Love Hurts...Period (Rant)
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Walk away and try to move on without her. If she really wants to get w/ you, she needs to decide that on her on, without you in the picture. I'm guessing she's young and rather clueless, and not sure what she wants for herself. This is not the type of girl you want to be with. You want a girl who is old enough to have an idea of what she wants out of life and who she wants in it, and that she wants only you in it beside her. So, step out of this relationship entirely, evaluate what was good and bad about it and wait for a girl to come along that hopefully has only the good qualities to her. Oh, and you don't have to be mean or aggressive to get a girl, I asked my bf out years ago and we've been together ever since.
imjustagirl said:(bow) that about sums it up... oh and that one sentence you typed, "she says she's doing this cause she doesnt want to cheat on you" say that outloud to yourself.... do you really want someone who has to think about whether or not they want to be with you?? wtf??
Oh and Kristin is right... not all of us are devious, coniving cunts and bitches... Its girls like this one that you have, that **** guys up in the head and make it damn near impossible for us true, virtuous women to be with you... Its a two way street... why in the hell do some guys stay with girls that treat them like ass?
Because they are owned!!! and need someone to treat them like s***...
they most likely had an overbearing mother who controlled their life...
Love advice Texas style:
What I have discovered is a women likes to have a nice slap on the ass(the kind where you end the slap grabbin and sqeezin the s*** out of one cheek) and saying "Women, bring me a beer and fix me some vittles" and then send them on their way and
then leave love at the bedroom door when it comes to gettin busy and remember this; you didn't do your job, if she can still walk without some form of limp or cockeyed walk and she didn't call you daddy or any other thing thing she would refuse to call you any other time
because when you bang'em right you will know it becuase at that very moment you have their ass!!! you know what I'm talkin about, when they start going " ohhhhhhhhh, fuckkkkkk, yea,, ummmmmm "then they take over and ride your ass like a wild bull (spankin ass starts here) and tell them "yea, you know who owns your ass!!! Daddy does!!! Yea thats right Daddy does!!!!" and make sure your lookin them in the eye too at that moment...
that way when you ever get in an argument you just remind them" hey! hey! who's your daddy?" and they'll say "**** you" and you'll smile and say (while lookin them in the eye, like ya did that night and say) "oh yea, we will" and grab that favorite butt cheek again given it that luv sqeeze and they'll turn red faced and still be mad, but they'll shut up and walk away knowing your the man and thats why their with you!!!
(peep) (shocked) (guitar) (godown)
CommieSpeed
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I had a very attactive, smart girl that when we first started dating she sat me down and explain to me that she likes guys who tell her what to do, never back down to her, argue, yell at her, and kind of act mean to her, etc. I though it was some kind of joke, but she was ****** serious. She was a psych major and when I asked why...WHY she would want a guy to act like that towards her instead of just being normal and nice (not a spineless pussy), she said, "I just find guys that act like that to be more attractive and I find they are more sexually aggressive." When I told this story to a few of my friends who are girls, thinking they were going to tell me she is crazy, 8 out of 10 of them agreed with what she said. I am still to this day confused with that....
We are still talking, and she is treating me like I am still her man. We continue talking like everything is okay...and she says thinks like no man of mine does "this" or "that"(a joking manner) I have not given her "the talk" yet, because I want to do that in person...
I'm still confused, I'm still afraid of the answer she'll give, but I Will lay down that line...thank you everyone
I'm still confused, I'm still afraid of the answer she'll give, but I Will lay down that line...thank you everyone
I wouldn't advise you to "lay down the line" to her. In my experience, woman don't generally respond well to ultimatums (kind of like "Daddy" telling his daughter what he doesn't to want to see her doing and you know what happens next...). I would suggest you tell her that you want a break for a few weeks or so. When I say break, I mean no contact in any form. She's told you what she wants, so let her find out if that is what she really wants (her former boyfriend or, maybe some other guy you are not aware of). Keep that cliche in mind of "be careful what you wish for because it may come true." Let her live her life without any part of you in it for a bit. It'll clear her "confusion" up fairly quick and you get your answer about her true feelings for you.
