2 pennies
I only read the first page so if things are resolved just ignore this. But Matt with the whole communication thing, if you find yourself "claming up" when you sit down to talk with her just do this. Before you talk, write everything you want to say down, and keep the paper with you as you talk. Try not to look at it, but if you have to read it as you wrote it. May look a little silly but it works, and you will be able to say what you need to.
Second, I don't want to sound like an ass but if she has no motivation to get a job or a stable one and is, for lack of a better word, getting in your way you should move on without her. You don't want to be carring a lot of dead weight with you, its not smart.
Third and last, do it as quick as you can. I don't know how you are with kids, but myself I like kids. My little brother and I get a long great. I met a girl that had a 2 year old herself and she infact was 22, kinda wierd, anyways she didn't seem to have any motivation in life so I had to let her go while it was still early. I am one that gets attached to kids, and her son was starting to get attached to me, he called me dad once, scared the hell out of me.
Anyways, what I am saying is do what it takes, if it means writing it down do it.
