Love Hurts...Period (Rant)

[J dragon]

Why does love ****** hurt so much? Sometimes I wish I were devoid of emotion, because this s*** is too Painful what is going on right now. I will explain. My girlfriend has been very stressed lately due to school, and her job, and what not. I can understand as I am stressed trying to get my life together as well.


Recently, My girlfriends Ex I wouldnt even say Boyfriend, because they didnt have that type of relationship, came into the picture. He told her that he misses her, and that he wants to be with her, and all this Jazz, yet the messed up part about this is that. This guy has done this before he told her He wanted to be with her, then left her. not to mention
1.) He knows all about me from what she tells him.
2.)He is dating someone

, But she has strong feelings for him. She even says she loved him, but cant say that about me yet, but She says she is confused, and she wants me to be hers

Now you are probably reading all of this and are wondering why do I stick around for this abuse, the fact of the matter is, Im a good guy, I treat her like a queen, and I love herand would do anything for her Im in this to fight!!!

Im hurting though. She says she wants us to take a backstep in our relationship, so she can figure things out. She says she wants us to go back to dating, and we arent together. She says she is doing this because she doesnt want to cheat on me, and possibly hurt me.
I couldnt accept that at allbut it looks like I might have to, I have given her space. Im willing to wait, although it hurts my heart to think about it.

ALL MY ****** LIFE I HAVE TAKEN A BACKSTEP FROM MY HAPPINESS to please other people, All I have in my thoughts is Violent intentions on that guy that WON T STAY OUT OF HER GODDAMN LIFE, I REALLY WANNA **** THIS GUY UP. I am losing my mind each day, trying to keep it togetherI need to focus on my futureon my Money situation. but I cant help but coming back to this s***.

I still talk to her, and she still calls me. Telling me she misses me, and that she has to remind herself that we arent togetherIt hurts as if needles have enlarged themselves in my heartYou females wonder why there are no more good men in this world. because you play with our emotions. I was never the type to believe in a backup girl, I was never the type to cheat on whom Im with; I was never the selfish type. To please her came firstthe nice guy does indeed finish last.

Thank you for allowing me to pour my heart and soul out*end rant*

 

[bestmazda01]

if she still has emotions for him... not a good sign.

life is tough.

 

[hazeXban]

I have been there man. I was in love, treated my gf like a queen and was always there. Then bam she had a guy come into the picture, without asking for space though she got with him then broke up with me. Just to then dump that guy and beg for me back. Only I took her back but the relationship was never the same and she cheated again.

My advice, give her the space, do your own thing, REALLY do your own thing. Not sure how old you are but experience as many things as you can, enjoy your friends, play more sports, do more stuff that makes you happy that doesn't require her.

If down the road things work out between you then awesome, but if she is going to train you on a leash like a dog and expect you to play dead so she can go "figure things out" get out, she will just tear your heart out even if she doesn't mean too.

Good luck!

 

[J dragon]

It Seems to me that females have it in their Genetic Code to like, want to be treated like s*** or something..... (hand)

 

[RenzoMSP]

I been there man. I question myself if there are any good women out there.

 

[capnsavem]

been there.

there is no "backstep"

that means it needs to end. and unfortunately, it does hurt. but be the better man and DO NOT fuk him up. she'll just think ur an animal and be more torn because of her feelings towards him. my best advice is to put it all out on the table. simply tell her that you aren't into being the backup, and basically she needs to make a decision.

good luck homie

peace

 

[Puckpimp71]

The worse you treat girls, the harder it is to get rid of them. When I start acting nice treating them well I get nowhere... I spent most of my life being the "like a brother to me" guy. The type girls call to complain about the guy they were with the night before. Moral of the story: Don't be that guy.

 

[k-lea]

I been there man. I question myself if there are any good women out there.

Fact. They are not all devious cunts, some just need a chance to prove themselves.

 

[Puckpimp71]

Not to say that I treat a girl like crap, but if you're too nice you scare them off. It's an awkward balance... Kinda like going down a fire escape with nitroglycerine in your hand. Too agressive and you'll blow up... too slow and soft and you get burned.

 

[k-lea]

Not to say that I treat a girl like crap, but if you're too nice you scare them off. It's an awkward balence... Kinda like going down a fire escape with nitroglycerine in your hand. Too agressive and you'll blow up... to slow and soft and you get burned.