Your continuing to talk to her is still giving her what she wants, while you essentially get nothing. I didn't make this phrase up, but don't become her "emotional tampon." Don't allow her to release her pent up emotions/frustrations on you and share her physical-self with someone else. (That person ends up getting all of the benefits and puts in no effort.) Don't become her emotional support in hopes of the relationship becoming what it once was before because it usually doesn't happen. She gets everything she wants and doesn't have to sleep with you to get it. Get me here!
Personally, I think all woman are farked up. The key is finding one who isn't farked up towards you. Wish you well and do what you must because you have to live with it. I live my life with no regrets. Do what you do for you.
Your continuing to talk to her is still giving her what she wants, while you essentially get nothing. I didn't make this phrase up, but don't become her "emotional tampon." Don't allow her to release her pent up emotions/frustrations on you and share her physical-self with someone else. (That person ends up getting all of the benefits and puts in no effort.) Don't become her emotional support in hopes of the relationship becoming what it once was before because it usually doesn't happen. She gets everything she wants and doesn't have to sleep with you to get it. Get me here!
Personally, I think all woman are farked up. The key is finding one who isn't farked up towards you. Wish you well and do what you must because you have to live with it. I live my life with no regrets. Do what you do for you.
Puckpimp71
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^ he's right about the ultimatums. Just tell her what you want upfront... Say it firmly, then be quiet and wait for her to talk.
Update!!! Update!!! Update!!.........Wow, this is something else.
Update, and man call this a Happy ending type of situation, but Well we talked it over, and apparently, She told me that after talking to me despite us having this break, or whatever you want to call it. She says that all she could do was think about me. She explained that it was like we never did have this break. She also Told me she missed me, she cares a lot for me, she is deeply sorry for putting me through all of that.
She also met her Ex, or the other guy, and she told me that they did nothing. Straight up she said it wasnt the same being with him He even said that he was going to back off, because He could see that she was stuck on me. He saw that I made her happy. I am amazed and I feel guilty, because this guy is more stand up than I thought, and here I was about to fight him.
Now granted I was angry at her, but eventually after her crying, and saying she realized how much of a mistake it was to even put me through all thatI forgave her, and accepted her back, she promised to never do that again to me.
In my heart I knew that she felt this way for me..so in all its a happy ending, We are still together.I really thank you all for your input, and support, if I didnt have it. I probably would have gone crazy. This is why I love the Mazda forumsIts not only about our mutual love for Carsits about moral support and friendshipIf you guys need anything, and are in my area Let me know..thank you all!
Update, and man call this a Happy ending type of situation, but Well we talked it over, and apparently, She told me that after talking to me despite us having this break, or whatever you want to call it. She says that all she could do was think about me. She explained that it was like we never did have this break. She also Told me she missed me, she cares a lot for me, she is deeply sorry for putting me through all of that.
She also met her Ex, or the other guy, and she told me that they did nothing. Straight up she said it wasnt the same being with him He even said that he was going to back off, because He could see that she was stuck on me. He saw that I made her happy. I am amazed and I feel guilty, because this guy is more stand up than I thought, and here I was about to fight him.
Now granted I was angry at her, but eventually after her crying, and saying she realized how much of a mistake it was to even put me through all thatI forgave her, and accepted her back, she promised to never do that again to me.
In my heart I knew that she felt this way for me..so in all its a happy ending, We are still together.I really thank you all for your input, and support, if I didnt have it. I probably would have gone crazy. This is why I love the Mazda forumsIts not only about our mutual love for Carsits about moral support and friendshipIf you guys need anything, and are in my area Let me know..thank you all!
Puckpimp71
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J dragon said:
glad everything ended good for you
