Need Advice: Roomate crap
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It sucks when you can't keep the house clean because of other people though. I hate coming home from work to a messy place. I just wont have it. That is why I spent so much time in my room at my old house. Like I said before though my room was huge, I had 2 couches in there plus my desk and TV and all that stuff. Whenever girls used to come over we would hang out in there anyway 
Dino - What if you scheduled times for cleaning the house together? Would that work? Then he would know in advance. Do it like on an afternoon, or friday when everyone gets home from work or something. It really only takes like an hour or 2 to do a thorough cleaning of the house.
I used to always volunteer to do the bad jobs just so I knew they would get done right. Plus if anyone bitches about what they have to clean you can retort. Tell them that you just cleaned up a bunch of pubes and s*** that wasnt yours off the toilet and next time if they want you'll switch jobs with them.
Dino - What if you scheduled times for cleaning the house together? Would that work? Then he would know in advance. Do it like on an afternoon, or friday when everyone gets home from work or something. It really only takes like an hour or 2 to do a thorough cleaning of the house.
I used to always volunteer to do the bad jobs just so I knew they would get done right. Plus if anyone bitches about what they have to clean you can retort. Tell them that you just cleaned up a bunch of pubes and s*** that wasnt yours off the toilet and next time if they want you'll switch jobs with them.
Yeah, dude, I had a roomate like that 2 years ago. I ******* hated life.Gbourdon said:
I could TRY, but it's hard because I'm typically out doing stuff, and he goes out sometimes...so it'd be hard to synch that.
Dude, not even. Half hour tops.
Ditto. I actually let R1 PICK who does what, just to give him less reason NOT to do it.
Hahaha, word. Dude, you totally need to move in.
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kick his ass, seabass!
SpeedMcheen
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kooldino, do you rent or own your place?
what about....not bothering him for a few weeks....then hire a Maid to do the work..then give him the bill.
The key...is NOT TO MENTION ANYTHING FOR 2 weeks..or longer...don't say a word. That way R1 does not get aggrivated or pissed. Sorta like when you mother tells you to clean your room...you don't do it just to assert control and/or to piss her off.
The key...is NOT TO MENTION ANYTHING FOR 2 weeks..or longer...don't say a word. That way R1 does not get aggrivated or pissed. Sorta like when you mother tells you to clean your room...you don't do it just to assert control and/or to piss her off.
tiwing - Not a bad idea, but I'd want it done every week, and it wouldn't be worth the money of it all. Plus I really don't mind cleaning, it's such a quick job. It'd take a pro an hour to do all of our chores per week...which would probably amount to ~$150+ per month. Not worth the hassle of HIM not cleaning right.
SpeedMcheen - I own, why?
YP5 - I never really did that as a kid, or I would've gotten my ass beat. And it's not like i tell him to do his cleaning unless it's past due. BUT, I do see your point. It's almost as if he doesn't do it sometimes to spite me.
Only real problem with your plan is that I don't wanna go 2 weeks without having toilet paper in the bathroom and such. Him not doing his chores will inconvenience me.
See, and the thing is - if i DON'T say anythign, he'll bring it up himself and say "Oh, I'll do chores tomorrow". So while I haven't said anything about this time YET, even if I don't he'll probably mention it today or tomorrow and finally do them.
So there won't be a 2 week period straight where he wouldn't do it. He'll do them...but on an 8 or 9 day schedule instead of a 7.
I may ask R2 tonight if he'd mind doing R1's chores for $. R2 is kinda hurtin for cash anyway, and does a great job cleaning. So if R2 is down for it, maybe I'll bring it up to R1 as a "way to help R2 out and not have to do chores".
Not sure if R1 would go for that or not though.
SpeedMcheen - I own, why?
YP5 - I never really did that as a kid, or I would've gotten my ass beat.
And it's not like i tell him to do his cleaning unless it's past due. BUT, I do see your point. It's almost as if he doesn't do it sometimes to spite me.Only real problem with your plan is that I don't wanna go 2 weeks without having toilet paper in the bathroom and such. Him not doing his chores will inconvenience me.
See, and the thing is - if i DON'T say anythign, he'll bring it up himself and say "Oh, I'll do chores tomorrow". So while I haven't said anything about this time YET, even if I don't he'll probably mention it today or tomorrow and finally do them.
So there won't be a 2 week period straight where he wouldn't do it. He'll do them...but on an 8 or 9 day schedule instead of a 7.
I may ask R2 tonight if he'd mind doing R1's chores for $. R2 is kinda hurtin for cash anyway, and does a great job cleaning. So if R2 is down for it, maybe I'll bring it up to R1 as a "way to help R2 out and not have to do chores".
Not sure if R1 would go for that or not though.
he can't be that much of a friend of he is giving you 'tude when you politely ask him to abide by what he agreed to.. plus he is still walking from the front door to his room with shoes on.. those are not hard requests and he is taking the biscuit. 
