Needing some oppinions.

[Black Majik MSP]

Hang in there Steph...you've got lots of friends on here who will be there for you whenever you need them. It kind of goes along with the Bell quote, but my personal experiences have taught me that some of the best things in life come out of our greatest struggles.

 

[CruzinAltitude]

Steph, coming from someone who spent 6 years in a relationship that made me cry inside I have learned somthing in the last 6 months (since I told her we are getting a divorce), I can look back on the last 6 years and hate what the decisions I made did to my life and it will eat me up inside. Or I can look at what lies ahead, and try to figure out the best way to get me where I need to be is, and do it. I dont regret the years I was wither her, I learned a hell of a lot, and I will take those lessons forward.

If the sacrifices your hobby requires you to make are too much for your life right now, then slow down, sacrifice some of your hobby to fulfill the other parts of your life. No one should judge you for that. You have to take care of yourself.

I would be damn proud to have the legacy of starting the first Major Protege Club in Southern Ca. We all know that you have Made what MOCC is what it is today. There is NOTHING wrong with stepping back and let someone else step you to the helm.

 

[Salmon_Rob]

im only 18, but ive seen a lot, and i know a lot for a youngin. if you think the spicy msp is causing your troubles, deep down, and you think selling it is the right thing to do, then no one should stop you. however, i seriously doubt that it is the msp. when i was going to sell my car this year, it wasnt really because i wanted an rx7, it was because there were too many memories that i had of my car with my best friend that had died. i just couldnt take having the car. but after some serious reflection, i realized that i would be even more unhappy without her. and i cant afford 90% of what i put on my car, hell i cant afford what i spend on my gf, or what i spend going out on wednesday night, or the weekends with my friends, but i do. do u know y? because its not about money, the cars, the forum. its the people that you meet, the friendships and the bonds that you have right out of the box, without really knowing anyone, merely because they share a common intrest. its living your life without those regrets, and enjoying it for what it is. its never looking back, except to reflect on the good times. all i can say to you is steph, its not what youve done wrong that defines your character. its what you do in an adverse situation to make it right.

 

[Ceej]

Hey man, don't feel so bad, you could be into boats!

 

[Salmon_Rob]

LOL yeah...boats are expensive

 

[ZoomZoomH]

give me a call steph if you want to talk, everybody needs support when they're in difficult times

you'll get through it steph, i believe in you

 

[Natey]

(group)

Steph, I don't want you to leave for my own selfish reasons. I think your one of the coolest people on this forum, and it wouldn't be as fun around here without you. You're the MOCC guru! Where will us Cali people meet? (shrug)

That said, I sort of agree with you. Once in a while, I'll have a moment of clarity and think "Why the f-ck am I pouring all my time/money/effort into a car? An economy car? An economy Station Wagon?? And WTF am I doing on the internet all day when I don't have to be? Cooped up on this one little site... The answer is it makes me feel good, and that's the bottom line AFAIK, if it feels good, do it. We only live once, so my theory is to pack as much fun into that little bit of time as we can.

I also agree with what's been already said...The MSP is pretty cheap to maintain, and you need a car no matter what, living in L.A., so just keep the SpicyMSP, and maybe take a little break from the forums for awhile. You'll be missed while you're gone, but as long as we know you'll be back, I think we'll survive without you. For a little while, at least.

Anyway, sorry for babbling, and I really hope things begin to look up for you soon, Steph. (kiss)

 

[SpicyMSP]

steph, you still need a car right? the msp is not that expensive a car to own or maintain. i think if you got rid of the car you might still feel this way. it sounds like the car is catching the blame for something else??

catching the blame no... But I did also say other things were wrong besides the car. Thank you for the support guys, I really needed it.

 

[laracroft]

I know we may have not always seen eye to eye. But I'll share something with you. Ghost and I have a mortgage, 2 cars, a son, the club, two different careers outside the club, bills, etc. It's been HARD... extremely so, sometimes. The road trips, the out of pocket for the club, our own bills at home, jobs that drive us nuts and have odd hours, other people calling to ask questions, our personal time spent together as a family, .... the list goes on. Parts are always expensive.... the club can get expensive... relationships are put on hold or cave in sometimes.... it's not an easy life for the most part. But what we've gotten out of it can be so much more than everything we've been put through. The best part of everything is the friendships that we've gotten along the way. All of our very close family friends are all part of the club. Everyone understands when we have a problem and are right there to help us out. It's been one big family. The people in MOCC will understand whatever it is that you're going through and they will help you through it. Think hard before you make any decisions though. All of us at one time or another wanted to quit this. It's easy to understand why. Lean on others that have gone through this as well and it'll help you through. Good luck!!!

 

[mypfizzle]

steph .. if u sell your car.. im going to come live on your couch in my scoobydoo pjs.. and give you elbow drops everytime u start to fall asleep. -=)
besides.. id miss my pez buddy..

