The wife factor

[Shane5425]

i am all for independant chicks, my fiancee is very independant, we do what we want , we are both very stubborn and wont give ground. so its all about compromising, i gave up my protege turbo to get her a truck, then when it was time to get ride of here car (that i was driving) i got the Speed3..

you shouldknow your wife good enough to know how to get what you want.. or should anyways..

 

[freekwonder]

tried them and didn't work. here's why: she drives a 2008 lexus es 350, and before that a bmw 325. to her, the ms3 is an ugly econobox. as for room, the prius is just as roomy as the ms3. as for taking her out on a ride, she'll say the car is jerky and not as comfy as her lexus. (hand)

she's a wonderful wife, but just doesn't understand the joy of driving sporty cars with stick shift, which is not uncommon i guess.

I think the only way you are going to get the MS3 is if you can get her to understand where you are coming from and why you want the MS3. I guess I'm lucky, my wife doesn't care what I drive as long as it isn't putting the family in the poor house.

Also maybe try mentioning that when you are out of warranty the battery replacement is going to be the same cost of a new MS3.

I did the same thing Shane, my wife had an SUV and wanted a more fuel efficient car. So I had to get rid of my MSP to get her a civic and I drove the truck for a few years. Later on when they were having good deals on the MS6 she remembered what I did and even though it was going to cost more then I thought and I said no it's to expensive, she got dressed and told me we are going to go get me the car.

I would honestly ignore knox's post. I read it and instantly thought of the 1950s. I personally love having a wife that works, goes to school, helps provide for the family, and has her own mind.

 

[StealthWyvern]

Dude,
Tell your wife that you can get top dollar for the prius becuase their in such high demand before you have any major issues with it. And still get a pretty sweet deal on a ar that gets good gas mileage.

I dont know how you guys do the bills in your house but some people go half on the bills (house, elect, cable, ect ect) and then spend whatever left over on crap like phone, car and so forth. If tha is the case and can aford it go for it. I dont see why their would be an issue. Then aain its all on the mindset of your lady friend.

 

[mckraut]

I say spring a surprise test drive on her. At the time we bought the car, I had done hours and hours of research and knew what I wanted, but we hadn't talked seriously about it. Just for fun, one night I drove her to the dealership for a test drive in the MS3. After that, she wanted the car right then.

 

[mckraut]

Wow, what a bunch of poons.

Do all of you have women that work?

In my house, where I provide the food, and shelter for the family, my word is bond. I get what I want, and I am the alpha. No woman is going to tell me what I can and cannot do.

I truly feel sorry for guys with these "independent" women.

I hate that these woman want equal, yet un-equal treatment. Ether I treat her like a guy, like she say's she wants, equal treatment means equal treatment, for better or worse. If she wants to be treated like a man, I will, but don't expect all the pleasantries of being a woman to be bestowed upon her as well.

Or I can treat her like a woman, be sweet, and open doors, pull out chairs, and be extremely nice to her. But she's not getting the best of both worlds. That is unequal treatment for men, and reverse sexism.




All in all;

Put your foot down, grow some balls, and buy the car you want.

Are you ******* kidding me? Ignorant much?

I'm wonderful to my wife. Open doors, pull out chairs, all that jazz. But that doesn't mean that I own her or treat her like she's less of a person simply because she's female. You can't treat your wife like an equal and be a gentleman at the same time? That makes no logical sense to me. Does your wife do nice stuff for you? Does that mean you're a woman? WTF?

Join the 21st century, neanderthal.

 

[evilmonkeyMSP]

somebody hand that guy is wooden club....jesus....

 

[EvilJen]

Wow, what a bunch of poons.

Do all of you have women that work?

In my house, where I provide the food, and shelter for the family, my word is bond. I get what I want, and I am the alpha. No woman is going to tell me what I can and cannot do.

I truly feel sorry for guys with these "independent" women.

I hate that these woman want equal, yet un-equal treatment. Ether I treat her like a guy, like she say's she wants, equal treatment means equal treatment, for better or worse. If she wants to be treated like a man, I will, but don't expect all the pleasantries of being a woman to be bestowed upon her as well.

Or I can treat her like a woman, be sweet, and open doors, pull out chairs, and be extremely nice to her. But she's not getting the best of both worlds. That is unequal treatment for men, and reverse sexism.




All in all;

Put your foot down, grow some balls, and buy the car you want.

I sincerely hope you're kidding.

If not.... come spend a few hours with me. (glare)

Ya know, men that have to "assert" their authority over women are usually trying to compensate for a lack of "equipment" and the knowledge to use it to a woman's satisfaction.

 

[Kain]

I'll be honest: you may be a good husband, but right now she's being a lousy wife. Isn't a relationship supposed to be based on making your partner happy? I talked about purchasing an MS3 with my girlfriend (we cohabitate) so that she'd be involved in the buying process, but she was all for it because she knows cars are my hobby and it helps keep me happy. Otherwise, I can be a miserable **** to be around. (rant)

We test drove a used Saab 9-2x and a new MS3. She said I should get the MS3 because it gave me the bigger s***-eating grin. If she loves you, she'll do what makes you happy (obviously after considering if it's at all practical, of course. Can't make every decision off of emotion). And then remind her that you too care; take her out for a nice dinner and buy her flowers.

