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[Mr.Law]

Hey guys-

Thanks for the advice. It really helps to have this 'support system' being that my entire family and majority of my buddies are in NYC. In any case, I appreciate it. I should mention that I get along very well with my girlfriend's parents. In fact, they've told me on several occasions that I'm "like a son they never had." I think what it really comes down to is that Greek families are close/tight-knit and like to live near each other. I'm not in any way coming down on this; in fact, I think it's admirable. My girlfriend had mixed feelings about coming to Chicago (because of her family), but her ultimate decision was to be with me. I, in no way influenced her. She did so willingly. If I was younger and she chose not to come along, I would have moved on, confident in finding someone else - now I would never take this chance. She's a real special girl, probably one in a million. I know this might sound corny, but I feel fortunate and honored just being in her presence. Oddly enough, she and I split up after a year of dating - neither of us was ready for anything serious (at the time), but our time apart was when we discovered how much we missed and loved each other so we got back together and it's been fabulous since. I've spoken with my mentor/buddy Tom (from law school) about my situation and he suggests that I propose to her and not "waste" any more time thinking or worrying. Tom is single and was sharing this sap story about being in love with this girl back in his 20's, but for a reason he did not disclose, they went their separate ways. He regrets having lost touch with her for so long, because when he finally did contact her, she had moved on and married someone else. He said and I quote him: "I now toast eggnog to myself, by myself, each Christmas." Sadly, he never found anyone else after her because he compared every girl he met to his lost love. For being a tough prosecutor, he's a softy when it comes to personal issues. I don't want my life to end up like his.

I think I'm going to fly down to NYC and discuss this in person with my girlfriend's parents and hopefully come to some sort of resolution where everyone is happy. I'll be sure to keep you all posted. Thanks again for the support.

Michael

BTW, I realize this isn't a 'therapy forum,' so I'll talk about cars from now on.

 

[Dimitrios]

I think I'm going to fly down to NYC and discuss this in person with my girlfriend's parents and hopefully come to some sort of resolution where everyone is happy. I'll be sure to keep you all posted. Thanks again for the support.

Michael

BTW, I realize this isn't a 'therapy forum,' so I'll talk about cars from now on.

Good luck and good attitude; it seems like you love this girl and she loves you (obviously). I wish you the best.

As for the "therapy forum", I myself have found being in NEED of therapy after hanging out with the Mazdateam. I don't suffer from insanity, I enjoy it (thumb) (poke)

 

[Lord_Zath]

Good luck. I think you're taking the proper course of action.

 

[Mr.Law]

Good luck. I think you're taking the proper course of action.

Thanks. I'll be flying up to NYC on the 20th of this month to [hopefully] resolve this with Eleni's folks.

 

[Captain KRM P5]

good luck

 

[JOS3]

like steve said, its sounds like your making the right decision and i think it is definitely in your best interest to get prior approval from her parents before you ask her. i think they will appreciate it considering how close she is with her family. good luck (2thumbs)

 

[Familia323]

I concur. Good luck; we will be here if you need us.

 

[Mr.Law]

I concur. Good luck; we will be here if you need us.

Thanks man, I appreciate it. We're leaving for NYC this Friday and will be staying for the entire weekend. My plan is this: to first speak with her parents WITH Eleni, and then to speak with her parents W/OUT Eleni. I'm going to ask her father for her hand in marriage, so I obviously don't want her present at that time. I've thought more and more about it - although I initially wanted to wait another year until we married, I really love this girl and can't imagine my life without her. What's the point of waiting when I know she's the one for me? I'm now racking my brain about ideas on how I can propose to her. Anything you guys can think of and let me know would be helpful. I've got a couple ideas in mind, but I'm not sure as of yet. I want it to be really special and memorable - she deserves the best. (kiss)

 

[Captain KRM P5]

I really love this girl and can't imagine my life without her. What's the point of waiting when I know she's the one for me? I'm now racking my brain about ideas on how I can propose to her. Anything you guys can think of and let me know would be helpful. I've got a couple ideas in mind, but I'm not sure as of yet. I want it to be really special and memorable - she deserves the best. (kiss)

took the words out of my own mouth, exactly the way i felt when i proposed

 

[Familia323]

have you ever talked to each other about how she wants to be proposed to? Because I know some girls would like it in front of a lot a people and some would rather it be a close personal thing.... So if you know the answer to that .. then I might have some more ideas for you.