 

[ZoomZoomH]

say it with me steph:

"serenity now"

there, feel better?

 

[SpicyMSP]

No, I dont necessarily want to quit. Although I am more confident now that MOCC will be fine without me. I am still in the process of beginning to trust others, and I am working on it. From the beginning it was just me, having to do everything. Now that MOCC has grown, and now that I know I can trust a good group of people to take care of things.
If I do decide to take a break, I know the club will be fine. I would like however all major MOCC desions to be presented to me.
Dont get me wrong, I love the meets, I love the people... and I love my car, but I just wish people didn't need something from me so frequently. So maybe a break or a step back for even a short period would be a good idea. Especially now that I am confident where MOCC is, and where it is going.
Also now that we have voted on the "ProtegeFest" committee, it might be a good time. I just need a short while.

 

[GerardPRO5]

...it's only a car, and like cars, car clubs and all other things associated with the car will come and go.

think of what really matters. I faced a similar situation a few years back - I was proposing to my girlfriend, I wanted to get a new house, and there were lots of other things going on...and at the same time, I had a sweet 1989 BMW 325i and I did all the usual BMWCCA stuff.

I prioritized. the way I figured, the car and the club will come and go, but the girlfriend (now my wife), the house (now sold)...will always be there. I basically figured that time spent with my girlfriend (at the time) was better than time spent autocrossing or changing other people's oil (literally and figuratively-speaking).

spending time on the board proved to be futile as well, with all the flaming and bitching and constant complaining (not only this board, but the BMW board as well...).

so, I sold the car. stopped going to the board. stopped attending meetings. I was in a world of hurt for a week or two until I bought the Protege5.

now, I balance my time. I'm in love with my car, but I don't love it.


but yeah, don't use the car as your scapegoat. figure out what you want, think about what it will take for you to get there, and do it.

 

[ghost]

Good luck Steph, I also have felt the way you do. Just sit back, and relax for a while. Things always seem to iron out in the end for everyone. You are as passionate for your car, club and people, that at some time that passion turns into an obsession. All you have to do is take a breath and say" Ill let it go for now" get your life in track, and then go full speed ahead. Those guys in MOCC are a tight crew as we are, when times are tough I never stop myself from asking for help from them. Weather its cash, to an ear to listen to me rant, they have been there. As long as you have your family and friends youll be ok no matter what.

Cheer up! and Hugs from the ghost!

 

[srtchick]

Everything nowadayz is all materialistic... but think about bout it u cant take it all with ya when ya gone ya know? do what u feel is right..

 

[richelesro]

I have to put in my two cents...

I had a red '94 touring RX-7 for a couple of years. I loved that car. I worked on it, washed it, babied it. I knew that car inside and out: knew every paint chip, every scratch, every quirk, every rattle. I had the shifting down pat and knew at just what RPM the rear would kick out. It was my baby.

My baby also had a dark side: bling. $6000 a year in just maintenance. Add that to the $4500 in payments, $1200 in insurance, and the gas... At $2.35 a gallon for premium and an 18 gallon tank? Twice a week? We're talking small fortune.

When the oil seals went bad and a new engine was needed I had to sit and decide what I wanted in my life like you are. I spent weeks going over it. I finally came to the conclusion that the time, money, energy, and love that I was putting into the car should go to someone else and I made one of the most difficult decisions I've made in my life. At that time, I didn't know who was going to buy the car, but only that I had to let it go. The comment "At least I'll have mine" hurt all the much more right then.

It was a tough decision. I look back on it and wish I didn't have to make the decision, but it was the right thing to do, even if things didn't pan out the way I would have liked them to. My parents own the car now, and I'm using it as my spare car, but I have to sit behind the wheel and hear the new creaks and see the new chips. Life moves on and the car went to different hands.

There are people who care very much for you and will support you in any decision you make. I know how much the car means to you and I would hate for you to go through what I did unless you absolutely have to. I think I speak for MOCC as a whole when I say that we're here for you; just ask.

 

[turboge]

Steph,

I know this post is not geared towards me, however I believe this can explain.

I'm lying in my bed,
Hear the clock tickin,
I think of you,
Caught up in circles,
Confusion, there's nothing new,
Flashback, warm nights,
Almost left behind,
Suitcase of memories,
Time after...
Sometimes you'll picture me,
I'm walking too far ahead,
You're calling to me,
I can't hear what you say,
And you say, go slow,
I fall behind,
The second hand unwinds....

If you're lost, you can look,
And you will find me,
Time after time,
If you fall, I will catch you,
I will be waiting,
Time after time.

 

[charles]

you mis-spelled confusion

 

[tonkabui]

i love that song.

 

[SpicyMSP]

I think I just need some time by myself to figure out things. I dont even know what I want. How can I expect someone else to.