I bought a 99 LX with 105,000 and a bad clutch for $2000. Ive put the clutch in, and replaced all sway bar links, and both front control arms, and done all the brakes for fun, and ive got a check engine light that wont go out, but im pretty happy with my purchase.
Tommorrow the new kyb's and lowering springs go in.
It does sound like you've gone through a bit of stuff on a car that new and that expensive, but im sure you are still cheaper overall than a new car.
New cars are a big scam, but we buy them because it feels goo.