself she'd better coming back, but no.
What religion was the retreat for?

Now, if she is truly very into her religion and you are not then I guess future plans are out of the question - but I don't really think it's about the religion.

 

[styles_t]

we're both catholic

she's into religion a little more than I am - she goes to church on holidays, thats about it

her family is into religion alot and they are the ones that told her to go

i asked her questions like: so what did you do there and her answer was "i cant tell you"

i asked her: did you sleep good (because our daughter doesnt let her sleep and i had the baby while she was in retreat) and her answer was "NO" and i said why and she said "i cant tell you"

she showed me a group picture of all the people that were there and i asked her "where was this" and she said "i cant tell you"

what the hell is that about

she's been with that attitude her whole life

we have an 11 month old daughter

maybe its just me - i dont believe in the religion stuff - they (her fam) take it the the extreme - the way they see things i dont

 

[Replica]

She can't tell you? Hmm....I'd give her the boot if there wasn't a kid involved.

 

[NeverSober]

Brainwashed...........................why wouldn't she be able to tell you? Maybe she didn't go on a retreat?? Not saying she's cheating maybe she just went somewhere else or something. And the retreat was a coverup? I don't know......


Chris

 

[styles_t]

she definately went on the retreat because i went to pick her up from church and they had a big celebration there. thats one thing i know - that she was there -

one thing i dont like talking about is religion

i feel that anyone who's deep into religion gets things put in their head so thats why i call it brainwashed

 

[cbcbd]

She can't tell you? Hmm....I'd give her the boot if there wasn't a kid involved.

werd, sucks when a kid is involved - just look a poor linux

 

[cbcbd]

solution: Go on a retreat by yourself, come back and pull this "I can't tell you" s*** with her

 

[Replica]

First rule of Fight Club, do not talk about Fight Club.

 

[styles_t]

lol - but thats not what's bothering me

what's bothering me is i feel she's fake now

talking about her brothers and sisters (the people who did the retreat)
she has a big ass cross now that she wears

its just that i know how she was before this and it's bothering me, you can talk about this and that but i know who you really are

ohh and in the church when they asked what did she get out of going on the retreat and what they gonna do for god from now on some of the people there start crying and faint - my girl started crying and she was apologizing to her mom that lives in florida. . . . apologizing for what?

and. . . when she called her mom when she got home, she told her that she didnt want to come back from the retreat, but she did because of the baby

 

[Replica]

Being Christain is great and all. But i doubt she's on the same page as everyone else because she says she can't talk about it. That makes me think "creepy cult." When saved, the first thing you want to do is talk about it and witness your experiences with God with others. Something is wrong....

 

[styles_t]

okay but what is she being SAVED from - thats what i dont get - there was nothing wrong with her before except for the attitude

 

[orangezoom]

Replica is right you want to shout it out. I will talk to anyone who wants to ask about it. I am not one of those people that preach to everyone they meet. I do not hide the fact that I am a christian I am proud of it and will talk about it freely.

 

[mp3moose]

I don't think she got brainwashed or anything. Sometimes retreats just put people in a weird mood for few weeks as they are reassimilating the knowledge they gained on the retreat into their regular life.
She's talking about the retreat friends because she wants to relate to people that are in a similar spiritual journey place. I think in time she will begin bring her regular life back into the picture. not, of course, that she should forget or throw away her retreat fun.

 

[orangezoom]

Being saved I think is the wrong word, being born again is more appropriate. Because you except Jesus as your savior, that he died on the cross for your sins, and because of this you will have eternal life.
What she experienced I do not know, and noone will unless she tells you

 

[Rogue]

what was the name of the retreat? Vida Nueva? If so, I've been to it before. The reason I think it may be that is because they ask you not to talk about what happens there. It's not that anything bad happens, but the experience is something that can't really be described in words. It's a very moving experience.

 

[redwagon02]

congratulations, you let her join a cult.

 

[jersey_emt]

Go on a 'retreat' yourself.

And by 'retreat' I mean LSD (hippy)(flash)

Hey, you'll probably learn more about yourself while on acid than possible on a 'retreat'.


Nah but seriously now --

If it bothers you, just sit down and talk to her about it. Let her know your concerns, see what she says.

 

[styles_t]

lol - im not one to stop her from doing what she wants to do even if i dont agree on it

 

[styles_t]

okay yesterday after work i got into a big arguement with my girl because now all of a sudden she wants to get married before we even move in together. . . mind you before the retreat she had no problems with it. . . the reason she says this now is because supposably "its a sin" to move in with somebody without getting married

I told her she was "BRAINWASHED"

she tried to bring up examples like

1. I (my girl) dont believe in cheating on your wife - my response was: i dont believe in cheating on anybody - that has nothing to do with god

2. about killing - again, thats common sense not to be killing people, not about god

help me out here - whats really good with this