Help: Give a guy a second chance? karma..?

[mopiko]

Figure I would say the exact same thing that all the past 4 pages of people have said... dump him... simply put, almost all of the guys posted in this thread so far (plus me) knows that when we found the right one we're not going to make ourselves available (at least not so soon!) I've been with my gf for almost 2 years now... sure when a hot chick walk by I'll look at her, and when a hot chick look at me I would smile back (this hardly ever happen cuz I'm rather ugly ), guys check out hot chicks, sure, but that never meant that I would make myself available for that girl if she asks for my phone number... Yeah, it feels dumb not to, but my gf is whom I have my heart on, I always remember that before I decided not to give out any hints...

I think enough of us here had said it... dump him... please... for the love of this forum... dump him...

 

[The L]

Seriously I think you must be a friend of mine, going through the same thing...but now 5 times worse. She picked up a guy, found out he was cheating on her multiple times and continued to forgive him hoping he would change. Each time it was the same tale about how he would never do it again and how he was so sorry and how he never meant to hurt her and how he loved her blah freaking blah freaking blah! But she continued to be the dumb broad that forgave him over and over again until the day that she got preggers with his kid. Not believing in abortion and all she kept her daughter with the dream that maybe having a family would change him. (in the words of Whitney Houston...OH HE!! TO THE NAW!) She is pregnant, he has one chick after another all of which he continually tells lies to including her. The the day comes when her daughter is almost two and she finds out that not only has he been cheating on her with maybe like the 6th or 7th chick, but he has had their daughter around the girl.

My grandma used to say, do it to me once, shame on you, do it to me again shame on me. I will give you this peice of advice, you can change your shoes, you can change your purse, you can change your drawls....but you can't change a man!

GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!

 

[nonameheroes]

well steph...this may be late but if i had been near a computer and saw this...i say kick his ass to the curb and let him rot in jail. he did the crime, he should do the time and suffer for it as well. i think you should have left his car with the keys in it somewhere and just called a cab.

 

[Poseur]

I'm seeing posts where you're claiming you haven't always been honest in the past, are you saying that you were with him? What about him do you "love"? Also, you BOTH were out and driving around when he was arrested, I assume it wasnt' like he forced you to hop in the car with him while you knew he was drunk. As far as the cel phone thing goes. YES you had to look through to find friends, but we all know you looked at this texts out of sheer curiosity/suspect, etc. Not that that's necessarily bad, but consider that to be symbolic of howmuch you trust him.

Everyone's got their own sets of ideals, and lives in their own world, so no one can truly decide for you, and you're weak if you let that be the case.

Take responsibility for yourself and your life. If he works into that sobeit, but in the end it all comes down to answering the question "What do YOU want out of life?" and then figuring out the steps you need to take to get there. They're not always easy.

 

[pro00]

I am soo sorry to hear what you have been through. You are already a good person. Many others would have left him to rot in that place till somebody notice that he was missing. You were a good person to let him out. Leave it at that and continue with your life. you will meet others who would appreciate you more and be honest with you. in a part, thank god that this happened before you got married or anything.
thus, you could part without any courts or god forbid children involved.

once a liar (and a big one at it), always.

 

[Dexter]

****'m.

my thoughts exactly.

 

[Antoine]

Man...This really rubs me the wrong way...I was lucky to meet Steph once while I was visiting home...She's a total sweety and a great friend...The best thing to do in my book is learn from this and move forward...whether that's with him or someone else...experience...learn...improve...you will find the right guy...stay positive.

For now...take some time off and let him get his life together...Deep down you know what's best.

 

[NoRotorNoMotor]

make sure you get that diamond back before you dump him

 

[sanblaster]

Qui Gon Zel, I hope you apologized to everyone who took you in and you backstabbed. I am glad that you changed your life but you still had a negative affect on many people who tried to assist you and that is completely wrong and unjustifiable. Thanks for sharing your story though and yes people do change but like yourself sometimes they are given way too many opportunities and that is something that can't be done because there is just too much heartbreak and pain involved. Peace, Santos