Jealous Girlfriend/Boyfriends?

[t3ase]

The moment I saw the MSP at a car show, I secretly fell in love with it. Now that I have one, I'm obsessed. I've never been a "car guy", but I'm quickly becoming one. Only problem is, is that my girlfriend is extremely jealous of the car. She rolls her eyes when I talk about it, she hates that it takes me all evening to wash/wax it, she bitches when I park far out in parking lots just to keep people from hitting the doors...

What do I do? I've tried telling her how much the car means to me and that I wish she'd just try to show some kind of enthusiasm. That works for about a day or two, then it's back to the old jealousy thing. I've tried getting her involved with helping me out, but she just doesn't want to do it. I've asked her to go to car meets with me, but she declines and then gets upset that I'm leaving to go show off my car.. It's like, if she's not going to be part of it, why give me s*** when I want to do "my thing"? Anyone else have this "issue"? Any advice?

 

[nocar]

get rid of her.. thats wat i would do no matter who she is and wat she means to me lol.

 

[kidrage24]

my advice,
tell her to get a hobby or a life and stay out of yours.

 

[traitorhound]

man that sucks. . .. cause my gf is all about (well not really) my car. . but she's down with it. like she's helpign me with the install of my stereo in my car because she likes to be involved and some of the custom work we did (lcd mount) turned out looking great so whenever i get in the car it's a nice reminder of how it got there. only thing she doesn't approve of is the exhaust i put in

other than that it's cool

 

[t3ase]

This is a bit more serious of a relationship than just dating. I'm thinking of moving to Colorado with her later on this year, as she leaves in less than a month to start school.

I love my car, and I love her.. Really. But this is really bothering me. Anyone with some helpful advice?

 

[MP3skaterNC]

my gf was worried some when i started being crazy about the car. but she got over it, now just accepts that im crazy.

 

[2K3 MSP]

She needs to learn to deal with it...If you are gonna be living with her, who cares if you spend one or two days a weeks, detailing your car...You're still going to bed with her...
I always sit near the window where I park my car when my girlfriend and I go out to eat. She thinks it's funny to catch me staring at it...I just have this big grin on my face.
She should be happy you love your car as much as you do...Hell, you could be driving a beat up, rusty, 3-colored, dented-to-s*** with a cracked window '93 Geo Metro.
She'll prob. say "I'm not with you because of your car, I'd love you no matter what you drove", but that's a bunch of crap. Seriously, if you are trying to get her involved, you are doing your part. She needs to give a little to get a little as well. Good luck!!

 

[t3ase]

I met her when I had a78 Ford Fairmont, so that line was used and is still used quite a bit.

 

[t3ase]

What should I do? This jealousy even happened before I had the car and I was spinning... She knew I loved spinning so much, so wanted nothing to do with it; she would leave if i started spinning when she was around. I dont know what to do.

 

[markmurray77]

just put a TV in there, my GF loved it when I did that.

 

[bradman]

well it appears that she's at a point now where she's already fealing jealous of the car in a big way so....reverse engineer the situation. She's going to expect you to give time to the car so when that time comes, suprise her and do the opposite and ignore the car. If you're lucky, she'll respect that and respect your car for sharing its time with you

then...when she's asleep, pull out some flood lamps and do what you gotta do with the car

 

[zumi]

i think if she loves you enough she will accept and respect your love for your car. your car is not another girl, she shouldn't be getting jealous. she should be happy that you have something in your life that you are so passionate and happy about, besides her. if not, she is being selfish, in my humble opinion.

at least now you have ammo for if she goes buck wild buying shoes and purses and stuff =)

 

[uclap5]

Sounds like your lady won't be getting into cars, so you've got to make a peaceful coexistance of lady and mistress.

Do some Pavlovian training on your woman. Whenever you do something to your car treat out your lady or take her shopping. eventually she will associate you working on your car with a positive reward.

 

[KYREDP5]

It will never work out if she is jealous of an inanimate object. Sit her down, tell her how immature/controling she's acting and whatnot, and how it makes you feel.

But I think if someone in insecure enough to be resentful that you have a hobby that make you happy is truely being selfish and doesn't really care wheather your happy or not. I mean come-on, it's not like your gonna be farking your car or anything.

My ex was the same way. My advice, run, run far, and run fast.

 

[JDM Sam]

i say **** it ditch da b**** and free urself from the ball and chain! dont settle for just avg. u didnt with the mazdaspeed so why should u with ur gf? or give her this analogy ask her to go out dressed up all raggidy. tell her its the same way with ur car and u want to take care of it so it dont look busted up.

 

[herbieP5]

Man, tell her to look at it this way. at least you are only obsessed with a car and not some other chick. if she gets jelous from you looking at your car, how does she react when you sneek a peek at a hottie on the street? I think she needs to relax, get involved with it. My GF didnt know dick about cars till I met her, now she is looking to get one and do it up better than mine................the competition is on. lol

 

[MarkSpark]

Whenever I take a gander at my car, my girl always jokes that I love the car more than her. It never gets any more serious than that. Sorry about your problem.

 

[cjstringer]

I used to own a 5 series BMW when I was with one of my exgfs. She hated the car because I spent a lot of time with it, but all she ever wanted to do was sit around inside and talk, so I started making her come outside so I could work on the car and talk to her. I tried the 'take her out after cleaning it' thing too thinking it would be like a reward, but then she just complained that I spent the day with "The Car" and was trying to buy her silence. Pretty much didn't work, and she got jealous enough that we broke up. Funny thing is, her parents thought it was cool I appreciated the car so much. Her brother and I are still friends, and we work on his cars at their house still. I love seeing her drive up with her new bfs in their POS cars. I know it makes her happy, and I get a good laugh. 5 years after the relationship and she still resents my love for cars, even more so because I got her brother into it, and we don't even speak to each other. Crazy stuff.
Sorry to say, but if she is jealous of a car, imagine what it would be like if you ever spoke to another woman. Just won't work.
My fiance, now, laughs when I talk about my car. She wants nothing to do with it, but is very happy that I have a hobby that can keep me happy and occupied, and never gives me crap unless the yard work starts falling behind, which I admit I slack in to get that extra coat of wax on the car.
Oh well, just my opinion. Good luck, but personally, if a car is that big of an issue, there are hidden demons somewhere, and when they show up, it will only get uglier. Run while you can, or tell her how it's gonna be. I hate ultimatums, but some times it's the only way.

 

[servoeyes]

Yeah...my girl says that I love the car more than her, but most of the time she's joking. She's pulled it up in an argument once and I rebuffed her comments later on. She understood why I felt the way that I did about what I needed to do. If your girl is really serious about it, though you have 3 options:

1) Prove to her that she's wrong
2) Follow Uclap5's advice...which is great but can be expensive
3) Leave her...you're both still young. If she's just starting college and you're willing to follow her across the country, you may have more problems than her not getting along with your car.

It happens all the time, and no one wants to believe it'll happen to them, but it's better to play it safe. If there are issues now, resolve them now. You'll have bigger fish to fry later.

 

[Logan]

I think we need to know more about her.
Does she have hobbies? Friends? Do things when you're not around?
If you have a life, and she doesn't that could be part of the problem.
I think it's great that you are trying to do things with your car and with her. It shows that you want her to be a part of your life and want her to see/do the things you are interested in.
Do you do the same for her? Does she drag you along to things she likes to do? How does it make you feel?
Make sure you're making an effort to do the things she likes, but you don't.
Honestly though, it's just a car. No matter how much you love it, 15 years from now it will be a piece of junk (possibly) while you could be married to this girl and have a family.