We've been back and forth. But every time he felt "unloved" he went looking for sympathy from other girls who'd listen to him. One of which was on this car forum a couple years back. She'd wrote me saying that she was sorry, but that it was he that was persuing her. Then whenever we'd have an arguement over something, he would say "you're just insecure". I found a phone number in his drawer before all this. Then he'd post comments to other women that were inappropriate for a married man on his car forum. He lied about being out late and where he'd been after a night out on the town. I found the receipts in his pockets telling me the truth he didn't want to share. There were a lot of little things, but still we went on. Then all of a sudden Xmas Eve, after not talking to me all day, I asked what he wanted me to do since he wasn't talking to me, so he told me to leave. I didn't understand why, but I packed my son's and I's presents in the car and left that night. When I came back home, he was gone. Which is why he wanted me to go in the first place. Cop out and take off when I wasn't there. And soon after his friends started telling me the truth about her - which were confirmed just yesterday by both of them.