She's giving you lip now about something pretty inconsequential as buying a car... maybe it's systemic of other broader issues you two need to work out.

 

[RacerXGirl]

I think it comes down to:

a) can you afford it without it messing up your budget;

b) that there's compromise going on within the relationship (my sweetheart says one of my favorite words is reciprocity ), and:

c) it isn't a whim or impulse buy. If you have a track record of buying/selling/buying and ending up upside down in your car note, that's not good.

TALK to her. Pros and cons. Figure out why she may be reticent about this purchase.

Communication is key. Dictatorship-like behavior and totalitarianism does not make for a healthy relationship.

 

[EvilJen]

Dictatorship-like behavior and totalitarianism does not make for a healthy relationship.

And that works both ways, man or woman.

 

[ghettoracingkid]

I think it comes down to:

a) can you afford it without it messing up your budget;

b) that there's compromise going on within the relationship (my sweetheart says one of my favorite words is reciprocity ), and:

c) it isn't a whim or impulse buy. If you have a track record of buying/selling/buying and ending up upside down in your car note, that's not good.

TALK to her. Pros and cons. Figure out why she may be reticent about this purchase.

Communication is key. Dictatorship-like behavior and totalitarianism does not make for a healthy relationship.

+1

Communication is the key. now the fact taht she is driving a lexus and all that stuff and has had a bmw it doesnt seem fair.

talk to her logicly and rationally. and what you can put out on the table is that you want to trade cars every couple of weeks becuase you at least need a change out of the prius.

and as someone said. yeah she wil be like I hate that car or what ever and then that will open back up the conversation of the m3S

 

[ghettoracingkid]

BTW...

Marriage is not bad at all. I lvoe being married but it is a relationship that does take some effort. It is no longer jsut about you or them but its about us. what is good for us. once that is established then you are ready.

Never settle

 

[RacerXGirl]

BTW...

Marriage is not bad at all. I lvoe being married but it is a relationship that does take some effort. It is no longer jsut about you or them but its about us. what is good for us. once that is established then you are ready.

Never settle

Indeed! All relationships, not just marriages, need to have effort put into them.

 

[ghettoracingkid]

so RC wanna hook up? lol

 

[RacerXGirl]

lol...no, I'm good with my sweetheart Rogue, but thanks!

 

[GT-Mazdaspeed 6]

I say spring a surprise test drive on her. At the time we bought the car, I had done hours and hours of research and knew what I wanted, but we hadn't talked seriously about it. Just for fun, one night I drove her to the dealership for a test drive in the MS3. After that, she wanted the car right then.

This is true. Before "we" bought "our" Speed6, I had purchased every car magazine that had test-drives/reports/comparisons of the car. I knew more about the car than the guys at the dealership. I knew that's the car!!
After driving it off the lot, she said she could tell why I liked the car so much. She said "it's so fun to drive."
She doesn't care about cars, so it's always fun to hear her tell people how fun it is to drive.

 

[ecniemann]

tried them and didn't work. here's why: she drives a 2008 lexus es 350, and before that a bmw 325. to her, the ms3 is an ugly econobox. as for room, the prius is just as roomy as the ms3. as for taking her out on a ride, she'll say the car is jerky and not as comfy as her lexus. (hand)

she's a wonderful wife, but just doesn't understand the joy of driving sporty cars with stick shift, which is not uncommon i guess.

That's messed up. She can buy/drive Lexus's and BMW's, but you cannot upgrade!

I'll be honest: you may be a good husband, but right now she's being a lousy wife. Isn't a relationship supposed to be based on making your partner happy? I talked about purchasing an MS3 with my girlfriend (we cohabitate) so that she'd be involved in the buying process, but she was all for it because she knows cars are my hobby and it helps keep me happy. Otherwise, I can be a miserable **** to be around. (rant)

We test drove a used Saab 9-2x and a new MS3. She said I should get the MS3 because it gave me the bigger s***-eating grin. If she loves you, she'll do what makes you happy (obviously after considering if it's at all practical, of course. Can't make every decision off of emotion). And then remind her that you too care; take her out for a nice dinner and buy her flowers.

She's giving you lip now about something pretty inconsequential as buying a car... maybe it's systemic of other broader issues you two need to work out.

Agreed. If you can afford it and it makes you happy, she should be willing to accomodate you at minimum, and support you at best.

I think it comes down to:

a) can you afford it without it messing up your budget;

b) that there's compromise going on within the relationship (my sweetheart says one of my favorite words is reciprocity ), and:

c) it isn't a whim or impulse buy. If you have a track record of buying/selling/buying and ending up upside down in your car note, that's not good.

TALK to her. Pros and cons. Figure out why she may be reticent about this purchase.

Communication is key. Dictatorship-like behavior and totalitarianism does not make for a healthy relationship.

You said it girlfriend! (picture me on Tyra snapping my fingers in a sassy sort of way)

 

[fkmp5]

soon she'll be doing it with me!

slow down, you guys are taking things too fast in your relationship.

 

[zentrandi]

Only read WTF LOL's but here's my take.

Tell her that prius' are for fags and that if she doesnt want you to get with another man, she'll let you get the man car.

 

[zerilos]

wtf lol's post summed it up pretty well. I'd say get the car anyway especially if that's what'll make you happy, I'd hope she'd understand.