Isn't that the truth. Good job on that one.

 

[girth]

I agree with Capnsavem -- I've been there -- by "backstep" she's saying "Yeah I want to f*ck this guy for a while without the guilt of calling it cheating...and then if I get sick of him or he turns out to be a turd, I'll come back to you....so please just step away for a bit while I "figure things out"." Ugh!

I've been in this position and BELIEVE me, do YOURSELF a favor and stay the hell away from her! If you think it hurts now, think how much it can/would hurt if you guys get together and she pulls the same f-ing s***. Seriously, the way some girls act really pisses me off lately. I just wanna (wedge)

She's obviously not that into you if she doesn't know what she wants. So go find a chick that is - they are out there, trust me.

 

[MyZmZm]

I hear you on always having your heart/feelings/whatever stepped on, always doing your best to please/accomodate others, and feeling like you're second rate; I've been doing that most of my life too. I just recently found out that the guy I've kind of been seeing (wasn't as far as dating or bf/gf, thank goodness), and have known and been friends with for 3 years, was two-timing me BIG TIME - I found this out from his wife of SEVEN F#$%&!* YEARS!!

It's funny you say that it's the women out there playing with you guys; all I'm looking for is a nice guy like you seem to be, and I seem to keep finding the bad apples.

Anyhow, this happened to me just over a month ago, and I'm still not even halfway there to figuring things out. All I know is it hurts like nothing else, and I have to figure out what's best for me, and what I need to do for myself, not necessarily what I think I want to do.

If you need to chat/vent/whatever, feel free to pm/email me.

Good luck with whatever you end up deciding/doing. We're all here for you.

 

[INGREXCO]

go find yourself a rebound girl but make sure shes not a really close friend of yours trust me on this playa

 

[speedcicle]

"She says she is doing this because she doesnt want to cheat on me"



That quote that you typed right there is your answer. If she really wanted to be with you then she would not have to worry about cheating on you. The only people who cheat are the ones who aren't happy. I have found that you need to treat girls good, but not overly good, because if you are to nice it gets you nowhere. It sounds kinda strange to say but you need to have some form of control, not overly controlling but don't let girls walk all over you. You said space is important and you are right but if she is worried about cheating on you then she has her doubts about you. I feel bad for you because i have been there, but it isn't worth fighting this guy because that would get you nowhere. Unfourtunately people can't be up front all the time like they should be. And by her saying she needs her time but wants you to stay there, what she really means is while she goes off with other guys to try to figure herself out, she wants you to sit there a wait and that's bullsh&t. Out of curiosity how long have you been with her???? And if it hasn't been that long i would say just move on, that's what i did when my girl decided to be an ass and now 3 years later i am engaged to the best girl i ever met. Sometimes things just have a way of working out. Good luck....

 

[mooS mooS]

My motto:

Treat em like a used car dealer.

Gotta let them know that you're ready and willing to walk if the deal smells fishy

 

[iracemine]

"She's obviously not that into you if she doesn't know what she wants. So go find a chick that is - they are out there, trust me."


exactly!!!! cant keep them away from me and i have never asked one out. and im not good looking or anything!! never would to deal with that stuff just want to live another day HAPPY.

 

[chuyler1]

If she's what you want and you are sure of it...put your foot down and tell her she needs to make a decision or risk loosing you forever. Tell her you are not going to put up with her shenanigans and if she wants to have a second go with this other guy your relationship has to end now. Give her a day or two to think about it. Don't let her walk the fence with you because that is the same as her walking out on you...all trust is gone and the relationship is over anyway...you'd be waisting years of your life trying to piece it together only for her to pull the same s*** again.

If you're not sure, have some nice breakup sex and move on. You'll know when you are 'sure' with a girl.

 

[GrandBelialKey]

You need to "dump that b****" and log onto www.blowmeuptom.com get the live link (up at the top right corner) and listen everyday. hurry up, comes on in 15 minutes. (thinkbeer (thinkbeer (thinkbeer (thinkbeer

 

[Replica]

Dissapear. Never talk to her again. Get all the dispare out of the way now.

I've done it, it's faster that way and theres nothing to regret.

Backstep = she's weighing her options. OR it means you're the backdoor man.

 

[Dexter]

moist vagina.