so pissed at my fiance

[Ryoga28]

I got a sick guinea pig with an infected left foot because of self mutilation. I didn't think she needed to see a vet yet and I just clean her wounds and bandage it. Well today, when I came home the cage was filled with blood and I asked my fiance, Maria, about it and was told that guinea removed the bandage and started to bite herself. I asked her why she didn't tie the bandage back on to which she replied that she didn't know how.

So I started to look for a vet, but I was serverly underfunded because I was waiting for my financial aid check to come it (end of the month). I asked Maria to spot me because the guinea pig is suffering. She told me no because the guinea pig was mine...

We lived together for 2 years and we have a rabbit and three guinea pigs. I take care of her rabbit often (take Bouncy to the vet, give her meds, paid her bill sometimes) and this is how Maria treats me when Guinea is suffering.

I'm so pissed off right now and my hands are shaking. I can't believe she can be so cruel...How is she going to act when our child is sick and suffering from intorlable pain?

 

[Dexter]

Well maybe the ****** thing shouldnt be trying to gnaw its foot off like a retard. Sorry, thats just what i think .

 

[Ryoga28]

I think it may have some kind of a fungal infection...I just don't know. My guinea pig was ok last week, but all of a sudden bam!

 

[Dexter]

Ahh, well...then.....your fiance sucks and should spot you the money to take it to the vet.

 

[jflo]

damn...just steal that money out of her purse when she's not looking...

 

[Ryoga28]

Right now, I'm in a empty lecture hall and I'm planning to stay here until they kick me out (2am)...Class is @ 8am tomorrow. So I'll go home and clean guinea's wounds again.

This is frustrating...I can't provide health care because I don't know anything about guinea pigs (penicillin derivatives are highly toxic). I'm not even sure if it's bacterial, skin, mental, or fungal.

 

[katsmp3]

You should be fine with the kid, as long as you dont adopt. BUT REMEMBER... right now she is your fiance... THIS IS YOUR CHANCE TO TURN BACK.

I might be a softy... by I took in my friends terminally ill German Shephard because he didn't believe in taking animals to the vet. She (the dog) could have been treated when she was a puppy, but wasn't and therefor didn't have much hope. I made $100 dollars a week as a student worker and spent half of it taking the dog to the vet. So knowing that you can understand why I read your post and was astounded at the fact that 10 minutes after it happened..... you were still engaged to her.

kat

 

[BadBandar]

thats some shady stuff. she killed it! revenge is sweet(hint).

 

[changedman]

if something like this seriously gets in the way, i cant see much changing after you get married...

are you going to let these things ruin your life?

basic questions of life.

 

[Ryoga28]

Right now I am having second thoughts...and I'm crying inside. I can't help my guinea pig and my fiance doesn't care. I hate her right now...

 

[chuyler1]

Don't you have a credit card? Use it and by the time the bill comes in, you will have your financial aid money to pay it....that is the purpose of a credit card.

Anyway, one time while cutting my guinea pig's nails I cut too far and she bled like crazy. I had to hold her for an hour with a bandage on her foot until the bleeding stopped.

I miss them, we had to give them up when we moved into our apartment.

 

[Ryoga28]

I can't use my credit cards (2), because they are almost maxed (living off of it for a month). on this post, http://www.msprotege.com/forum/showpost.php?p=1143038&postcount=192, the guinea pig I'm talking about is the big one on the left.

 

[Ryoga28]

Some good news...My mom and my sister in Hawaii will be each be sending $100 money order and I should be able to see a vet on Friday. Hopefully my guinea pif will last until then. My classmate, who is doing his family practice rotations, will also be lending me some cash soon. I need to seriously think about the relationship I'm in. Personally I think it's dead, when we only have sex once a month, because she doesn't feel like it. She's only 24 god damn it!

 

[msubullyfan]

if something like this seriously gets in the way, i cant see much changing after you get married...

(mswerd) A wedding ring acts like an amplifier... any problems you see before the "I do"s are much more evident afterwards.

My wife has never told me "NO" about anything I've ever asked her to do, and I haven't done so to her, either.

What Maria wants seems to be more important that what you want. That's the #1 problem in every troubled marriage.

 

[changedman]

Right now I am having second thoughts...and I'm crying inside. I can't help my guinea pig and my fiance doesn't care. I hate her right now...

words like that/attitude tell me its not even worth getting married

It will just fizzle to fast.

Don't hurt yourself like that.



its the truth.

 

[P.R.Aftermath]

well the relationship your in sounds like crap IMO....i cant say much because I do not actually know you or your soon to be wife.....which I honestly think you should drop. Yes, being with a person for so long can mess with your head, but then again think about the future. What may happen next? Your car breaks down and you need money to fix it , she says no! You need money for school or something else and she says no! How much more can a person take? I am glad to hear that your family is sending you money because they actually care about the situation. I dont have much but I do not mind sparing a couple of bucks if you need it. I believe help someone now and it all comes back...kinda like karma...but enough of getting of the topic...drop the girl.....there are WAY TO MANY women out there who can show love and help there loved ones out in there time of need and they are willing to put out more than once a month! Make sure she isnt cheating on you. Dont mean to put ideas in your head but if she seems distant and doesnt want to is because maybe she is doing it with someone else. I've seen it happen . Just my $.02 Sorry for the novel

 

[Ryoga28]

...it's complicated. I owe her because she did help me pay some of my living expenses last year in med school. I think I borrowed about 10 K because my financial aid was lacking. Everybody, my mom, sister, and even my therapist (stress from school) told me I need to leave this girl. But I just don't know how. We share the same apartment (paid half for rent) and I love that rabbit (which I gave her for her birthday). It's hard...It's not easy to just pack up and leave.

 

[MinnowGT]

hmm sounds a little like me and my ex-fiance.
we lived together. but my stuff was my responsibily and her stuff was "our" responsibility. we used to be excited to be together then she didn't "feel like it".

month later we broke off and would you guess about a week later she was seeing someone else.

bah. women are trouble. easier just being me and my dog.

 

[P.R.Aftermath]

...it's complicated. I owe her because she did help me pay some of my living expenses last year in med school. I think I borrowed about 10 K because my financial aid was lacking. Everybody, my mom, sister, and even my therapist (stress from school) told me I need to leave this girl. But I just don't know how. We share the same apartment (paid half for rent) and I love that rabbit (which I gave her for her birthday). It's hard...It's not easy to just pack up and leave.

I understand its not easy to just pack up and leave. But if you keep trying

and she doesnt why bother? Take the rabbit, move into a less expensive

apartment when you get financially stable and enjoy life when your rolling in

the big bucks when you get your degree. Women love doctors!

 

[flat_black]

Well, you could try bringing the ginuea to the vet, and explaining your situation; Some vets will just send you a bill, then you can take care of it as you'd need to. My friend who works as a vet does that frequently, and it's not a big deal, generally.