Dating your best-friend's EX...

[Hughes412]

There is also a saying that goes something like this.

A TRUE friend is something not everyone ever finds. A true friend will give you his last dollar, or give you the close off his back. A true friend will give his/her life in order to save yours.

If when youre on your deathbed and you can honestly look back and say you have had such a friend and you were that kind of a friend. Then at that time you can say your life was worth something.

 

[Wes]

Some great responses in this thread. I thank you all.

Ok, you all got me... this IS about me and my current situation. From the responses, I've gained a refocus on what is truly important... my friendship. This is my bro, my confidant, the guy that is there for me no matter what. A friendship I value more than nearly anthything... he is my familia.
I like this girl a lot, but I'm not so sure that it is much more beyond lust. It's even possible that part of our attraction to each other is the simple fact that it is "forbidden" if you know what I mean. I think she had planned it would just be sex... our little secret type thing. Sounded ok for a while, if we keep our mouths shut then no one gets hurt right? Well, I had failed to recognize how unethical that is until I read everyone's responses. Sex is a powerful tool indeed.
I brought this all up with her, still waiting on a response. If she is agree's that it's worth talking about, I'll bring it up with him... but in a repectful and tactful way. No way I'm getting caught with my pants down on this one!

 

[RacerXGirl]

*sensible talk*

I'm glad you thought this through...

 

[Black_Protege_5]

Hey and Wes if it doesn't work out between you 2 send her my way. haha. Besides when are we going to hang out again. It's been a while.

 

[Wes]

Hey and Wes if it doesn't work out between you 2 send her my way. haha. Besides when are we going to hang out again. It's been a while.

For realz. I just got my car back from the shop. I have been pondering another fun run (MOCC only this time!) but with the holidays upon us I expected the turn out to be slim. So let's get something together for January!

 

[msp35]

Option 3. If your bestfriend has ANY interest in the ex whatsoever he'll find resentment in the fact you're even considering this. Bro's Before Ho's.
But if you can keep it on the DL then, booty call away!! (woohoo)

 

[Black_Protege_5]

^^Yea but things you keep on the DL have a way of getting around to bite you in the ass. It's never cool to go behind your friends back and do something like that. But if he is a good friend then he should also understand and let her go. For right now the best thing is to just sit back and observe and give slight hints without actually doing or saying anything.

And Wes we should plan something for Jan. Or maybe throw a New Years party

 

[Wes]

For sure. Let's put something up on the SoCal site soon for January. I am off to Vegas for New Years bro, it's a tradition

LOL... here's the horiscope I got today:

You are moving through an electrifying time, as you are wildly tickled by your own unusual desires. Although you can silently enjoy the fruits of your fantasies, talking about them can add a thrilling level of sweetness to your life. Don't keep your ideas to yourself, for the dreams that have awakened you can also bring awareness to your friends.

Wow.

 

[Wes]

I also find it interesting how close the poll is. Huh.

 

[Hughes412]

I also find it interesting how close the poll is. Huh.

I'm shocked that there aren't more for sneeking around. The people in the world today are all about me!

Anyways, In your first post you have already stated that he still has feelings for her and that SHE broke up with him. There are just some things that you never get over. I would say if they didn't keep the same friends then there might be a way in. But because they are around each other there are still feelings. I don't know, do it like this. If its just for ass don't do it. If you really like her and want to see where this thing can go, HAVE HER ASK HIM!!

 

[-pixy-]

If its just for ass don't do it. If you really like her and want to see where this thing can go, HAVE HER ASK HIM!!

thats a possibility too, if she is friends with him she could always ask if he would be ok with it... just to see what he says, or how he reacts.

but really, if you aren't serious about her, its not worth ruining a friendship over.

 

[BOOSTR]

Don't do it. I'm sure that there are plenty of other women out there to raise your manifold pressure! IMO, its not worth jeopardizing a friendship.

 

[Black_Protege_5]

I was thinking about going to Vegas also. Maybe you should bring her with you. What happens in Vegas stays haha. Call me later.

 

[-pixy-]

I was thinking about going to Vegas also. Maybe you should bring her with you. What happens in Vegas stays haha. Call me later.

oh noes... we've gotta bad influence here!

peer pressure!

 

[Black_Protege_5]

haha. No peer pressure from my side. If they get drunk and do something that is not my fault haha.

 

[Hughes412]

haha. No peer pressure from my side. If they get drunk and do something that is not my fault haha.

So you're saying get her drunk then!!???

 

[-pixy-]

So you're saying get her drunk then!!???

by the sound of things I don't think she needs to be drunk...

 

[ZoomZoomH]

just shake yer wii in front of her and it'll be on.

 

[-pixy-]

just shake yer wii in front of her and it'll be on.

girls love the wii

 

[Black_Protege_5]

Haha I am not saying get her anything. She is an adult and if she wants to drink she can. It's not Wes' fault if she drinks too much is it.