 

[Mr.Law]

have you ever talked to each other about how she wants to be proposed to? Because I know some girls would like it in front of a lot a people and some would rather it be a close personal thing.... So if you know the answer to that .. then I might have some more ideas for you.

We haven't discussed it in detail, but I definitely think she'd prefer that it was just she and I without people around. Eleni is somewhat reserved and doesn't feel comfortable being the center of attention. I respect this, so I'd like to do something more personal where it's just the two of us. Thanks for your willingness to offer ideas/suggestions - I look forward to hearing them.

 

[JOS3]

We haven't discussed it in detail, but I definitely think she'd prefer that it was just she and I without people around. Eleni is somewhat reserved and doesn't feel comfortable being the center of attention. I respect this, so I'd like to do something more personal where it's just the two of us. Thanks for your willingness to offer ideas/suggestions - I look forward to hearing them.

sounds like my wife, amy.

 

[Familia323]

hmm.. well then. There is always the restaurant bit.. where you find a really nice place that has somewhat secluded booths, and speak with them ahead of time and have them prepare a dessert or something with the ring presented in the food. Its sorta hard to give you exact ideas because I don't know you guys' personal little things. Like for example my exgirlfriend loved horses. If I were to have proposed to her I would probably have gone horseback riding with her to an area that I had set up ahead of time with candles and such and then proposed there. But made it sound like just a picnic at first. So basically try to figure out something that she likes to do, then take her to do that, but incorporate your proposal into it. I dunno if that helps? I'll probably think of more things too, but not really awake yet.

 

[Familia323]

ooh I just thought of another one...... here is a good one that I like and have used(not to propose or anything). Use a series of notes, to lead her to a place that you want to propose to her at. Like say she gets home from work you have a note on the table with a rose attached to it, that says for her to go to the bedroom and look on the bed. Then on the bed is another note with another little gift that has directions on it... And with this you can get as extravagant and as clever as you want. Like leading her downstairs to a limo that is waiting to take her to where ever. One of the little gifts could be a key to a room somewhere... bla bla bla..... hope that helps.

 

[Lord_Zath]

or pull a Peter Griffin and lead her to the golf course lol

 

[Fear]

or pull a Peter Griffin and lead her to the golf course lol

i couldnt believe this thread wasnt jacked yet -- then i saw this post.

 

[Lord_Zath]

why thank you.

 

[Mr.Law]

Quick update (good news)

Hey guys-

Hope the meet went well Saturday - sounds like good times per the posts. Eleni and I arrived in Chicago earlier than expected, but all is well. Without going into too much detail, her folks did a complete turnaround. Just last month they were threatening to disown her, but they now had a completely different attitude. I think they have [finally] realized just how much we love each other and how happy we are together. Hence, they have accepted the fact that she will be staying with me in Chicago. Life is good.

We had been separated almost a year due to the fact that neither of us was ready for a serious relationship, but I ended up falling into a deep depression without Eleni in my life (she's not aware of this). There was this void that couldn't be filled no matter how hard I tried - I bought and sold six cars, put in endless hours at work, and threw myself into engineering projects in hopes of getting her out of my mind. I did everything imaginable to keep my mind off her, but nothing worked. I knew it was a sign for me to get back in touch with her. I'm so glad I did (considering how stubborn I can be). Most, if not all people say that time heals all wounds - perhaps for some people this is true, but for me this wouldn't have been the case. I would have regretted it for the rest of my life if I hadn't initiated a contact with her. Lesson learned? Follow your heart and screw listening to other people. It's your life after all. If I had listened to others and their advice, I would have been without her and still depressed.

Anyway, thanks again for just reading and offering support. I'm still working on ideas on how to propose to her - she loves the fall season best, so I'm planning to wait until October/November. Keep those ideas coming this way! Thanks again guys-

 

[Dimitrios]

Michael, great to hear it worked out! We'll all be expecting invites for the wedding....we'll get you a Protelimo (boom02)

 

[Lord_Zath]

Congratulations!