To quote Seinfeld, what if "she's into it!".
The wife factor
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To quote Seinfeld, what if "she's into it!".
I'm young and not thinking about marriage at all, but speaking for relationship this is my take. I semi agree with knox. It is written that the man is responsible for the woman. They are equal as far as the level of communication, but ultimately the man has the say over the woman. Yet he is bond to do what is best for all. If you can afford this car, then why not get it. It is a wife's job to make her manhappy.....(not like that) (well maybe)...but if this is what can makes you happy and it is in reach, then she should be happy that she can make you happy, and let you get the car. I believe that when you get married your lives are shared, but that doesn't mean you can't have personal hobbies and such outside of the marriage. That is a healthy relationship. If there is a good reason to not get the car that she gives you then you should not get the car, gas prices and all that does not suffice unless you guys will not be able to afford it and will have to give your child less because of it. Why is she saying no to get it is the question.
Like a lot of people have said, communication is key. Give her some time to get used to the idea (at least a month). Approach it gently, and make sure she understands why you want it.
If you really need tricks,
1. Aim higher initially. Tell her you're thinking about a BMW 135 or something else more expensive, and then *compromise* on cost for the MS3.
2. Make it her idea, or at least get her agreement. Switch cars for a while, and see how long it takes before she agrees with your reasons for wanting something different. With a Prius, it may not take long.
DISCLAIMER: I didn't have to resort to tricks, so these are untested. My wife will be autocrossing our Jetta for the first time this weekend
If you really need tricks,
1. Aim higher initially. Tell her you're thinking about a BMW 135 or something else more expensive, and then *compromise* on cost for the MS3.
2. Make it her idea, or at least get her agreement. Switch cars for a while, and see how long it takes before she agrees with your reasons for wanting something different. With a Prius, it may not take long.
DISCLAIMER: I didn't have to resort to tricks, so these are untested. My wife will be autocrossing our Jetta for the first time this weekend
*Sigh*
Let's put it this way: If my husband came home with a car without consulting me, he'd be in some deep doo-doo with me.
Conversely, if I didn't consult my husband on a large purchase, I'd be in equal trouble.
No one should have the "final say" in any relationship. A couple that truly cares about making each other happy will do their best to reach a compromise.
The most successful relationships are full of compromise. If the man won't bend, why would you expect the woman to? (dunno)
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woohoo! The couple that autocrosses and does car stuff together, stays together.Like a lot of people have said, communication is key. Give her some time to get used to the idea (at least a month). Approach it gently, and make sure she understands why you want it.
If you really need tricks,
1. Aim higher initially. Tell her you're thinking about a BMW 135 or something else more expensive, and then *compromise* on cost for the MS3.
2. Make it her idea, or at least get her agreement. Switch cars for a while, and see how long it takes before she agrees with your reasons for wanting something different. With a Prius, it may not take long.
DISCLAIMER: I didn't have to resort to tricks, so these are untested. My wife will be autocrossing our Jetta for the first time this weekend
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woohoo! The couple that autocrosses together, stays together.
I don't autocross. Am I headed for disaster?
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I don't autocross. Am I headed for disaster?
lol...goofball. You love your hubby's car hobby and made it a hobby of yours too. You know what I mean.
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lol...goofball. You love your hubby's car hobby and made it a hobby of yours too. You know what I mean.
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I know, I'm just messing with ya! (kiss)
I must say, this guy is quite the catch. I'll be sure to send any single lady friends your way.
Ho-ly s***...
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you know what they say. "They cant all be winners" LOL
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The wife and I pride ourselves in our communication and understanding of each other.
so like osmeone else said. alot of these theroys of approaches are untested and I cant advise on many of them.
A car is a big finacial obligation and should be discussed by both sides.
I think she makes the cash in the family from what I take from OP's posts
so like osmeone else said. alot of these theroys of approaches are untested and I cant advise on many of them.
A car is a big finacial obligation and should be discussed by both sides.
I think she makes the cash in the family from what I take from OP's posts
ghettoracingkid
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good point Zspeed.
the wife does give me flack about getting either a bike or a miata but we are goign to try for kids soon so either isnt going to work out well.
i see her point
the wife does give me flack about getting either a bike or a miata but we are goign to try for kids soon so either isnt going to work out well.
i see her point
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find all the articles you can about husbands murdering their wives and leave them laying around the house!!
Option number 2 will either a)banish you from the pleasure zone or b)get you killed.
As everyone has said: sell her on the idea. Let her know how practical the MS3 is.
Personal Advice: If its an unwise financial move, don't do it. Also, if you have even the slightest pulse for driving excitement, never buy a prius....EVER!!! Gas could be $30/gallon. I'd save up for a tesla roadster
As everyone has said: sell her on the idea. Let her know how practical the MS3 is.
Personal Advice: If its an unwise financial move, don't do it. Also, if you have even the slightest pulse for driving excitement, never buy a prius....EVER!!! Gas could be $30/gallon. I'd save up for a tesla roadster
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then she'll have him arrested and sell the Prius and the Lexus to get a newer Lexus...not a good option.
my wife had no problem with me getting my speed3.
I upgraded from a higly modded Nissan 350Z with only 2 seats and no trunk due to my sound system upgrade. We could not go to the grocery store or take the dog to the park or take anythign anywhere. It road like s*** because it was dropped on its ass and was a cop magnet.
She preferred the 4 door with lots of room and a trunk. Preparing for a family this car will be more practical than the Z. It's also faster IMO! The Z felt pretty damn fast probably because it was loud and low to the ground so you felt the speed of the car more.
Oh well. Hey if you make the money it should be up to you! I have owned 3 2-seater cars in my life and it sucks when you want to take passangers or cargo
I upgraded from a higly modded Nissan 350Z with only 2 seats and no trunk due to my sound system upgrade. We could not go to the grocery store or take the dog to the park or take anythign anywhere. It road like s*** because it was dropped on its ass and was a cop magnet.
She preferred the 4 door with lots of room and a trunk. Preparing for a family this car will be more practical than the Z. It's also faster IMO! The Z felt pretty damn fast probably because it was loud and low to the ground so you felt the speed of the car more.
Oh well. Hey if you make the money it should be up to you! I have owned 3 2-seater cars in my life and it sucks when you want to take passangers or cargo
Agreed. While I believe the man is the head of the household, only a foolish man will not listen to advice from his wife. She is not my subordinate, she is my partner. I consult my wife on everything and communications & compromise is a must. But sometimes (in rare cases) a compromise cannot be reached and if it comes down to a really hard choice, I feel that I am responsible to make it after consulting with my wife and explaining to her why I feel that this is the best course of action. These cases are rare though and I can only think of 1 or 2 times in the 2.5 years we have been married that this has happened. The flip-side is, I also am responsible for the consequences of those choices and am prepared to apologize if my judgment was erroneous.
I would never buy a car without telling her, heck, we do ALL our finances together and share just about everything. But she respects me as the leader of our household and I respect her as my jewel of inestimable value and would trust her with anything. Without her love, guidance, strength and encouragement, we would not be where we are as a couple today.
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