Jealous Girlfriend/Boyfriends?

[Cirielle]

Okay here is the 411 from a chick!

She is insecure. Most women are. But right now she is feeling very insecure and vulnerable. She feels like you can replace her at any moment - with things or friends or activities. She is an irrational train of thought right now.
How long have you been together?
Do you live together?
Have you ever done anything to make her mistrust you?
You probably haven't but I have to ask. I suggest that you do little things at first.
Out of the blue send her flowers. It will make her feel like you care. Oh and by the way, don't do too expensive - as she may think that you are apologizing for something you haven't even done! Put on the card "Just because your wonderful" or something along those lines.
Spend some time with her doing something she likes. Yeah this may suck - but just do it. She will appreciate you more for it. Let her know that your car is awesome, but nothing compared to your relationship!
Tell her out of the blue that her hair looks great (of course make sure it is not on a bad hair day - that will look like a purposeful compliment and then she will question your motives all day).
Just reaffirm her as much as you can. Explain to her that you really are in to the car scene and that you would love for her to be there with you. You would like her support and that you need her. These might help you get her into it!
If none of this works and you really want the relationship to last then I would seek counseling - individual and couple, because it might be more than just about a car or even about your relationship. She may have underlying problems that she or you may not even comprehend.
Good luck!

 

[Cirielle]

It will never work out if she is jealous of an inanimate object. Sit her down, tell her how immature/controling she's acting and whatnot, and how it makes you feel.

Dood, you just don't get women at all. NEVER TELL A WOMAN SHE IS BEING IMMATURE!
You are just asking for problems!
Always talk with a woman and act like the problem she is having is mutual! I.E.
"Honey you mean more to me than my car ever would. I like my car a lot and I would love to have you enjoy my car with me. I understand that you are upset about the time I spend with my car. Is there something I can do to show you that my car is 2nd to you? What is making you feel this way?"
Never use but in this conversation - but makes it seem like she is being irrational. Never in any way state that her feeling are undeserved. Let her know that her feeling are her feeling and that you want to understand those feelings.

 

[PA_MP3_Man]

If none of this works and you really want the relationship to last then I would seek counseling - individual and couple, because it might be more than just about a car or even about your relationship. She may have underlying problems that she or you may not even comprehend.
Good luck! [/B]

If she has problems that could only be solved by counseling run far away man. You don't want to get into that crap. They'll be more problems than you know what to do with.

I spend a lot of time on my car too, as well as many other things. I also live with my G/F now and do many things with her. She knows I love my car and her at the same time. If the girl just can't understand that then it's hard to say what going to happen in the future.

Life would be soo much easier if chicks thought more like guys.

"chicks, can't live with em, and you can't have sex with beer"

 

[DooMer_MP3]

My girl loves applying Meguiars tire gel to my tires to make them shiney after washing . She is into cars as her dad is a mechanic, but jokes with me that I spend too much time on it. But she loves it too and loves driving it. She understands its a HOBBY.

Chris

 

[Cirielle]

Well I have been critisized all my life because I think more like men do!
I love cars, I love hardcore music, I love transformers, I love video games, I have gotten in fist fights with men and come out the victor (though I really do hate to fight as it is not one of the highlights of my teenage-dom), I speak my mind - no innuendo crap - just straight out truth.
And yet what do men think of this..........they fear me! Yeppers. That is right. Most men from what I gather want a women is who is a woman....even with all the crap that comes with it.
Just a disclaimer - I am still a woman though...I still like make-up and other women crap. I don't look like a guy. My hair is medium length and never (except as a baby) been shorter than my shoulders!

Anyways.....If a person is important to you therapy should not matter. And therapy does not mean a person is crazy or has a boat-load of problems. It just means that they need a way to constructively deal with those issues instead of them becoming problems!
Trust me I studied this for 3-1/2 years and worked in the field for 2 years!

 

[JunkPunch]

If you are saying you love her and your car the same amount, there are 2 options:

1) You seriously need to either get some therapy. A person and an inanimate object should not rate the same on the love scale.

2) You don't really love her. Better to realize that now.

I don't mean this as a slam, just being honest. If she said "It's me or the car", would you even have to think about it? If so, leave now and do her and yourself a favor.

 

[LinuxRacr]

Hey man, do a search for these two members: "asianhottie" and "heartbroken"

Your doubts about where this could lead to will be answered. Those are the two screenames my ex used on this forum before she was banned. She sounds just like your girl, but not extreme yet. Cirielle has GREAT advice, but in the event you see that she won't accept you for who your are, get out of that situation before mutual bitterness sets in.

 

[funnylittlman]

T3ase,

Just speak less about the car around her and she'll be fine.

See, my problem is that I ALWAYS talk about my cars (everyone that I know get's annoyed b/c of how much I talk about them). So speak just a little less around her, and she'll start to listen again

If that doesn't work, just smack her! j/k

 

[Sammie2003]

I think You should figure out what means more to you your girlfriend are car meets ,She probaly is not jealous of the car just your time . It sounds like she want's more of it .
I have been through it all !