so pissed at my fiance

Originally we were going to get married when I graduate from school (mom thinks this is strange...), but now I want to postpone it. Although I still have 3 more years of school left, I think I can separate from her when she has her own life. Right now, she's not even sure of what she wants in life. My biggest character flaw is money management. And also I'm not too serious most of the time (lots of smiles), which doesn't seen very professional now. I'm working on my problems. Maria can be supportive sometimes, but other times she just pisses me off. I thought it was just normal in a relationship.

She loves to stay home and sleep. Doesn't do house work, unless I ask her. Doesn't like shopping or going out for dinner. I'm pretty much out going and I can't stand a messy house. It sometime drives me nuts.

Sometimes I do understand why she's mad at me...Before I have the money, I already have plans to spend it. I'm not realible with money management and it makes her feel insecure with me.
 
flat black,

I'll talk to my vet again tomorrow (today they are off, and responded to a emergency call) to plead my case. They've already made tons of money on my rabbit (GI stasis problem and teeth spurs). Hopefully I can get an appointment soon. Guinea seems a bit depressed lately and doesn't play with the others at night.
 
thanks for the support. I'll be strong enough and financially secure to leave one day. I will put off any discussion about marriage.
 
mp5jeff said:
sex 1 time a month at 24? that = getting it somewhere else...
Nope don't have to worry about that. I know she's not cheating for sure. She's just a emotional mess with little sex drive. It sucks because it makes want to have an affair or something sometimes...sigh...
 
sounds like a bad relationship. good luck. please for the love of god dont have children with her.
 
Dexter said:
Well maybe the ****** thing shouldnt be trying to gnaw its foot off like a retard. Sorry, thats just what i think .
(rofl)

you da man Dex!


ON a serious note: Man, I think there's more going on here then just a guinea pig. And this has to be one of the strangest relationship threads ever on this forum

Good luck
 
just give her a friendly reminder that when you guys do have kids, you will treat him/her the same way she treated your guine pig...

if she uses that lines its different, tell her they both are part of the family and deserve equal treatment..

and if she uses that line you can always get another guine pig, tell her you can always "make" a new kid if the first one doesn't live pass 3
 
About children..I don't think that's going to happen anyway. Once a month. also she's crazy about contraceptions...condoms+vaginal spermacide, plus no cumming inside...sigh...it's depressing...
 
Ryoga28 said:
About children..I don't think that's going to happen anyway. Once a month. also she's crazy about contraceptions...condoms+vaginal spermacide, plus no cumming inside...sigh...it's depressing...
Hmmm (headshake kats right time to get out...
 
i agree
P.R.Aftermath said:
I understand its not easy to just pack up and leave. But if you keep trying

and she doesnt why bother? Take the rabbit, move into a less expensive

apartment when you get financially stable and enjoy life when your rolling in

the big bucks when you get your degree. Women love doctors!
 
For less than Ten Bucks, you can put neosporin on that sucker's foot and Fashion a Neck Cone to keep him from being able to curl around and gnaw on his foot ( Kind'a like the satellite dishes you see on dogs to keep them from gnawing on themselves)

as far as the broad goes, if she's already a pain right now, she'll be intolerable in the future, take it from a Married man. You need to nut it up and be completely honest to yourself. Just ask yourself... is THIS how I want to spend the rest of my life ?
if you even hesitate for a moment before saying "yes" then you need to make a few changes
 
I never want to see a couple break up for nothing, but it sounds like there's big problems with what you've got going. You help her, she doesn't help you, and feelings are (legitimately) hurt big time because your values and hers seem miles apart. Take a good long look at what you've got, and if it's not gonna work out, bow out as gently (to yourself as well as her) as you can, and figure that it's gonna hurt inside for a while. Do what you have to do to get clear of any financial debts to her. What ever it costs, it will be worth in later. I'm probably old enough to be your father, and have worked with lots of stressed-out medical staff in Emergency/Critical Care over 20 years, which means I've seen enough of other people's pain and hurt to last a lifetime. If I can help you to avoid some, I'm glad to help. Good luck.
 
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Ryoga28 said:
Nope don't have to worry about that. I know she's not cheating for sure. She's just a emotional mess with little sex drive. It sucks because it makes want to have an affair or something sometimes...sigh...
Does she know how to work the internet? Hopefully she doesn't read these posts while your taking care of "Guinea".(bicker)
 
moos:
I used up my last few bucks that I was going to use for gas to get gauze bandage and some antiseptics to clean the wound (deep). Neosporin was a couple dollar more than I had and I wasn't sure if it was sure for these little critters.

Although she pisses me off sometime, because she's not great at speaking her mind, she does have some good points. She's great with money, doesn't wear any make up, and sometimes she's most sensitive girl I've met (sometimes too sensitive).


olddognewtrks:
I've had a pretty sheltered life when it came to fianaces, because my parents (although not rich) would take care of everything. All of a sudden, when I got out of college for med school I was thrown into a serious relationship with responsibilities (rent, payments). I went from almost zero debt to 3 full cc in a matter of two years because of my stupid compulsions. I'm trying my best to fix my character flaw, but it's hard to (75% non-compliance to behavior changes). I was planning to pay her back later on by buying a house when I get into a residency, which she probably would love.

Right now after getting a hour worth of sleep, I'm still not sure. I just need to cool down and give it more thought. One thing I do dislike about her is that she is not expressive of her feelings or whatever is on her mind. I usually have to ask her several times before she would give me a hint to the answer...


thanks for the advice. My parents hve been telling me the same things, but I just don't listen.
 
once a month? holy s***! that's horrible...and the little one...well, she could be trying to teach you a lesson? i guess i'm the only one that sees that. you should always have a little something in the bank in case of an emergency...maybe she's just trying to help you with your money management thing...hell, i dunno...if you're not happy, leave. i dated a girl for 2 yrs...she was older, wanted to get married...one day i came home from work, listened to her usual bs, and thought "i don't want to live every day like this." so i left. it was the best thing i have ever done. if your friends and family tell you to ditch her, do it. they probably see something that you don't...it's easier sometimes when you're on the outside looking in.
 
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