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Iconoclast
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i got bad news for you
i feel i am the only one qualified to answer this question-being i live w/5 other roomies.
i dont own the place so i am not so lucky to be able to toss them on thier asses
cant kick them out your options r limited since you tried the civil aproach
1. suk it up, u allowed them to move in and if you cant/wont toss them out regardless of thier friendship to you-deal with it
2. put an add in the paper, when you find replacements-send the previous 2 on thier way
3. wait till your lease is up, find a new place, pack your s*** up and bounce
ive been going thru this s*** for almost three years now,and yes if icould move out, ive would have never moved in i didnt really have a choice nor did i know what i was getting into. they only advice i have for EVERYONE reading this is "living with sumone who your not fukking or cant kik out is bulls***" and i s***-u-now, even if it stops for a while, they will start it back up again. these 3 steps r the ONLY choices u have. truthfully
i feel i am the only one qualified to answer this question-being i live w/5 other roomies.
i dont own the place so i am not so lucky to be able to toss them on thier asses
cant kick them out your options r limited since you tried the civil aproach
1. suk it up, u allowed them to move in and if you cant/wont toss them out regardless of thier friendship to you-deal with it
2. put an add in the paper, when you find replacements-send the previous 2 on thier way
3. wait till your lease is up, find a new place, pack your s*** up and bounce
ive been going thru this s*** for almost three years now,and yes if icould move out, ive would have never moved in i didnt really have a choice nor did i know what i was getting into. they only advice i have for EVERYONE reading this is "living with sumone who your not fukking or cant kik out is bulls***" and i s***-u-now, even if it stops for a while, they will start it back up again. these 3 steps r the ONLY choices u have. truthfully
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Wiggles422
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I agree with what MP3intheSTL said earlier, in that I think you should make R2 pay a little bit more for not doing his share of the chores. And for making you and R1 do some of the things that he should be doing. I wouldn't ease up on R2 because then he will keep getting lazier and lazier. You may want to give him a heads up before Friday so that if he knows he has something planned, he can schedule ahead of time. For example when Wednesday rolls along, give him a friendly reminded that chores need to be finished by midnight Friday. Just my $.02, hope it all works out for you!
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Yeah youre right for the most part. Sometimes your friends don't make very good roommates.
After the 5 of us went our seperate ways each one of us got our own one bedroom apartments. Ha ha what does that say to you. And we are all still great friends and always had been.
After the 5 of us went our seperate ways each one of us got our own one bedroom apartments. Ha ha what does that say to you. And we are all still great friends and always had been.
im kinda in the same boat.. rite now.. its me.. my girl and 3 friends in a 4 bedroom house.. 2 of them never clean.. and me, my girl and my other roomie do.. we are all goin our own ways.. the 2 that dont clean are getting their own 1400/mo apt in folsom -=\ and we the other 3 are moving to greenhaven. -=P
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Other than the cleaning thing, is he on time with his rent?
If so it's not worth kicking him out. You might not be so lucky with someone else. But maybe he doesn't want someone telling him when to clean, which is not an excuse because it's your house and he should repect your wishes.
(he is living under your roof). Maybe you just need to sit down with him and a couple of beers. (I would perfer a bucket, but that's just me) and say that it's fine if something comes up and you couldn't clean on Sunday. But insted of sitting around the house pick up a f-ing broom and do your part to help clean.
I had a very good friend live with me for about 6 months. I know him since 3rd grade. He had no car, so I let him use my other car to find a job. (oh ya he didn't have a job either). I didn't make him pay rent until he got a car and got his feet back on the ground. He had a drug problem and I wanted to help him insted of seeing in kill himself. (he smoked crack). But he wreaked my car, never found a job, would bring people I didn't even know into my house and eat my food, and passout and never pick up the mess he made. So finally I had to give him the boot after $1500, a PS2 and all my games were stolen from my bed room which I locked everyday when I left for work.
So I haven't talked to him in about 3 years because I'm an A$$hole.
Sorry, I had to vent.
If so it's not worth kicking him out. You might not be so lucky with someone else. But maybe he doesn't want someone telling him when to clean, which is not an excuse because it's your house and he should repect your wishes.
(he is living under your roof). Maybe you just need to sit down with him and a couple of beers. (I would perfer a bucket, but that's just me) and say that it's fine if something comes up and you couldn't clean on Sunday. But insted of sitting around the house pick up a f-ing broom and do your part to help clean.
I had a very good friend live with me for about 6 months. I know him since 3rd grade. He had no car, so I let him use my other car to find a job. (oh ya he didn't have a job either). I didn't make him pay rent until he got a car and got his feet back on the ground. He had a drug problem and I wanted to help him insted of seeing in kill himself. (he smoked crack). But he wreaked my car, never found a job, would bring people I didn't even know into my house and eat my food, and passout and never pick up the mess he made. So finally I had to give him the boot after $1500, a PS2 and all my games were stolen from my bed room which I locked everyday when I left for work.
So I haven't talked to him in about 3 years because I'm an A$$hole.
Sorry, I had to vent.
Agreed, he tends to be kind of close minded and see things his way a lot. In any situation where he's at fault, he's not good to deal with.ukqueen said:he can't be that much of a friend of he is giving you 'tude when you politely ask him to abide by what he agreed to.. plus he is still walking from the front door to his room with shoes on.. those are not hard requests and he is taking the biscuit.
True, but I just can't.Iconoclast said:
Well, my ONE roomate is fine, the other (R1) is the only one w/ the issue. So I may excercise this option soon if this s*** doesn't stop, and I get a good offer.
30 year lease. :/
Either that, or fine him. :/
